Tune in Tonight to Claim Your Personal Power and Confidence

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Would you like to know how to claim your personal power and confidence? How do you remain calm, centered and confident no matter what’s going on “out there”? When unspeakable tragedies like the Boston Marathon bombing happen, how do you find your peace of mind?

Please join me today (April 18th at 7PM EST) as I will be interviewed on The Positivity Project, an online speaker series hosted by my friends Katherine Poehnert & Alan Cohen. On this call, we will discuss:

• The 8 Invisible Chaos that keep you fearful, stuck, broke, unhappy, shooting yourself in the foot and beating yourself up over and over
• A powerful 3-step process to help you BE calm, centered and confident when everything is falling apart
• One decision you MUST make to release self-doubt, self-sabotage, pain, anxiety, hidden shame & guilt
• What you can learn about personal power from ancient Taoist wisdom and martial arts
• Why you cannot fully claim your personal power if you try to avoid negative emotions
• A counterintuitive way to claim your personal power

There is no cost to join this call, and if you can’t make the live call, you have 48 hours to listen to the recording. But, I do encourage you to call in LIVE if you can. You can ask me questions right on the call too.

Here’s the link to sign up ~> http://bit.ly/ZiJeKl

Hope to “see” you on the call tonight!

Who Do You Think You Are?

“Who are YOU?” said the Caterpillar. This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation. Alice replied, rather shyly, “I — I hardly know, sir, just at present — at least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.”
– Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Who do you think you are? You must have heard this question directed at you many times (perhaps even several times a day). Sometimes it’s from someone who is, for whatever reason, not pleased (or downright furious) with you. It could be your spouse, your boss/coworker, your teenage kids, your patients/students/customers, or even total strangers. Maybe you did or say something they didn’t like. Maybe you didn’t live up to their expectations or go by their rules. Maybe you tried to be innovative, instead of following the conventional wisdom. Maybe you told them you wanted to pursue your dream, claim your expertise, start a new business, write a book, go back to school, change the world, or just do something nice for yourself for a change. Maybe you tried to speak your mind or show your true colors. Maybe you wanted to blaze your own trail, instead of following the tradition. Maybe you just wanted to be yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.

You might even hear the question “Who (the heck) do you think YOU are?” combined with finger-pointing, eye-rolling or other gestures. You might feel angry, hurt, embarrassed, misunderstood, guilty, ashamed, insecure, unworthy or unloved. Then you either fight back, lash out at someone else, or withdraw. You give up what you want for what THEY want.

Sometimes, the question doesn’t come from other people. What you hear is a demanding, condescending voice from “The Judge” in your head. He is sitting high up, mad as hell, pounding on his gavel, reaching forward and pointing a finger SO close to your nose. “Who do you think YOU are?” he demands with authority. It doesn’t matter how old or accomplished you are, all of a sudden, you lost your calm and confidence. You feel so small. You just want to shrink down to the ground and be invisible. You retreat back to your comfort zone and status quo, even though deep inside you feel miserable and suffocated.

I bet you are familiar with the voices in your head. In my last post, How to Find Peace When You Feel Out of Control, I talked about the cynical, nasty comments from my “Evil Stepmother”, calling me lazy and shaming me when I was sick with a bad cold and decided to rest. Yup, they tend to take a cheap shot at you when you are weakened. That’s the way Gremlins work. Even I am not immune. The Gremlins are part of the Invisible Chaos that’s the underlying root cause of most people’s stress, anxiety, self-doubt, low self-esteem and self-sabotage. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to tame your Invisible Chaos. And this is not a do-it-once-and-you-are-done kind of deal. Every day we encounter many challenges and chaos in our life, that could trigger the Invisible Chaos that’s lurking in our subconscious mind and at our cellular level. You need to learn how to tame your Invisible Chaos and make it a regular practice for your long-lasting inner peace, true self-confidence, and optimal success. By the way, if you don’t know the 8 Invisible Chaos and how to tame them, make sure you sign up for my FREE Taming the Invisible Chaos 7-part video & audio course.

Sometimes, you might hear yourself ask “Who am I?” and found yourself as stumped as Alice in Wonderland. You have changed so many times, like Alice, and you are not sure who you TRULY are any more. You might know who you WERE before…. before you got married, before you had kids, before you got laid off, before you gave up your 6-figure corporate executive job to be a stay-at-home-mom, before you got divorced, before you gained all that weight, before you gave up a secure job with benefit to start your own business, before you had cancer, before you turned 40 (or 50 or 60), before you lost a loved one, etc. But now, you are not so sure any more. Maybe you had achieved a great deal before, but now, you question your every decision. You used to be confident and now you no longer trust yourself.

After major life challenges and transitions, your confidence and self-esteem can take a beating. But sometimes, even without any major challenge or setback, you could still gradually lose your self. Especially when you don’t honor yourself completely, you end up giving your true self away little by little. Then one day you look in the mirror, and you can barely recognize yourself.

I’ve seen and worked with many people like that. They lost their self-esteem, confidence, passion and purpose. They don’t know who they are any more. It’s truly tragic. They ask: “Who am I when I’m no longer being/doing/having xyz?” and “How can I still be loveable/worthy when I’m no longer being/doing/having xyz?” Sounds familiar?

These people have identity crisis. The thing is, change of identity, even when it’s due to a positive change (such as getting married, becoming a parent, losing weight) can be very stressful, especially when you are very attached to that identity.

The antidote? Remember the truth of who you are. You are NOT your income, your diploma or job title. You are NOT your possessions, your social status, or your achievements. You are NOT your body, your illness or the roles you play. Your mind or intelligence is not who you are, either.

There is a part of you that does not change, no matter how much your appearance, income, marital status or other circumstances change. It will never diminish, no matter how many challenges you encounter or how many mistakes you make. In fact, nothing can destroy it. This part of you knows that you are a beloved darling princess (or prince) of the Universe, a divine child of God. This is your True Self, your Higher Self. When you are deeply rooted in your True Self, your essence, nobody and nothing in the world can disturb your inner peace, and you are most powerful. That’s the Peaceful Power I’ve been talking about. When you claim your Peaceful Power, what other people think of you is irrelevant. You listen to your inner wisdom instead of blindly following other people’s rules. You are totally at peace, grounded and naturally confident. You know you are worthy of all the love, joy and abundance in the world. And you do not need to change yourself or prove anything to anyone, in order to deserve that. You can FINALLY be yourself. As the adage goes, the truth will set you free.

Want to learn how to claim your Peaceful Power? I will be announcing a group coaching program to help you do just that very soon, so stay tuned. In the meantime, make sure you sign up for my FREE Claim Your Peaceful Power Success Activation Kit, so you can start your first steps, and be on the priority list to receive advance notice about my upcoming program.

HERO or HERD?

The other day, my son forgot his alto saxophone and asked me to bring it to school for him. Since he doesn’t normally forget his stuff, I brought it to him. On my way home from school, the license plate on the car right in front of me caught my attention. In all capital letters the license plate reads “THEHERD.” Quickly I snapped a picture of it with my iPhone.

My first impression was “THE HERO“, and I thought to myself: How fitting…. Think about all the things we do as parents, every single day, for our children. While most are mundane and even trivial, some of the stuff we do are nothing short of heroic. We do it willingly, and we don’t need a medal or a fancy Batmobile, either. I felt a deep sense of pride, thinking “I’m a SHERO who drives a minivan.”

When I got home and had a closer look at the picture, I realized that the license plate reads “THE HERD“, not “THE HERO.” The capital D looks like O from a distance. Haha! Obviously I could use a stronger prescription for my contact lens.

How abut you? What did you see at first glance? THE HERO or THE HERD?

Then it dawned on me that this was yet another “Message from the Universe” for me.

You see, I often receive signs and messages from the Universe through license plates, songs on the radio, animals, message from other people, etc. The messages are often timely and profound. Of course, the more I learn to pay attention, the more messages I receive.

In this case, I was thinking about writing an article on courage the night before, and there it was, right in front of me, “THE HERO” in big, bold capital letters!!

Of course, I know what you’re thinking: “But it says THE HERD, not THE HERO on the license plate! You read it wrong!”

Did I?

I believe that we have a way of seeing what our heart (or Soul, or the Universe) wants us to see, if we are being open and present enough. There’s no doubt in my mind why I was seeing THE HERO instead of THE HERD. For one, I’d rather be a HERO (or I should say SHERO) for my children, instead of someone who just herds them around town. I want to be someone who fiercely protects them, stands up for them, and be a good role model for them.

Same for my own life. I’d rather be a HERO on my own journey, blazing my own path, taking whatever risks to live my destiny. I’m no longer willing to keep my head down, silence my voice, compromise my values, conform to rules and expectations that are not aligned with my true self, or stay faceless, voiceless and powerless in a HERD on a beaten path leading AWAY from my soul’s purpose. You might think it’s safer to say in a HERD. There’s safety in numbers, right? Not necessarily.

Every time you do things that are against your values, every time you ignore that quiet whisper from the core of your being, or give up your voice and your self-respect, in order to play safe, to please others, to avoid being judged, rejected or ridiculed, you are giving up a small piece of your true self. You are slowly but surely killing your Soul. It is painful not knowing your purpose in life. It’s even MORE painful when you know, deep in your Soul, what your calling is, why you are here in this lifetime, yet for whatever reason you are denying it, turning away from it, standing by the sideline and not able to LIVE it.

I saw very clearly this kind of suffocating anxiety and soul-murdering angst in quite a few entries in my ONE DECISION Challenge in the past week. Most of them know their life purpose and why they want to achieve their goals. Their goals are all different and personal. However, when asked what’s keeping them from living their purpose and reaching their goals, their answers were awfully similar: Lack of courage, confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, self-discipline, accountability and/or know-how. I can totally relate, because just a few short years ago, I was there. Lost. Paralyzed by fears. Feeling powerless. Filled with anxiety, guilt, shame and self-loathing. Now I’m crystal clear why I’m here and I’m on the right path.

It takes tremendous courage to go after your dream, to stand up for what you believe, to speak your truth, to be a leader, or, just to be YOU. You might have a vision to inspire and serve a certain population, to make a change or a difference through your business. You might have a personal goal of creating a better life for yourself and your family. Maybe you wish to be a role model for your children, or for your parents to be proud of you. Or, maybe you just want to feel good in your own skin and finally be at peace with who you truly are.

No matter what your goal is, it requires you to muster up your courage and take a stand. It requires you to be the HERO on your own journey, instead of staying in the HERD. What do you stand for? Who/what will you fiercely protect and defend? What are you willing to invest (time, money, energy, hard work)? What are you willing to risk and sacrifice?

The more important question is: WHO will you be? THE HERO or THE HERD? It’s time for you to make a choice.

Best-Selling Author & Success Coach Hueina Su to Speak at ZeroPoint Global Conference

Best-selling author, success coach, and star of  self-help movie “The Keeper of the Keys” Hueina Su is the featured keynote speaker at ZeroPoint Global Conference. The annual convention themed “Molding The Future” for business leaders, consultants and practitioners is held Feb. 7-9, 2012 in Dallas, Texas.

ZeroPoint Global is a world leader in alternative health and preventative wellness solutions helping millions of people re-discover their inner energy source by harnessing the latest advances in ZeroPoint technology and energy medicine. For more information about the company and conference, visit http://www.hsu.zeropointglobal.com.

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is a mindful wellness and women’s empowerment expert, international keynote speaker, certified life coach, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others and the upcoming Peaceful Power: A Prescription for Long-Lasting Inner Peace, True Happiness and Unstoppable Success. Su is the president and founder of Beyond Horizon Coaching in Denville, New Jersey.

Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing peace and power in their stressful lives. She is a world-class mentor and evolutionary leader inspiring heart-centered, high-achieving women entrepreneurs. She will be speaking to an elite group of leaders and entrepreneurs at the invitation-only Leadership Luncheon on Feb. 7 and then delivering a keynote presentation titled “Claiming Your Peaceful Power” to all attendees in a general session on Feb. 8.

Su is a star in a new ground-breaking self-help film ”The Keeper of the Keys” with some of today’s most popular personal development gurus including Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray. The movie blends an entertaining fictional story line with unique expert segments.

For more information about “The Keeper of the Keys” movie, visit http://www.hueinasu.com/the-keeper-of-the-keys-movie.

The Keeper of the Keys” movie DVD is now available at: http://www.hueinasu.com/store.

Watch the sneak peek of “The Keeper of the Keys” movie:

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing peace and power in their stressful lives. Su is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, certified life coach, transformational leader of The Venus Evolution, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others and the upcoming Peaceful Power: A Prescription for Long-Lasting Inner Peace, True Happiness and Unstoppable. She is on a mission to empower one million women nurturers to nurture themselves and create a life of their choice.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for mindful wellness, stress management, and women’s empowerment through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services. She is the creator of Rx for Balance (TM), The Coaching Oasis (TM), Nurture and Grow Rich (TM), The Venus Evolution (TM) and Mindful Wellness Coaching for Cancer Survivors programs.

Su is a co-star in an upcoming personal development movie “The Keeper of the Keys” with Jack Canfield, creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul® series and star of “The Secret” movie, Marci Shimoff, New York Times best-selling author of “Happy for No Reason” and star of “The Secret” movie, and John Gray, New York Times best-selling author of “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” and star of “The Secret”.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s keynote speaking, coaching, training, consulting and products visit www.HueinaSu.com.

Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos are available at www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

Leap out of Fear into Pure, Unconditional Love

Today I have a very special message for you and it’s all about LOVE. You see, today is my 18th wedding anniversary. Such a perfect day to spread the LOVE, don’t you think?

Do you feel like something’s missing in your life?

Do you long to feel less burdened by worry, stress, or struggle?

Have you ever buried your pain in over-eating, over-working or over-spending?

What if the deeper love you are aching for really IS possible?

How amazing would it be if you could do something RIGHT NOW to invite that into your life. . .

You CAN.

My friend and co-star in The Keeper of the Keys movie, #1 New York Times bestselling author, Marci Shimoff has found a way to help you feel like you’re in love all the time.

Find out how here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

The answer lies in her New York Times bestselling book, Love For No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love, NOW OUT IN PAPERBACK.

In it, Marci offers a revolutionary step-by-step program to live in a profound state of unconditional love EVERY DAY of your life.

The kind of love that wells up from deep within and doesn’t depend on another person, situation, or romantic partner.

This simple, holistic program—based on current scientific research, ancient wisdom, proven techniques, and Marci’s interviews with 150 Love Luminaries—will make you a magnet for love.

To experience a greater state of love NOW, click here: www.TheLoveBook.com

WHAT CAN LOVE FOR NO REASON DO FOR YOU?

Marci’s breakthrough approach will help you reset your “love set point” as easily as you reset a thermostat.

You’ll automatically turn up the heat on giving, receiving—and accepting—more love and abundant blessings in your life.

You’ll be able to:

• Open your heart fully and experience deep love from the inside, even in the midst of challenges.
• Enjoy more fulfilling relationships with others AND with yourself.
• Turn off your body’s stress response and turn on your body’s “love response” for better health and well-being.
• Experience greater success and satisfaction.
• Transform your family, community and the world.

This is TRUE LOVE—it’s what your heart wants most deeply and it’s what the world needs most urgently. Whatever your experience of love is right now—whether you’re in pain or feeling content—you can feel the joy and freedom of an even more open heart.

If you’re ready for a more dazzling, love-filled life starting today, click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

IF MARCI’S NAME SOUNDS FAMILIAR…IT SHOULD!

Marci’s the New York Times best-selling author of Happy For No Reason as well as co-author of SIX books in the phenomenally popular Chicken Soup For The Soul series.

Her books have sold more than 15 million copies worldwide in 31 languages! She’s also a featured teacher in the hit film “The Secret.”

In Love for No Reason, Marci shares the most important, life-changing message of all—the one that will dissolve heartache, pain, and emptiness.

You’ll learn the 14 Love Keys she discovered in her extensive research that will bring you lasting joy and fulfillment.

“If only you could love enough,
you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the universe.”
- Emmet Fox

If you want to feel like you’re in love ALL THE TIME, click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

WHY NOW?

Because Love for No Reason is the one thing that can make your 2012 fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams.

AND if you buy Love for No Reason TODAY, you’ll receive The Love for No Reason Gift Package as a BONUS—this includes a powerful recording to remove your blocks to love, audio interviews with famous Love Luminaries, a 5-minute daily love practice, practical ebooks, and much more!

So, I’m heartily recommending this book to EVERYONE I KNOW, giving it an enthusiastic two thumbs up.

If you’re ready to take a giant leap in your experience of love, then this book is for you.

Click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

Wishing you a year of extraordinary love,
Hueina

P.S. Marci’s onto something BIG. I’m heartily recommending this breakthrough book to everyone, Get it TODAY, and you’ll also receive the exclusive “Love For No Reason Gift Package” as a BONUS. Click here:
http://www.TheLoveBook.com

WHAT THE EXPERTS ARE SAYING ABOUT LOVE FOR NO REASON:

“Marci Shimoff has her finger on the pulse of the greatest evolutionary leap in the history of humanity—our leap out of fear into the attitudinal matrix of love. In Love for No Reason, she provides to the world…a compelling case for the power of love. This book has answers. And Marci Shimoff is a worthy guide.”

—from the Foreword by Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love

“Love for No Reason helps us establish a foundation of unconditional love that supports greater happiness in our lives. Poignant stories and Marci Shimoff’s characteristic insights guide us to understand at a visceral level how we can love for no reason.”

—Dr. Mehmet Oz, coauthor of YOU: Raising Your Child

“Marci Shimoff has written another life-changing book. In Love for No Reason, she lays out a powerful and comprehensive program that anyone can do to experience a more lasting state of unconditional love. If you want to experience inner fulfillment on a whole new level, read this book.”

—Jack Canfield, New York Times bestselling author of The Success Principles and cocreator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series

Love for No Reason is a brilliant how-to guide for expanding your capacity to love. Highly recommended.

—John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.



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