Award-Winning Documentary “The Keeper of the Keys” Helps People Thrive in Change

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Award-winning self-help film “The KEEPER of the KEYS” can help people thrive in change, said best-selling author and women’s empowerment expert Hueina Su.

Change is in the air. For millions of Americans feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, confused, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, and worried excessively in times of economic downturn and uncertainty can learn how to adapt and thrive in change from an award-winning self-help film “The Keeper of the Keys” featuring best-selling author, inspirational keynote speaker, and personal growth expert Hueina Su.

THE KEEPER OF THE KEYS is the winner of 2012 Indie Fest Award for Best Feature Documentary, blending personal development with funny and entertaining story line, aimed to “take the ‘hell’ out of self-help!”

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is a mindful wellness and women’s empowerment expert, international keynote speaker, certified life coach, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. Su is the president and founder of Beyond Horizon Coaching in Denville, New Jersey, an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing peace and power in their stressful lives. She is a world-class mentor and evolutionary leader inspiring heart-centered, high-achieving professional women and entrepreneurs.

Su said, “2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon, which occurs every 60 years. From a Feng Shui standpoint, the year of the Water Dragon brings many possibilities for good fortune. In Chinese legend, dragons are shape-shifters, and water shares the same shape-shifting property. Water Dragon personifies creativity at its best.”

“So, you can imagine, the year of the Water Dragon is a powerful year of transformation and there’s no coincidence that 2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon. You must learn how to adapt and thrive in change, and The Keeper of the Keys can provide inspiration and strategies for that,” Su added.

Highly acclaimed by Spiritual Cinema Circle co-founder Stephen Simon as the most innovative and entertaining film of its kind ever made, The Keeper of The Keys is featured as its April 2012 movie of the month to its members in 65 countries worldwide. Simon praises one of the stars Hueina Su for her insights and contributions in the film.

Simon was very impressed by Su’s message of faith, self-love, and authenticity in the film. Simon said, “Hueina, as one of the stars of the film, you are one of major reasons that it is so wonderful…your insights, and the compassionate way that you communicate them, are beautiful and deeply meaningful….thanks so much for your contribution to what I believe is the best film of its kind that I have ever seen– and, yes, that includes The Secret!“

In this scene from THE KEEPER of THE KEYS movie, Su shares the key of faith and her inspiring life-changing story of self-love and courage. Watch the teaser trailer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8ADkSFj6Xo

For more information about The Keeper of the Keys movie, visit http://www.hueinasu.com/the-keeper-of-the-keys-movie

The movie DVD and other products are available at http://www.HueinaSu.com/Store

To learn how to navigate change with grace and ease, visit http://www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching
Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing peace and power in their stressful lives. Su is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, certified life coach, transformational leader of The Venus Evolution, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others and the upcoming Peaceful Power: A Prescription for Long-Lasting Inner Peace, True Happiness and Unstoppable. She is on a mission to empower one million women nurturers to nurture themselves and create a life of their choice.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for mindful wellness, stress management, and women’s empowerment through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services. She is the creator of Rx for Balance (TM), The Coaching Oasis (TM), Nurture and Grow Rich (TM), The Venus Evolution (TM) and Mindful Wellness Coaching for Cancer Survivors programs.

Su is a co-star in an award-winning personal development movie “The Keeper of the Keys” with Jack Canfield, creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul® series and star of “The Secret” movie, Marci Shimoff, New York Times best-selling author of “Happy for No Reason” and star of “The Secret” movie, and John Gray, New York Times best-selling author of “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” and star of “The Secret” movie.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s keynote speaking, coaching, training, consulting and products visit www.HueinaSu.com.

Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos are available at www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

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Navigate Change with Grace and Ease

2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon, which occurs every 60 years. From a Feng Shui standpoint, the year of the Water Dragon brings many possibilities for good fortune. In Chinese 5 elements theory, water produces wood, which signifies growth and is the natural element of the dragon. Dragons are the most powerful mystical creatures in the Chinese culture, and legend has it that the emperor that rules the 7 seas is the dragon. In Chinese legend, dragons are shape-shifters, and water shares the same shape-shifting property. Water Dragon personifies creativity at its best. So, you can imagine, the year of the Water Dragon is a powerful year of transformation and there’s no coincidence that 2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon. What does this all mean to you? Great shifts are on the horizon and there’s no escaping from it. If you think last year was tough with a lot of shifts, changes and break-downs, this year will be even more intense! Buckle up and prepare for an exciting ride! Bottom Line: You must learn how to adapt and thrive in change. When you’re faced with change, are you excited and confident? Or, are you stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap? I am hosting a FREE Teleseminar tomorrow to teach you how to navigate change with grace, ease, confidence and peace of mind.

Navigating Change with Grace and Ease FREE Teleseminar You will learn: What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon One critical mindset shift you must make right now The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence The 2 saving grace that will overcome any fears 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks 3 mistakes you must avoid if you want to thrive in change How to be victorious despite ANY adversity Date: Tuesday May 15 Time: 1 pm ET (12 pm Central, 10 am Pacific) Cost: there’s no cost to attend *We will record the Teleseminar for you.

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Are You Frozen in Fear in the Face of Change?

Lately it seems like everyone I talk to is facing some kind of change or transition. According to Buddha, “The only constant in life is change.” Change is a part of life and there’s NO escaping from it. You’d think that we should be really great at it with all the “practices” we’ve had in our lives, career/business, relationships, health etc. However, most people are really inept in coping with change.

Instead of feeling excited and confident about change, most people are stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap. Some admit they are frozen in fear, like they are standing (or HANGING) at the edge of a cliff, and any mis-step could result in a horrible death. They just stand there, unable to breathe, unable to move. Can you relate to this?

I know that feeling so well because I’ve been there many times. Now, I have thrived in many dramatic changes in my life, such as moving from Asia to the U.S. in my twenties (speaking little English and knowing almost no one); thriving in many industries (ranging from nursing, counseling, consulting, coaching, education, nonprofit management, freelance, small business & sales etc); living in 4 states in 6 calendar years with two babies in tow; coping with my husband’s job loss when he was the sole bread-winner and we had a house and 2 kids under age 4; winning Black Belt and 10 gold medals in my 30s and 40s despite injuries and fears; recovering from various illnesses and surgeries…

You get the picture. I’ve been through A LOT of changes, I’ve had to start over many times, and I’m REALLY good at thriving in change. In addition, I’ve had 24 years of experience in nursing, counseling and coaching, where I’ve helped people going through all sorts of challenges and difficult changes in their lives, such as job loss, cancer, death of loved ones, divorce, financial crisis, depression, suicide, etc. You name it, I’ve seen it all.

Even so, I’m not immune to fear. In fact, I’ve had many frozen-in-fear, on-my-knees moments.

When you are faced with change, you need to think clearly, make the right decisions, and take swift actions. However, when fear grabs you by your throat and your emotions hijack your mind, all you can see is worse-case scenarios. Like the cliff-hanger, you try to hang on to what you think is safe with a death grip (pun intended), not knowing what you perceive to be safe (i.e. hanging on to the cliff) might ultimately lead to your demise.

I was reminded of this lesson recently when I almost turned down perhaps the greatest opportunity for my business. I was extremely anxious about the risks involved, what would other people think, what if I made a mistake and failed, etc. UNTIL my coach reminded me to focus on the opportunities, not the risks. It’s like a boulder lifted off my chest and I can finally breathe and seize the opportunity. When you are frozen in fear, you need someone who can see objectively point out the right direction for you. A professional coach such as myself can do that.

As the famous quote by John Burroughs goes, “Leap and the net will appear.” Learn to trust yourself and have faith in the Universe. When you leap in faith, the net will appear, or you might realize you’ve been wearing a parachute on your back all along. But, you’ll never know until you take the leap.

If you are too afraid to take a giant leap of faith right now, take a baby step instead. Any action is better than staying stuck. Remember the cliff-hanger — the longer you wait, you’ll have less options and more risks. So, make a DECISION and take ACTION now. What’s one baby step you can take today?

If you are having challenges going through change in your life, career/business, relationship and/or health, make sure you sign up for my upcoming FREE Teleseminar “Navigating Change with Grace and Ease” now.

In this Teleseminar you will learn:

• What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon (2012)
• The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence
• The 2 things that will overcome any fears while you’re going through change
• 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks
• 3 pitfalls you must avoid
• How to be victorious despite ANY adversity
  

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Is Your Perfectionism Keeping You Stuck?

If you are a high-achiever, you always aim for excellence and achievement. You don’t mind working extra hard, going the extra mile in order to achieve your goals. However, in the name of pursuing excellence, it’s very common for high-achievers to fall prey to perfectionism. There’s a fine line between being excellent and being perfect. The desire to be excellent motivates you to move forward and be the best you can be. On the flip side, the need to be perfect fills you with anxiety and self-doubt, runs you ragged and keeps you stuck.

Your Inner Perfectionist may sound like this:

• I have to be perfect OR ELSE!
• If I’m not perfect, I’m a complete failure.
• People are waiting for me to fail and they will laugh at me.
• I’m not trying hard enough, otherwise I would’ve been perfect.
• Why can’t I pull it off like “everybody else”? What’s wrong with me?
• If I’m not perfect, nobody will love me.
• I can’t afford to make any mistakes.
• I have to be the best in everything I do.
• I’m so afraid of making the wrong choices or wrong moves that I’ve lost confidence in myself.
• If I can’t make it perfect (or, If I’m not sure I can succeed), why do I even bother getting started?
• If I don’t finish it, I won’t have to find out how imperfect (what a loser) I am.

Does it sound familiar? How does reading these statements make you FEEL – physically and emotionally? Do you tend to set impossibly high standards for yourself (and others) and beat yourself up over and over for not reaching your goals? If you feel anxious, frustrated, stuck in analysis paralysis, chest tightening, hyperventilating, paralyzed by fear of failure, with an extra dose of self-doubt or even self-loathing, you are probably a perfectionist. And the higher your aspirations are, the more severely affected you would be by perfectionism. The more successful you are, the more problematic perfectionism would manifest in your life, your health, your relationships and career/business.

Be honest: Is your Inner Perfectionist running you ragged these days? I know, because I’ve been there myself.

Last week I was invited by my Taiwanese sister Andrea J. Lee to speak via video at her 2012 The Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea asked me to share my experience in The Keeper of the Keys movie (which I costar with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff), and offer advice for attendees who are considering a movie project like this in the future.

If you are in the coaching & personal development industry, you’d know it’s a great honor to be included in Andrea’s Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea is known for teaching thought leaders on how to stay ahead of the curve, make money AND meaning via innovation. Her annual Wealthy Thought Leader event (it’s her 4th this year) in Vancouver, B.C. always attracts high-caliber speakers and thought leaders from all over the world. So, imagine my joy and surprise when I got a message from Andrea inviting me to share my experience at her event. And since she asked for a video sharing, I don’t even have to worry about flying over there. I was so excited!

There’s only one caveat: I got Andrea’s email on Sunday night, asking me if I can send her my video by Tuesday, or the latest Wednesday (her event starts on Thursday morning).

“Oh, I wish I had more time to work on this!!” my Inner Perfectionist piped up right away.

I assured her, “That’s okay, it’s only a very short video (5 min) and we can make it.” She insisted, “But, Hueina, this is your very first contact with Andrea’s community, and there will be so many accomplished thought leaders there. You want to make a perfect first impression. It’s very important, you know.” Well, first impression IS important. I can’t argue with that!

Then, my Inner Good Girl chimed in, “And Hueina, it’s such an honor that Andrea asked you to do this. It’s important to her and you don’t want to disappoint her.” The Inner Good Girl is the one who always wants to be a “good girl” and do good. She is all concerned about being proper, doing things right and making others happy (often at the cost of her own well-being). I started to feel a little pressure on my chest. Well, I do want to give Andrea and her community a great video that brings value to them; however, I do not want to get stressed out over this.

Been there, done there. Not again.

Instead, my intention was to make this video with JOY and offer it as my gift to Andrea and her community. I wanted to have a little FUN in the process as well (fun is one of my highest core values). Knowing the persuasive power of my Inner Perfectionist, and fully aware of my time constraints, I made a deal with her right off the bat. I told her that I agreed with her that we wanted to present a high-quality video that represents me well, and brings high value for Andrea’s community. On the other hand, I made it clear to her that we needed to stick to my schedule and honor my other business and family commitments (and it goes without saying that I would keep my self-care as well). AND, I wanted to aim for being professional and authentic, NOT perfect.

With the ground rules set, I looked at my business and family schedule, and picked out a couple small blocks of time for this project. I knew I most likely won’t be able to record and edit the video in one sitting. Trying to do everything all at once would probably tire me out. On the other hand, I knew I had to give myself and my Inner Perfectionist a deadline, otherwise I’ll be spending WAY too much time and energy working on “perfecting” the video. Can you relate to this?

So, my Inner Perfectionist and I went to work – first in our head, planning out what we’d like to share based on Andrea’s questions. As it turned out, it’s not easy to condense all I wanted to share in 5 minutes, without feeling rushed or speaking at a frantic pace (that wouldn’t be peaceful or powerful, would it?) The creative in me had so many ideas, and I wouldn’t and couldn’t settle for a boring “talking head” video. So, I decided to include a snippet of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer, and used a short clip of my segment in the movie to illustrate my point of telling deeply personal story in a powerful way. By the way, that’s how you can connect with the audience, stand out and be memorable.

I was excited by this new idea, so I planned out the video and recorded my speaking part. Next is the editing part – stringing everything together. Of course, every step of the way, my Inner Perfectionist was by my side, relentlessly reminding me to be perfect and fiercely pointing out my flaws. Every time she did that, I thanked her for trying to help and patiently but firmly reminded her the ground rules we’ve agreed on. Reminding myself my intention to bring value instead of trying to create a perfect video really helped. When I used up the time I’ve set for myself to complete this project, I saved the video, and sent it to Andrea right away. She told me she loved the video and they way I’ve designed it, with commentary and snippets of the movie trailer as well as my story. When she showed the video at The Wealthy Thought Leader event last Friday, I got so many praises and accolades from the live audience as well as simulcast attendees. Even days after I still got messages from Facebook thanking me for my sharing.

So, what can you learn from my experience? Here are 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism:

1. When opportunity knocks, you need to take decisively swift action. Successful people are action-takers. The rule of thumb is, ALWAYS SAY YES first, then figure out how to get it done.

2. Set a clear intention before you commit to or start a new project. What do you intend to achieve as the end result? (hint: aim for anything but absolute perfection.) Also, what do you intend to experience in the process and as a result of this project? For example, joy, fun, connecting with others, learning something new, making a difference, feeling proud of yourself, etc.

3. Set a clear time frame for you to work on the project. This is for you if you have a tendency to not finish your project, procrastinate like crazy, or spend FOREVER trying to make it perfect.

4. Before you start anything, set ground rules for yourself and your Inner Perfectionist, and firmly reinforce these rules. In my coaching, I teach my clients specific ways to communicate with their Inner Perfectionists and turn them into helpers, not tyrants who boss them around until they are totally run down.

5. Acknowledge and praise yourself for your efforts and progress (no matter how little), not just the end result. Practice loving kindness and Intensive Self-Care.

6. Know that your Inner Perfectionist (with her magnifying glass and white cotton gloves) is probably the only one who can see your flaws. To other people, you are probably quite amazing.

7. Remember, good enough is good enough. If you are offering something (be it your words or gifts of any kind), as long as it’s from your heart and you have done your best, it’s more than good enough.

So there you have it. My 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism. There’s no extra charge for the typos.

Here’s the video I shared at The Wealthy Thought Leader event, which included snippets of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer and MY segment in the movie. Check it out!!

If the video player does not work, use this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nt10J1VljxE

P.S. If you are stumped by perfectionism, you might have other Invisible Chaos too! Sign up for my FREE Claim Your Peaceful Power Success Activation Kit and learn how to tame your Invisible Chaos for lasting inner peace, joy and true confidence.

P.P.S. You can order The Keeper of the Keys DVD on my website here.

How to Find Peace When You Feel Out of Control

There are times when you feel like your life is going against your best intention or planning, and you are losing control. It’s easy to feel anxiety, fear, self-doubt, anger and other strong emotions. How do you find inner peace when many things seem to be out of your control? That’s the lesson I’ve been learning this past week – from an unexpected cold that felt like the flu, teenage driver and a school bomb threat.

Early last week, my daughter came home from school, sick as a dog. She is usually very healthy, so this was unusual for her. The weather has been very unstable recently, and colds and flu are going around. As a seasoned Dr. Mom, I immediately whipped out all my powerful healing tools, including Young Living Essential Oils and ZeroPoint bio-energetic lasers and intention stones to help her balance and reset her bio-energetic system, boost her immunity, and lesson her discomfort (I’ll share about these AMAZING healing tools with you in the near future). She fell asleep in the middle of the bio-energetic reset protocol, and after a few hours of deep sleep, woke up feeling MUCH better.

Meanwhile, I myself was feeling a little bit under the weather that day. After tending to my daughter, I started to go down the hill, FAST. Care-giving is very straining, physically and emotionally, as I had experienced and shared in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul. Still, I was fighting the cold with every ounce of my strength and will. I did NOT want to get sick at all. I did all the holistic and bio-energetic healing protocols that I used on my daughter, but, I was not feeling better.

I was dragging myself for about two days, trying to get things done in my business and around the house. I couldn’t control my body, which frustrated me big time. At the same time, I was beating myself up for getting sick and losing precious time. I got frustrated and angry that those healing tools did not work as effective this time. The worked wonders before. So, what’s wrong with ME? My “Evil Stepsister” chimed in: “What a disgrace! You’re an expert in self-care and mindful wellness. How can you get sick?! What will other people think when they find out?!” And my “Evil Stepmother” called me lazy, when I decided not to send out my e-zine last Friday. I was like, “WHOA, time out! I’m not lazy! I’m not feeling well and I deserve to rest.”

It finally dawned on me that I was resisting the reality, instead of being in the present moment and accepting “what is”. What you resist, persists. I was fighting with the reality that I had a bad cold and I needed (and deserved) to rest. In addition, the false belief that “I shouldn’t get sick at all” robbed my inner peace and created more stress in my physical and emotional body. No wonder none of those healing tools worked. No wonder I wasn’t getting better.

The reality is, I’m ill, and it’s OK to be ill from time to time. I’m only human, and this is part of the human experience. When I finally accepted what is without judgment, I told my Evil Stepmother and Stepsister to shut up, closed my office and allowed myself to rest as much as I could. My body responded and began to heal. It’s taken longer than I thought, and I’ve learned that you can’t rush healing. Everyone’s body is different. I’m learning to be more patient and kind to myself.

The second lesson came last weekend, when my daughter finished her 6-hour driving lessons and got her driving permit. I don’t know where “teenage driver” ranks on the top 10 stress and anxiety list, but I’m guessing it’s pretty high for any parent. She was over-the-moon excited and ready to get on the road, but, I was far from ready. My husband is braver than I am. He took her out driving around town the next day, and even let her drive him to school (only 2 blocks from home) on Monday. Both the driving instructor and my husband said that she did a great job, although I was still skeptical. In my mind, she is still my little baby girl. She only has 6 hours of lesson. Can she really drive on the road? Shouldn’t we be practicing in an empty parking lot (for a few months) first?

The next day, I was going to pick up my son from school when she enthusiastically asked, “Mommy, can I drive?” My first reaction was, “You want to drive my minivan? Are you sure? It’s much bigger than daddy’s car.” I wanted to say no, but, knowing that it was my fear talking, I decided to say yes instead. How will she be able to learn and get good at driving, if I don’t give her a chance? Here’s an opportunity for me to check what she has learned and teach her what I know. So, we got on the road, as I tried as hard as I could to look calm and relaxed. The worst thing I could do was to make her nervous by being a nervous wreck myself. To my surprise, even though she was brand new to driving, she had a fairly stable handle on the steering wheel, and she was being very careful. I’ve seen some new drivers who are much more nervous and unstable than she is. We drove all the way to school, picked up my son, and to my surprise, I offered for her to drive all of us to the grocery store too, which is on the opposite side of the town.

When we got home safely from the grocery store, she happily exclaimed, “YAY! We are ALIVE!” and I replied “Hallelujah!!” and we all laughed. Apparently she needs a lot more practice on braking and gauging the distance for turning, changing lanes, etc. but she will get better with time and practice, and I can help her with that. As long as my husband or I stay in the car with her, I think she can do well and stay safe. Come September she will get her full drivers license, and she won’t need us to drive with her. The thought of her driving somewhere without us or any grownup supervision is still nerve-wrecking for me, but, I’m going to take it one step at a time. Right now, there’s still a lot I can do to help her get ready. So when that day comes, and she goes out without me, hopefully she will remember what I’ve taught her and know what to do to keep herself safe.

As if a teenage driver is not nerve-wrecking enough, my 3rd lesson came yesterday, when I got a voicemail from the superintendent of my son’s school district that my son’s middle school was in lockdown. Half an hour later, the 2nd voicemail came, saying the lockdown was over, police just left and the kids were going to lunch. There was no explanation of WHY the school was locked down and I was visiting a Buddhist/Taoist temple in New York City when this happened, which means it would’ve taken me a few hours before I could get to my son’s school. As it turned out, the school was locked down due to a bomb threat!! In fact, they received 2 bomb threats 2 days in a row. Talk about nerve-wrecking!! Fortunately, all is well, and the police will be monitoring the campus for the next couple of weeks.

As I shared this incident on Facebook, I found out from one of my co-stars in “The Keeper of the Keys” movie Laura Carpenter-Vobornik that her daughters go to Chardon High School where the shootings shocked the nation on February 27 (fortunately her daughters are safe). The severity of the bomb threat in my son’s school slowed sunk in. It was so surreal to think that something so terrible could happen in your child’s school, and yet, I realized that we are all vulnerable to random violence, accidents and unspeakable tragedies like the Chardon shootings. In my case, there were several blessings, though. First and foremost, the bomb threat was a false alarm. Second, I somehow didn’t hear the first call, so, I got both voicemail messages at the same time (after the lockdown was over). If I had gotten the first message right away, I would’ve freaked out!! Last but not least, because I was at the temple, I was able to pray to the Tao/Buddha and surrender my fears to him. That made a huge difference! Even though I didn’t know the details about the lockdown, I got the peace of mind knowing that he is safe and all is well.

The next morning after he went to school, I got that panic feeling again, worrying whether they will have another bomb threat or lockdown. Again, I had to spend extra time in meditation and surrender to the Divine.

This, I realized, is a process I’ll need to repeat, over and over.

So, how do you find peace when you feel out of control? I hope you take away a few lessons from my story:

1. Accept what is without judgment. It’s no use to argue, deny or reject the reality. Resisting it will only create more resistance, stress, anxiety, anger or destructive behaviors. Blaming yourself or others will not help, either.

2. You can’t rush things. Everything works on divine timing, not on your schedule. Sometimes despite your best efforts, you don’t seem to get anywhere. But, if you stick to it a little longer, you’ll have a breakthrough or another door will open. Learn to be patient and trust the process.

3. Do your best and surrender the rest. You can only do your best. When things are not going according to your plan, and you are feeling out of control, know that there is a higher purpose in everything. Learn to trust that everything is in divine order and things will work out for your highest good, even when it appears the opposite.

4. Be patient and kind to yourself. Beating yourself up does not help the situation. If you’re not feeling well, do whatever you need to heal yourself. By all means, take a nap if you need to. Take your time. Your health is the top priority for your own well-being and your long-term success. Remember, you are irreplaceable!

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