Holiday Stress Relief for the Shy and Sensitive Introverts

Are you a shy, sensitive introvert? Do you get overwhelmed easily by noise, light, busy activities, crowded places, trying new things or meeting new people? Are you easily affected by other people’s words, emotions and/or energies? If so, chances are, holidays are stressful and overwhelming for you. With MORE people, things and activities to deal with, it’s very easy to get stress and sensory overload. Can you relate?

Let me tell you a first-hand experience I had last week.

It was the day after the red-carpet premiere of The Keeper of the Keys movie in which I costar with Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray. I had a great time getting all dressed up (the hair and makeup took 2 hours) for the red carpet and hanging out with my fabulous costars. It was surreal to watch myself on the silver screen. The movie was AMAZING!! We partied till past midnight (which was 3 AM Eastern time) on the premiere night. I was exhausted, but I had to get up early that morning for another hair and makeup session for my photo shoot. I hadn’t drank coffee for a while, but, I asked for one that morning before heading down for the photo shoot.

Note to self: Never schedule a photo shoot the morning after a major party!

The photo shoot went well. I tried my best to smile despite my fatigue. It was a LOT of walking, though, in downtown Las Vegas, in my super high heels, which I totally didn’t expect. After an hour of walking around, my feet were killing me and I just wanted to crawl back to bed.

That’s when my dear hubby called, saying he and our kids were having lunch near the hotel, asking me if I were going to join them. I asked him to bring me some food and iced tea instead. I really needed a break. When he got back, he was complaining that I didn’t answer his text about what kind of tea I wanted. He questioned why I wouldn’t answer my phone “all morning” or text him back when I “had a break during the photo shoot.” Then he was rushing me to get ready to go to Red Rock Canyon.

Are you kidding me?!! I was really irritated, to say the least. First of all, I told him, I didn’t “have a break” during the photo shoot. We were walking and taking pictures the whole time. And, my phone was on mute, in my purse, which the photographer was carrying for me. Second of all, the entire movie VIP luncheon, premiere night and the photo shoot, even though fun, were official business functions. I was busy working, for God’s sake!

It wasn’t a pretty picture… I was hungry, tired and really cranky. It took great constraint on my part to NOT have a meltdown in front of my kids. On our way to the Red Rock Canyon, you could clearly feel the tension in the air.

After eating some food and meditating to center myself, I felt MUCH better. The gorgeous scenery and fresh air at the Red Rock Canyon uplifted my spirit. We were amazed by the peace and quiet in that magnificent open space. I breathed a sigh of relief, as I took in the beauty all around me, and every cell in my body relaxed. Before long, I was happy playing with my family and snapping tons of pictures (you know how much I love photography). Well, nature proved to be just what I needed to recharge and center myself.

It was a big lesson for me. Being a shy and sensitive introvert, I’m usually quite mindful of managing my energy – physical, mental and emotional energies. I can strike a pose and enjoy all the glamor and excitement on the red carpet, AS LONG AS I allow enough time to rest and recharge. Having quiet, solitary time every day is extremely important to me. However, on this trip, because of the tight schedule and because I brought my entire family with me, I ended up not having quiet time for myself. Sleep deprivation and low blood sugar made everything worse! Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and I’m so happy that they could share this amazing experience with me. However, if I could do it again, I would’ve built in pockets of quiet time, just for me, every single day. That’s why after returning home, I intentionally unplugged from emails and Internet for a few days, so that I could rest, recharge and process all the exciting experiences from this trip.

Hopefully you’ve learned a valuable lesson from my story too. Here are a few tips for you this holiday season and beyond:

• If you are a shy, sensitive introvert, you need to be mindful of your activities and energy level. To avoid sensory overload, plan your day and activities carefully. Try not to schedule too many activities that are taxing for you physically, mentally or emotionally.
• Build in enough quiet time and rest every day, so you can recharge and stay centered. Practice meditation, spend time in nature, or simply sit quietly. Let yourself sleep in or take a nap when you need it.
• Use stress relief techniques and tools such as deep breathing, yoga, and visualization. Therapeutic-grade essential oils are an excellent tool for stress relief, managing energy level and emotional healing. Just make sure you are using the therapeutic-grade essential oils so you don’t end up burdening your body with allergens and chemical toxins.
• Practice Intensive Self-Care and self-compassion. Ask yourself: “What’s the most loving thing I can do for me right now?”
• Set good boundaries on what kind of people you interact with. Try to surround yourself with positive people and limit your time with people who drain your energy.
• Know that what other people think of you, how they feel or act are NOT your business. You can only control your own thoughts, emotions and actions.
• Give yourself permission to say NO. You don’t have to accept every single invitation to holiday gatherings.
• Focus on what really matters to YOU and let other stuff slide.

Most important of all, be fully present and ENJOY the holidays!

Help Me Celebrate Moms and Support American Cancer Society

Since last June, I’ve been leading the Mindful Wellness Coaching Program for cancer patients, survivors and caregivers at the Sparta Cancer Center. In March, I co-organized and delivered a keynote at a special breast cancer survivors event called Sailing Through Your Breast Cancer Journey, which was co-sponsored by Summit Breast Care, Newton Memorial Hospital, Project Self-Sufficiency and Sussex County Cancer Coalition. The event was well-received and we had almost 100 participants. My own grandpa and grandma both died of cancer, and I took care of many terminal cancer patients when I was a nurse years ago, so I’ve always feel for cancer patients & survivors. That’s why I’ve done several workshops and participated in breast cancer walks for American Cancer Society over the years.

This year, I’m doing a special fundraiser for American Cancer Society’s Relay for Life on May 14. I’m helping the Rainbow Racers to raise money for their team. From now till May 14, when you order my book or CDs from my website, I will donate 50% proceeds to the Rainbow Racers for Relay for Life.

In addition to my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, there are 5 different audio CDs to choose from: A Prescription for Stress-Free Living, The Balancing Act: Time Management for Busy Professionals, Learn to Say NO, So You Can Say YES to Your Life, Effortless Decision-Making Strategies for the Indecisive, and Changing Lanes: Secrets of Successful Midlife Career Change. Each one offers inspiration as well as PRACTICAL action strategies you can use right away. They make perfect gifts for moms, caregivers, teachers, coaches, healthcare professionals, and anyone who can use some relief from their stressful lives. Plus you will be supporting a great cause!!

To order my book and CDs, please visit my website http://www.HueinaSu.com/store. If you prefer to donate directly to Rainbow Racers, you can visit their team page at the American Cancer Society website.

Valentine’s Day Special

Valentine’s Day Special Bundle to Celebrate You!

Valentine’s Day is about sharing love with someone special, and that should include YOU! As a nurturer we often focus so much on taking care of EVERYONE but neglect ourselves. In celebration of Valentine’s Day and National Heart Health Month (February), I am offering an amazing special gift to celebrate YOU!!! This special bundle takes three of my powerful tools to help you reduce stress, nurture yourself without guilt, and create more JOY and PEACE in your busy life.

Are you someone that needs a little nurturing and self-love or do you know someone that could use the encouragement? These were specially selected as a bundle to give you that self-love and nurturing you need in order to care for others.

The Valentine’s Bundle Includes:

Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others * Do you feel like there is no time for you? * Are you feeling lonely and isolated? * Are your work and life out of balance? * Do you feel overwhelmed and stressed? * Are you lacking a social life? * Do you feel there’s never enough time? * Do you feel exhausted at the end of the day? * Is stress causing you physical or emotional distress? * Difficulty juggling your work and family life? * Disappointed in the lack of progress your loved one or patient is making? Then this book is a must read for YOU!

“This book is a must read for anyone who is in the role of caregiver: nurses, doctors, home health aids, or anyone caring for a loved family member. Hueina Su has done an outstanding job of giving tools and techniques that are practical and highly valuable to caregivers. This book will inspire you as you hear her compassionate voice, giving you hope as well as solutions.” – Terri Levine, PhD, MCC, The Guru of Coaching®, best-selling author of Coaching is for Everyone

This amazing interactive guidebook will help you: Create more time for YOU Resolve the feeling of stress & overwhelm Take care of yourself without feeling selfish or guilty Find joy and serenity in the present moment Restore peace and calm when life is spinning out of control Create life balance to avoid caregiver burnout Clear out emotional clutter for lasting inner peace Find peace in the face of death and grieving Use Self-Coaching Session at the end of each chapter to personalize your learning and action steps

A Prescription for Stress-Free Living (Audio CD) In the modern world where most people have hectic schedules and juggling multiple responsibilities, stress seems like an inevitable element in life that we have to live with. Maybe you have tried to alleviate stress by deep breathing, exercise, yoga, massage, shopping, but the relief is temporary. Or maybe you resort to other unhealthy coping behaviors, such as drinking, smoking, drugs, emotional eating, gambling, and end up creating more stress and problems. It is time to try something that works.

In this audio program, you will learn: The anatomy of stress — where does your stress come from, what’s your default reaction, and how effective (or ineffective) your coping strategies are The underlying root cause of your stress — it’s not what you think Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome — what it is, what are the symptoms and consequences, and what can you do about it Why most stress relief strategies only provide temporary relief, and what can you do instead to for long-lasting freedom from the devastating effects of chronic stress The powerful 3-prong approach I use to help my clients relieve chronic stress, create more joy and balance in every area of their lives 3 powerful questions that will shift your energy from stress to peace instantly Empowering mindset shift to help you handle any crisis Principles to live by for stress-free living

Learn to Say NO, So You Can Say YES to Your Life (Audio CD) Many people feel tremendously anxious or guilty when they have to say NO to other people’s requests. They feel obligated to say YES, and end up feeling over-scheduled, overwhelmed, stressed out, and even resentful. Can you relate to this?We all have 24 hours a day. When you say YES to something, you are saying NO to something else. In order to live a balanced life, you need to set your priorities straight, and set good boundaries by saying NO to some requests and/or invitations.

In this audio program you will learn: the root cause of WHY you can’t say no why changing behaviors alone will not work what kind of “Wrong Equations” you’ve created around saying no get clear about what you want to say no to how to deal with guilt, fears, anxiety when you say no the 7-step process to turn negative emotions into positive actions the critical 6-second window to avoid being hijacked by your emotions the ONE question you can use to take control of your emotions strategies and tactics to help you say no how to build on the insights you learn for lasting changes

Give Yourself and/or Someone You Care the Gift of Self-Love Today!!

As you can see, each one of these is very powerful on its own, and each provides practical tools and strategies to help you reduce stress, nurture yourself so you will have more to give to your loved ones. In celebration of Valentine’s Day and the National Heart Health Month (February), I’m offering these 3 products as a special bundle just for you!! This is a perfect gift for Valentine’s Day and EVERYDAY!!

Regular Price for all 3 Products is $60.00 The Valentine’s Bundle Special Pricing: $47.00 (PLUS discounted shipping for this special LIMITED-TIME OFFER)

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Hueina Su Lifetime TV Interview Now on YouTube

The Balancing Act show on Lifetime TV interviews The Nurturer’s Coach and best-selling author Hueina Su. Show host Kristy Villa and Hueina Su talked about her bestseller Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul and her mission to bring the message of self-love and self-care to one million women nurturers worldwide. Hueina offered tips for moms, caregivers and health care professionals on reducing stress and overwhelm, avoiding burnout, and creating time for Intensive Self-Care.

The show aired on 8/9/2010 and you can now watch the interview anytime you like on YouTube.

Watch Hueina Su on Lifetime TV The Balancing Act

Attention: Moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals and anyone caring for others in their personal or professional lives.

If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, no time for you at the end of the day, and feeling guilty for taking time for you, this is for YOU.

The Balancing Act on Lifetime TV will interview Hueina Su, The Nurturer’s Coach and best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul on why you feel guilty taking care of you, and important keys to nurture yourself while you care for others. Tune in on Monday August 9 at 7:00 am ET on Lifetime TV for this important discussion. Don’t miss it!

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