A Perfect Mother’s Day Gift for Moms Who Take Care of Everyone But Themselves

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What would you give to your mom this Mother’s Day? Flowers are always appreciated… although they only last a few days. Chocolate is awesome… although it could add to her waistline (not so awesome).  A piece of beautiful jewelry or trinket? Also wonderful, but may or may not have much meaning, let alone any long-lasting benefits for mom.

What could you give to your mom, the woman who gave LIFE to you, took care of you around the clock when you were little (all those late-night feedings, fevers, throw-ups), sacrificed SO much for you over the years, and STILL trying to take care of you & guide you long after you’re all grown up?

When I pondered on this, there are probably very few (material) gifts that are truly worthy of our own mom, when we think about how much she has done for us and how much she means to us.

Then I thought about what I wish for my mom…

I wish she could learn how to take better care of herself and NOT feel guilty about it. I wish she knew how worthy of love she is, just by being herself — without having to do anything for anyone in order to prove her worth or win other people’s love & approval. I wish she could love herself unconditionally, instead of trying to get that love from someone else. 

I have a gut feeling that you might have some of these same wishes for your mom, or for YOURSELF, or maybe for your own daughter or granddaughter…

Am I right?

If you’re nodding your head, I’d like to suggest a Mother’s Day gift that could help your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones fulfill these wishes. I’d like to offer you a gift can and will keep on giving, to your mom who keeps giving SO much of herself, year after year. Would you like to hear what it is?

It is a book called Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know this is written by me. :) I wrote this book, because as a former RN, a wife, and a working mother of two, I have experienced first-hand how challenging it is to joggle taking care of a growing family, a full-time career/business, and aging parents. I’ve seen it, over and over, in my nursing colleagues, my coaching clients who are mostly high-achieving working moms, my own extended family full of medical professionals, and my friends who are family caregivers.

It’s all too easy to feel stressed, overwhelmed, or downright burned out, and taking care of yourself becomes… well, not only on the back burner, but it’s not even on the burner any more.

When you are not taking care of yourself adequately, your own health, energy and mood suffer greatly, then it affects your productivity, career, relationships and EVERYTHING ELSE. Can you relate?

I know most people KNOW intellectually how important it is to improve their self-care and manage stress, but it is simply very difficult for them to actually implement in their own lives. That’s where my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul comes in.

I intentionally wrote it in a VERY EASY to read format, that combines timeless principles, real life stories (of myself and my clients), and simple yet powerful action steps you (or your mom) can apply immediately in your own life. Because, let’s face it, with the kind of stressful and crazy-busy schedule you have, who has the time to read long, dry, difficult-to-implement how-to books on stress management?

This is more than a book. It’s an interactive guidebook filled with insights and powerful tools to prevent caregiver burnout. Each chapter comes with an interactive Self-Coaching Session, so you can personalize your learning and choose action steps that are JUST RIGHT FOR YOU.

If you (or your mom) often feel stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, with no time or energy to take care of yourself, or do what you enjoy doing…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel very guilty taking time to take care of yourself…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel resentful, angry or sad for giving so much and taking care of everybody else EXCEPT yourself…

OR, if your (or your mom’s) health, energy level or mood are suffering greatly, and you are worried…

Then, I highly recommend that you order my book and dig in ASAP.

Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT GIFT for Mother’s Day or any day — for moms, grandmas, nurses, teachers, therapists, family caregivers, and anyone who is in the role of taking care of other people.

But, don’t just take my word for it. Please check out what other people who have read my book said about it here: www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com On this page, you will find more info about my book and how to order it for your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones.

Some of the topics I explore in the book include:

  • Recognizing Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome and what to do about it
  • Resolve the feeling of overwhelm
  • Finding joy and serenity in the present moment
  • Restore peace and calm when life is spinning out of control
  • Creating life balance to avoid caregiver burnout
  • How to clear out emotional clutter for lasting inner peace
  • Finding peace in the face of death and grieving

Again, it’s an interactive guidebook that will give your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones timeless insights, real life stories, as well as practical tools & action steps you can immediately implement in your own life.

It’s a meaningful Mother’s Day gift that will keep giving to your beloved mom, who keeps giving and giving to everyone.

It’s time for her to take better care of herself and give HERSELF some of that love and TLC she so generously gives to EVERYONE else. Don’t you agree?

The link to order the book is www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com. If you’re in a hurry, you can also order it from Amazon and choose 2-day shipping.

Please use this link to order from Amazon, because when you order from this link, a part of the proceeds will go to Indrani’s Light Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to end violence against women. It’s our way to help make the world a better place for ALL. Thank you for your support!

“Intensive Self-Care is NOT being selfish,

and it’s NOT a luxury,

but rather an essential practice for your survival

and overall well-being.”

— Hueina Su

I hope you’ll order my book for your mom, yourself, and/or your loved ones who are taking care of everyone and need to take better care of themselves. It is a great gift that could change their lives for the better. And you know what? When mom feels better, EVERYONE ELSE benefits too!

If you are a mother, I wish you so much LOVE and JOY for a very Happy Mother’s Day. Pamper yourself. Do whatever your heart desires. You are worth it! Let’s strive to be champion and role model of Intensive Self-Care for our children. :) 

Until next time, remember to take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable!

Love, Peace & Joy,

Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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[VIDEO] New Moon, Solar Eclipse and What to Do When You Feel Anxious or Lost During a Major Life or Career Transition

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Are you going through a major personal or career transition, and feeling very anxious, frustrated or lost? Are you beating yourself up for not progressing as quickly as you’d like to? Are you having a confidence crisis or identity crisis? So many of my coaching clients & colleagues are going through very challenging, major life or career transitions right now.

Tonight we have a New Moon and Solar Eclipse. You may or may not be aware that we are going through a HUGE energetic shift right now — a portal to release what no longer serves us, so we can move forward in our journey. I felt called to make this video for you, and I hope you’d find it helpful.

Here is the video:

As I mentioned in the video, I’ve helped many high-achieving women navigate this type of major life or career transitions, and I’ve gone through a few cycles of such “Metamorphosis” myself. So, I can relate, and I know how to help. If you are going through similar challenges, and would like to explore coaching with me, visit my website here to learn more and sign up for a complimentary Initial Consultation. 

Please like & share this video with anyone who might benefit from my message. Thanks!

Until next time, please remember to take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable. Sending you so much love.

 

P.S. You can sign up for a complimentary Initial Consultation with me here: www.hueinasu.com/offerings

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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What do you see when you look at your old self?

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What do you see when you look at your old self? I hope you look at her with much love and compassion… You have come a long way, my dear. No matter what you think you should have or shouldn’t have done in your past, please know that you did your best with what you knew back then. We can only do our best. Nothing more. Beating yourself up or holding grudges against others will only keep you stuck in the victim mode, feeling disempowered and sorry for yourself.

Allow yourself to fully feel those strong emotions… anger, hatred, resentment, shame, blame, sadness, disappointment, despair, regrets, worthlessness, any judgment against yourself. Have a good cry. Scream. Punch or kick a pillow. Break a glass. Whatever you need to do to FEEL the feelings and LET IT OUT. Don’t hold back… Let it all out. When you can truly allow yourself to FEEL those feelings, they will dissipate and be released, instead of being stuck in your body.

After you let your feelings out, it’s great to do some emotional healing rituals. I’ll be writing more about this topic. If you need ideas, send me a message.

Forgive yourself. Send love, light and blessings to your old self. You didn’t know better back then. But you know better now, and you can do better this time around.

It is time to move forward, my dear. You can do it. I believe in you.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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[Video] My Unconventional Valentine’s Day Wish for You

Chinese New Year’s day and Super Bowl are behind us, you know what’s coming up next… Valentine’s Day! It’s a day to celebrate romantic love, and depending where you are in your life or in your relationship, the thought of celebrating Valentine’s Day can be passionate and exciting, OR it can cause a lot of anxiety and stress. Or maybe a little bit of both.

Whether you’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day with a loved one or not, I’d like to offer you this very unconventional & very personal Valentine’s Day wish for you. This is a video I made a few years ago. I remember I was driving home from doing my annual Chinese New Year’s presentation at my son’s school (hence the traditional Chinese dress), and suddenly felt very compelled to make a video to share this message. I got home and made this video right away. No rehearsal. Just straight from my heart.

When I watched it again today, the message is still very poignant and true. I believe this would make a great Valentine’s Day message for you, especially if you have ever felt like you are “not good enough”, “can’t fit in”, “can’t measure up” and “there’s something wrong with me”…. This message is for YOU.

You see, growing up, I’ve always felt there’s something wrong with me and I couldn’t fit in or measure up. Trying to be a “Good Girl” is incredibly stressful and sometimes very demoralizing. Until a few years ago, I made this one decision and EVERYTHING changed…

What was that one decision, you ask? That’s what I wanted to share with you in this video. I hope you enjoy it. I’d love to hear from you after you watch it. Please feel free to share it with anyone who needs this message today. Namaste. <3

Happy Valentine’s Day!! Don’t forget to celebrate YOU as well. I’m sending you so much love…

Watch the video here or click on the image below.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Alignment, Metamorphosis & Second New Beginning

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It’s been a long while since I wrote to you, and I hope this finds you well. Today is the first day of Chinese New Year of the Fire Monkey (traditionally, we celebrate for 15 days), and also a powerful Aquarian New Moon. Needless to say, new beginning is on my mind.

I’ve always appreciated the fact that Chinese New Year falls on a different date from the Western New Year. Instead of starting the new year on January 1st, Chinese New Year usually starts somewhere in late January to early February. Since it follows the Lunar Calendar, it always coincides with a new moon, which makes it an even more powerful day for a new beginning.

What does it mean to you, my dear? If, for whatever reason, your 2016 didn’t take off the way you’d imagined, no worries. Now you get a second chance to hit the “REBOOT” button and begin the new year again! Isn’t that awesome? :)

To harness the powerful energy of the Fire Monkey and Aquarian New Moon, it’s a great idea to spend some time today to tune in, center yourself, and set your intention for the year. Choosing a theme word for the year is a powerful way to anchor your intention and focus for the year.

Did you choose a theme word for this year? Alignment is my theme word for 2016. Alignment in my body, mind, heart, soul, as well as any external expression in my life and business. I intend to love myself completely, embrace my unique beauty, and LIVE MY TRUTH.

Last year, my theme was Self-Love, and that will continue indefinitely. Yes, self-love is a life-long practice, just like self-care, just like any spiritual practice. Last year, I gave myself PERMISSION to go on a year-long journey of SELF-DISCOVERY, SELF-LOVE and SACRED SELF-CARE. What a difference a year has made!!

I feel like a different person… a calmer, wiser, more compassionate, self-loving, truer version of myself. I’ve re-connected with the Divine, with my True Self, and returned from my journey — my Metamorphosis — with renewed energy & purpose.

I’m very grateful for the intense INNER WORK I’ve done for myself, with the help of my coaches and soul sisters (I couldn’t have done it by myself). I’m very grateful that I gave myself PERMISSION and TIME to go through my own Metamorphosis. As I’ve made powerful inner transformations and breakthroughs, miracles happened in my outer reality too!! When I reviewed what happened in my life last year, I was BLOWN AWAY by some of the miracles that I knew wouldn’t have happened, if I hadn’t done my INNER WORK to “clear the way”.

The truth is, I can’t stress how important INNER WORK is. Without taking the time & efforts to do the inner work, you can not create powerful and sustainable changes in the outer reality. You simply can’t.

The metamorphosis of butterflies is probably one of THE most amazing transformations in nature. Before a caterpillar can transform into a butterfly, it must first morph into a chrysalis. Inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar must completely DISSOLVE its old self and RE-CREATE itself as a butterfly. On the surface, the chrysalis is motionless and doesn’t even look alive. But on the inside, the most radical, most amazing transformation is taking place. The chrysalis stage is THE most critical and powerful stage in the butterfly’s life cycle.

The INNER WORK we do in coaching is like the chrysalis stage in the butterfly’s metamorphosis. Without the chrysalis — and the INNER WORK that the caterpillar does inside the chrysalis — there will be no butterfly.

By the way, it’s almost impossible to do the kind of transformational, Metamorphosis-Level INNER WORK without the help of coaches, mentors and/or spiritual teachers. I can attest to that, and I’m sure anyone who has gone through a Metamorphosis would concur with me.

My old self — the Type-A Overachiever — only wanted to focus on DOING & ACHIEVING. She would get very impatient and SELF-JUDGING when she didn’t see outer results. She relied on her brilliant left-brain, logic, hard work and sheer WILL POWER to MAKE IT HAPPEN — whatever IT is. It was a surefire path to self-abuse and burnout. Can you relate?

Now I know better. Now I’m much more loving, compassionate and kind toward myself — and everyone else. I take better care of myself — physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually — as I continue to take care of my family, my friends and my clients. I have more peace, spaciousness and beauty in my life and my environment. I have more to give to others and I’m not giving from a place of being a martyr or victim. I have certain non-negotiable self-care practices, and I don’t feel guilty taking care of myself any more.

Another huge difference is that instead of relying on my left-brain and will power, I’ve learned how to TUNE IN to Divine guidance and my own inner wisdom. It’s a much gentler, peaceful yet more powerful way of BEING and ACHIEVING things. 

Can you resonate with what I said? What is your intention for this year?

Are you longing to love & accept yourself, take better care of yourself without guilt, heal your past, re-connect with who you truly are (instead of who you think you “should” be), embrace & express your unique beauty, and create a life that is self-loving, joyful, fulfilling and fully aligned with WHO YOU ARE?

Would you like to take a year-long transformational journey (aka your own Metamorphosis) with me as your coach & wisdom guide? This year I’m taking a few select women on a year-long journey with me. If your heart is whispering (or shouting) a resounding YES, please listen…. Your heart will never steer you wrong.

Remember, no matter what has or has not happened in the past, you can always begin AGAIN…

If you would like more information or explore the possibility of working with me as your coach, sign up here and I will be happy to set up a time to talk with you.

Peace & Joy,
Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Cosmic 2×4, Staying Strong and Vulnerability

Cheryl Richardson gratitude for the cosmic rug-pulling

I love this quote from Cheryl Richardson: “There will come a day when you look back in gratitude for the cosmic rug-pulling that brought you here.” Yes, the gratitude will come, eventually, when we have learned the lesson and found the blessings in disguise. However, when something (or multiple things) causes you to lose your footing by surprise — whether it’s a slight stumble, or what feels like a free fall down the Grand Canyon — it’s hard not to get triggered while it’s happening.

Depending on your “default stress response”, you might react with anxiety, worry, anger, resentment, guilt, blame, fear, or a full-out panic attack. You might also feel sad, helpless or hopeless. I’ve been there many times myself, and even recently, I experienced a few minor “cosmic rug-pulling” that sent me into a little tailspin (yup, it happens to the best of us).

Being an introvert, when I feel stressed and overwhelmed, I tend to withdraw from social interactions. I was also brought up and taught to NEVER air your dirty laundry, show your weakness, or burden others with your problems. My parents are always very anxious and fearful that if we share something personal or show any weakness, some unsavory people will try to judge or harm us. So, I usually try to be strong and suffer alone. Can you relate?

Back to my recent cosmic 2×4 experience… It started with a car accident a few weeks ago. My husband and I were rear-ended on I-95. Thankfully, we walked away with minor injuries, but his car was totaled. We had to deal with getting treatments, replacing his car and all the tedious back-and-forth with the insurance companies. Then a few other “cosmic rug-pulling” happened, that got me so anxious, worried, fearful and overwhelmed, that I withdrew from FB and all social circles. At the time, I felt very overwhelmed, and social media felt like another thing “to do” that would add to my overwhelm. So I just stopped posting altogether.

After a week or two of silence, some of my FB friends started to send me private messages or post to my timeline, wondering what’s going on with me.

Well, this time, I did something different. I realized that it’s not very self-loving to deny myself the love and support that could help me. It’s also not fair to assume that my friends would see me as needy or a burden or wouldn’t care or support me. I was tired of suffering alone, and decided it’s time for me to ask for support. 

So, I posted this update to FB:

“Hello friends, I’m back! Sorry I’ve been MIA for a bit and got some of you worried. Thanks so much for checking in on me (you know who you are and I so appreciate you)! ♥  I’ve been dealing with some stuff. There were some more-than-usual highs and lows in the last few weeks, since the car accident Carey and I had on Easter Sunday. Some joyful celebrations, mixed with surprises of both good and bad kinds, and a WHOLE host of very strong emotions. I’ve been dealing with it privately with my family and just a few friends. All is well in the grand scheme of things. I was just feeling overwhelmed and social media seemed another thing “to do” that would add to my overwhelm, so I withdrew… This has been my M.O. however — I withdraw from social interactions when I feel stressed and overwhelmed. I was brought up and taught to NEVER air your dirty laundry or show your weakness in public, or worse, burden others. However, by doing so, I also cut myself off from the support I could’ve received from my friends. I now realize this is not helping me. It’s not very self-loving to deny myself the love and support that could help me. It’s also not fair to assume that my friends would see me as needy or a burden or wouldn’t care or support me.

I need to learn to be okay to feel vulnerable and ask for help. I’m far from perfect, and I don’t have it all together — and I’ll stop pretending that I do. I’ll update what’s going on later. There are some happy news for sure (including new butterflies!) and some challenges I’m still dealing with. For now, I’m asking you, my friends, to send some love, light and hugs, please. Thank you!!! ♥ “

I admit, I was anxious about posting this update, showing so much vulnerability. What would people think? Would they think that I’m weak and needy? How can I be stressed and overwhelmed? I’m a stress management expert, for God’s sake. Would they think that I’m not good at what I do? These thoughts are not self-loving, of course. I quickly released them and replaced them with EXTRA dosage of self-compassion. 

Breathe, Hueina, breathe.

Within minutes of posting this, I received kind words, love, light, hugs, prayers from SO many friends, both online and offline. And they kept coming in the following days. The outpouring of love and support warmed my heart and lifted my spirit.

But, what really moved me was the comments about vulnerability and being strong. Some thanked me for the courage and role-modeling to be authentic and vulnerable. Some offered assuring words that nobody has it all together and I’m not alone. Interestingly, quite a few people told me that I’m a very strong person, but it’s okay to be vulnerable too.

It does take a lot of courage to be authentic and vulnerable. The truth is, my friends have ALWAYS been very supportive. But, the fear of judgment and rejection is still paralyzing sometimes. However, putting on a brave face and pretending to be strong while I’m feeling the opposite, does not make me strong. It only cuts me off from the love and support that could really help me.

In my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, I wrote about the importance of connection and asking for support in Key #7: Dare to Connect. Asking for help and support when you need is NOT being selfish or needy. It is an act of self-love. How can you receive any support if you pretend that you don’t even need it? How would people know you need help, if you don’t ask for it?

It’s a simple truth, isn’t it? Yet, so many of us still have a tough time asking for help. For me, it’s the fear of judgment and rejection. You might have a different reason why you don’t want to ask for help. We all have different upbringing and limiting beliefs that could prevent us from asking for support. The obstacle and the solution, I believe, are one and the same — the willingness to be vulnerable. 

This is a huge lesson for me, and I’m grateful for the cosmic 2×4 that created this learning opportunity. What I learned from my experience is that it takes a strong person to be authentic, to show vulnerability and ask for help. Nobody has it all together. Nobody is perfect. When we share ourselves authentically, we also strengthen our relationships with those around us. More often than not, when we do ask for help, there are many people who are willing and ready to lend a helping hand. Don’t assume that your friends would see you as needy or a burden, or wouldn’t care or support you. Please know that you deserve the love and support. All you need to do is ASK, and be open to RECEIVE.

And if I can support you through coaching, please do not hesitate to contact me and set up a discovery session. I am here for you. Sending you much love and light.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Intensive Self-Care: Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

Self-Love Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

After the car accident earlier this month, I’ve been taking extra time to rest, so that my body can heal and recover. Coincidentally, during a group coaching call the other day, the topic of rest and self-care came up. Several members in our group (all high-achieving woman entrepreneurs) have asked for support and guidance on getting more rest and self-care time for themselves. Some of us have a tough time setting boundaries around work. You know, when you are a high achiever working for yourself, it’s very tempting to work ALL the time. However, if you don’t have adequate rest and self-care, your health and your business simply won’t survive. Other people have a hard time unplugging from Internet and social media (myself included). It becomes a distraction and time suck that interfere with both work and family/personal time.

Apparently, taking time for rest and self-care is a common challenge among high achievers.

It’s no surprise to me. Self-Care Deficiency is a hidden epidemic among moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals, small business owners and other high-achievers, as I discussed in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. So many women have a hard time ALLOWING themselves to rest — out of guilt, unworthiness, or because they are so wound up (mentally, physically, emotionally, or all of the above) that they simply cannot relax and rest . Can you relate?

I used to feel very guilty for sleeping in, especially when my kids were younger, and when it’s bright & sunny outside (that was an old programming from my childhood about not being lazy & wasting time). I often “override” my body’s signals with my strong will and my drive to achieve. The old programming that says if you rest & sleep in, it means you’re not a good mother or not working hard enough, used to bring up SO much guilt in me. I’d beat myself over and over.

Nowadays? NO GUILT. I honor and allow my body to rest when it needs to. The work will get done with more grace & ease, when I’m fully recharged.

How about you? Do you listen to your own body, and ALLOW yourself to rest without guilt? What old messages & beliefs get stirred up when you try to rest or do something nice for yourself?

Allowing yourself to rest is not being selfish or lazy. It’s an act of self-love. I love what my coach suggested — be “an overachiever for rest”. Let’s channel our overachieving energy into Intensive Self-Care. Let’s try it for a week, OK? Are you up for the challenge? :)

Tell me: What would you commit to do (or NOT do) today, in order to take better care of YOU? Please comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

If you need support in creating a self-care practice and more time for YOU (minus the guilt), I invite you to book a complimentary 30-min consultation with me via phone or Skype, and we will explore how coaching with me can help you. You can schedule your appointment here

Take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable.

P.S. My book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT Mother’s Day gift — for yourself and/or for someone you really care about. You can order here.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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