Is Your Perfectionism Keeping You Stuck?

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If you are a high-achiever, you always aim for excellence and achievement. You don’t mind working extra hard, going the extra mile in order to achieve your goals. However, in the name of pursuing excellence, it’s very common for high-achievers to fall prey to perfectionism. There’s a fine line between being excellent and being perfect. The desire to be excellent motivates you to move forward and be the best you can be. On the flip side, the need to be perfect fills you with anxiety and self-doubt, runs you ragged and keeps you stuck.

Your Inner Perfectionist may sound like this:

• I have to be perfect OR ELSE!
• If I’m not perfect, I’m a complete failure.
• People are waiting for me to fail and they will laugh at me.
• I’m not trying hard enough, otherwise I would’ve been perfect.
• Why can’t I pull it off like “everybody else”? What’s wrong with me?
• If I’m not perfect, nobody will love me.
• I can’t afford to make any mistakes.
• I have to be the best in everything I do.
• I’m so afraid of making the wrong choices or wrong moves that I’ve lost confidence in myself.
• If I can’t make it perfect (or, If I’m not sure I can succeed), why do I even bother getting started?
• If I don’t finish it, I won’t have to find out how imperfect (what a loser) I am.

Does it sound familiar? How does reading these statements make you FEEL – physically and emotionally? Do you tend to set impossibly high standards for yourself (and others) and beat yourself up over and over for not reaching your goals? If you feel anxious, frustrated, stuck in analysis paralysis, chest tightening, hyperventilating, paralyzed by fear of failure, with an extra dose of self-doubt or even self-loathing, you are probably a perfectionist. And the higher your aspirations are, the more severely affected you would be by perfectionism. The more successful you are, the more problematic perfectionism would manifest in your life, your health, your relationships and career/business.

Be honest: Is your Inner Perfectionist running you ragged these days? I know, because I’ve been there myself.

Last week I was invited by my Taiwanese sister Andrea J. Lee to speak via video at her 2012 The Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea asked me to share my experience in The Keeper of the Keys movie (which I costar with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff), and offer advice for attendees who are considering a movie project like this in the future.

If you are in the coaching & personal development industry, you’d know it’s a great honor to be included in Andrea’s Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea is known for teaching thought leaders on how to stay ahead of the curve, make money AND meaning via innovation. Her annual Wealthy Thought Leader event (it’s her 4th this year) in Vancouver, B.C. always attracts high-caliber speakers and thought leaders from all over the world. So, imagine my joy and surprise when I got a message from Andrea inviting me to share my experience at her event. And since she asked for a video sharing, I don’t even have to worry about flying over there. I was so excited!

There’s only one caveat: I got Andrea’s email on Sunday night, asking me if I can send her my video by Tuesday, or the latest Wednesday (her event starts on Thursday morning).

“Oh, I wish I had more time to work on this!!” my Inner Perfectionist piped up right away.

I assured her, “That’s okay, it’s only a very short video (5 min) and we can make it.” She insisted, “But, Hueina, this is your very first contact with Andrea’s community, and there will be so many accomplished thought leaders there. You want to make a perfect first impression. It’s very important, you know.” Well, first impression IS important. I can’t argue with that!

Then, my Inner Good Girl chimed in, “And Hueina, it’s such an honor that Andrea asked you to do this. It’s important to her and you don’t want to disappoint her.” The Inner Good Girl is the one who always wants to be a “good girl” and do good. She is all concerned about being proper, doing things right and making others happy (often at the cost of her own well-being). I started to feel a little pressure on my chest. Well, I do want to give Andrea and her community a great video that brings value to them; however, I do not want to get stressed out over this.

Been there, done there. Not again.

Instead, my intention was to make this video with JOY and offer it as my gift to Andrea and her community. I wanted to have a little FUN in the process as well (fun is one of my highest core values). Knowing the persuasive power of my Inner Perfectionist, and fully aware of my time constraints, I made a deal with her right off the bat. I told her that I agreed with her that we wanted to present a high-quality video that represents me well, and brings high value for Andrea’s community. On the other hand, I made it clear to her that we needed to stick to my schedule and honor my other business and family commitments (and it goes without saying that I would keep my self-care as well). AND, I wanted to aim for being professional and authentic, NOT perfect.

With the ground rules set, I looked at my business and family schedule, and picked out a couple small blocks of time for this project. I knew I most likely won’t be able to record and edit the video in one sitting. Trying to do everything all at once would probably tire me out. On the other hand, I knew I had to give myself and my Inner Perfectionist a deadline, otherwise I’ll be spending WAY too much time and energy working on “perfecting” the video. Can you relate to this?

So, my Inner Perfectionist and I went to work – first in our head, planning out what we’d like to share based on Andrea’s questions. As it turned out, it’s not easy to condense all I wanted to share in 5 minutes, without feeling rushed or speaking at a frantic pace (that wouldn’t be peaceful or powerful, would it?) The creative in me had so many ideas, and I wouldn’t and couldn’t settle for a boring “talking head” video. So, I decided to include a snippet of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer, and used a short clip of my segment in the movie to illustrate my point of telling deeply personal story in a powerful way. By the way, that’s how you can connect with the audience, stand out and be memorable.

I was excited by this new idea, so I planned out the video and recorded my speaking part. Next is the editing part – stringing everything together. Of course, every step of the way, my Inner Perfectionist was by my side, relentlessly reminding me to be perfect and fiercely pointing out my flaws. Every time she did that, I thanked her for trying to help and patiently but firmly reminded her the ground rules we’ve agreed on. Reminding myself my intention to bring value instead of trying to create a perfect video really helped. When I used up the time I’ve set for myself to complete this project, I saved the video, and sent it to Andrea right away. She told me she loved the video and they way I’ve designed it, with commentary and snippets of the movie trailer as well as my story. When she showed the video at The Wealthy Thought Leader event last Friday, I got so many praises and accolades from the live audience as well as simulcast attendees. Even days after I still got messages from Facebook thanking me for my sharing.

So, what can you learn from my experience? Here are 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism:

1. When opportunity knocks, you need to take decisively swift action. Successful people are action-takers. The rule of thumb is, ALWAYS SAY YES first, then figure out how to get it done.

2. Set a clear intention before you commit to or start a new project. What do you intend to achieve as the end result? (hint: aim for anything but absolute perfection.) Also, what do you intend to experience in the process and as a result of this project? For example, joy, fun, connecting with others, learning something new, making a difference, feeling proud of yourself, etc.

3. Set a clear time frame for you to work on the project. This is for you if you have a tendency to not finish your project, procrastinate like crazy, or spend FOREVER trying to make it perfect.

4. Before you start anything, set ground rules for yourself and your Inner Perfectionist, and firmly reinforce these rules. In my coaching, I teach my clients specific ways to communicate with their Inner Perfectionists and turn them into helpers, not tyrants who boss them around until they are totally run down.

5. Acknowledge and praise yourself for your efforts and progress (no matter how little), not just the end result. Practice loving kindness and Intensive Self-Care.

6. Know that your Inner Perfectionist (with her magnifying glass and white cotton gloves) is probably the only one who can see your flaws. To other people, you are probably quite amazing.

7. Remember, good enough is good enough. If you are offering something (be it your words or gifts of any kind), as long as it’s from your heart and you have done your best, it’s more than good enough.

So there you have it. My 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism. There’s no extra charge for the typos.

Here’s the video I shared at The Wealthy Thought Leader event, which included snippets of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer and MY segment in the movie. Check it out!!

If the video player does not work, use this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nt10J1VljxE

P.S. If you are stumped by perfectionism, you might have other Invisible Chaos too! Sign up for my FREE Claim Your Peaceful Power Success Activation Kit and learn how to tame your Invisible Chaos for lasting inner peace, joy and true confidence.

P.P.S. You can order The Keeper of the Keys DVD on my website here.

How to Find Peace When You Feel Out of Control

There are times when you feel like your life is going against your best intention or planning, and you are losing control. It’s easy to feel anxiety, fear, self-doubt, anger and other strong emotions. How do you find inner peace when many things seem to be out of your control? That’s the lesson I’ve been learning this past week – from an unexpected cold that felt like the flu, teenage driver and a school bomb threat.

Early last week, my daughter came home from school, sick as a dog. She is usually very healthy, so this was unusual for her. The weather has been very unstable recently, and colds and flu are going around. As a seasoned Dr. Mom, I immediately whipped out all my powerful healing tools, including Young Living Essential Oils and ZeroPoint bio-energetic lasers and intention stones to help her balance and reset her bio-energetic system, boost her immunity, and lesson her discomfort (I’ll share about these AMAZING healing tools with you in the near future). She fell asleep in the middle of the bio-energetic reset protocol, and after a few hours of deep sleep, woke up feeling MUCH better.

Meanwhile, I myself was feeling a little bit under the weather that day. After tending to my daughter, I started to go down the hill, FAST. Care-giving is very straining, physically and emotionally, as I had experienced and shared in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul. Still, I was fighting the cold with every ounce of my strength and will. I did NOT want to get sick at all. I did all the holistic and bio-energetic healing protocols that I used on my daughter, but, I was not feeling better.

I was dragging myself for about two days, trying to get things done in my business and around the house. I couldn’t control my body, which frustrated me big time. At the same time, I was beating myself up for getting sick and losing precious time. I got frustrated and angry that those healing tools did not work as effective this time. The worked wonders before. So, what’s wrong with ME? My “Evil Stepsister” chimed in: “What a disgrace! You’re an expert in self-care and mindful wellness. How can you get sick?! What will other people think when they find out?!” And my “Evil Stepmother” called me lazy, when I decided not to send out my e-zine last Friday. I was like, “WHOA, time out! I’m not lazy! I’m not feeling well and I deserve to rest.”

It finally dawned on me that I was resisting the reality, instead of being in the present moment and accepting “what is”. What you resist, persists. I was fighting with the reality that I had a bad cold and I needed (and deserved) to rest. In addition, the false belief that “I shouldn’t get sick at all” robbed my inner peace and created more stress in my physical and emotional body. No wonder none of those healing tools worked. No wonder I wasn’t getting better.

The reality is, I’m ill, and it’s OK to be ill from time to time. I’m only human, and this is part of the human experience. When I finally accepted what is without judgment, I told my Evil Stepmother and Stepsister to shut up, closed my office and allowed myself to rest as much as I could. My body responded and began to heal. It’s taken longer than I thought, and I’ve learned that you can’t rush healing. Everyone’s body is different. I’m learning to be more patient and kind to myself.

The second lesson came last weekend, when my daughter finished her 6-hour driving lessons and got her driving permit. I don’t know where “teenage driver” ranks on the top 10 stress and anxiety list, but I’m guessing it’s pretty high for any parent. She was over-the-moon excited and ready to get on the road, but, I was far from ready. My husband is braver than I am. He took her out driving around town the next day, and even let her drive him to school (only 2 blocks from home) on Monday. Both the driving instructor and my husband said that she did a great job, although I was still skeptical. In my mind, she is still my little baby girl. She only has 6 hours of lesson. Can she really drive on the road? Shouldn’t we be practicing in an empty parking lot (for a few months) first?

The next day, I was going to pick up my son from school when she enthusiastically asked, “Mommy, can I drive?” My first reaction was, “You want to drive my minivan? Are you sure? It’s much bigger than daddy’s car.” I wanted to say no, but, knowing that it was my fear talking, I decided to say yes instead. How will she be able to learn and get good at driving, if I don’t give her a chance? Here’s an opportunity for me to check what she has learned and teach her what I know. So, we got on the road, as I tried as hard as I could to look calm and relaxed. The worst thing I could do was to make her nervous by being a nervous wreck myself. To my surprise, even though she was brand new to driving, she had a fairly stable handle on the steering wheel, and she was being very careful. I’ve seen some new drivers who are much more nervous and unstable than she is. We drove all the way to school, picked up my son, and to my surprise, I offered for her to drive all of us to the grocery store too, which is on the opposite side of the town.

When we got home safely from the grocery store, she happily exclaimed, “YAY! We are ALIVE!” and I replied “Hallelujah!!” and we all laughed. Apparently she needs a lot more practice on braking and gauging the distance for turning, changing lanes, etc. but she will get better with time and practice, and I can help her with that. As long as my husband or I stay in the car with her, I think she can do well and stay safe. Come September she will get her full drivers license, and she won’t need us to drive with her. The thought of her driving somewhere without us or any grownup supervision is still nerve-wrecking for me, but, I’m going to take it one step at a time. Right now, there’s still a lot I can do to help her get ready. So when that day comes, and she goes out without me, hopefully she will remember what I’ve taught her and know what to do to keep herself safe.

As if a teenage driver is not nerve-wrecking enough, my 3rd lesson came yesterday, when I got a voicemail from the superintendent of my son’s school district that my son’s middle school was in lockdown. Half an hour later, the 2nd voicemail came, saying the lockdown was over, police just left and the kids were going to lunch. There was no explanation of WHY the school was locked down and I was visiting a Buddhist/Taoist temple in New York City when this happened, which means it would’ve taken me a few hours before I could get to my son’s school. As it turned out, the school was locked down due to a bomb threat!! In fact, they received 2 bomb threats 2 days in a row. Talk about nerve-wrecking!! Fortunately, all is well, and the police will be monitoring the campus for the next couple of weeks.

As I shared this incident on Facebook, I found out from one of my co-stars in “The Keeper of the Keys” movie Laura Carpenter-Vobornik that her daughters go to Chardon High School where the shootings shocked the nation on February 27 (fortunately her daughters are safe). The severity of the bomb threat in my son’s school slowed sunk in. It was so surreal to think that something so terrible could happen in your child’s school, and yet, I realized that we are all vulnerable to random violence, accidents and unspeakable tragedies like the Chardon shootings. In my case, there were several blessings, though. First and foremost, the bomb threat was a false alarm. Second, I somehow didn’t hear the first call, so, I got both voicemail messages at the same time (after the lockdown was over). If I had gotten the first message right away, I would’ve freaked out!! Last but not least, because I was at the temple, I was able to pray to the Tao/Buddha and surrender my fears to him. That made a huge difference! Even though I didn’t know the details about the lockdown, I got the peace of mind knowing that he is safe and all is well.

The next morning after he went to school, I got that panic feeling again, worrying whether they will have another bomb threat or lockdown. Again, I had to spend extra time in meditation and surrender to the Divine.

This, I realized, is a process I’ll need to repeat, over and over.

So, how do you find peace when you feel out of control? I hope you take away a few lessons from my story:

1. Accept what is without judgment. It’s no use to argue, deny or reject the reality. Resisting it will only create more resistance, stress, anxiety, anger or destructive behaviors. Blaming yourself or others will not help, either.

2. You can’t rush things. Everything works on divine timing, not on your schedule. Sometimes despite your best efforts, you don’t seem to get anywhere. But, if you stick to it a little longer, you’ll have a breakthrough or another door will open. Learn to be patient and trust the process.

3. Do your best and surrender the rest. You can only do your best. When things are not going according to your plan, and you are feeling out of control, know that there is a higher purpose in everything. Learn to trust that everything is in divine order and things will work out for your highest good, even when it appears the opposite.

4. Be patient and kind to yourself. Beating yourself up does not help the situation. If you’re not feeling well, do whatever you need to heal yourself. By all means, take a nap if you need to. Take your time. Your health is the top priority for your own well-being and your long-term success. Remember, you are irreplaceable!

Leap out of Fear into Pure, Unconditional Love

Today I have a very special message for you and it’s all about LOVE. You see, today is my 18th wedding anniversary. Such a perfect day to spread the LOVE, don’t you think?

Do you feel like something’s missing in your life?

Do you long to feel less burdened by worry, stress, or struggle?

Have you ever buried your pain in over-eating, over-working or over-spending?

What if the deeper love you are aching for really IS possible?

How amazing would it be if you could do something RIGHT NOW to invite that into your life. . .

You CAN.

My friend and co-star in The Keeper of the Keys movie, #1 New York Times bestselling author, Marci Shimoff has found a way to help you feel like you’re in love all the time.

Find out how here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

The answer lies in her New York Times bestselling book, Love For No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love, NOW OUT IN PAPERBACK.

In it, Marci offers a revolutionary step-by-step program to live in a profound state of unconditional love EVERY DAY of your life.

The kind of love that wells up from deep within and doesn’t depend on another person, situation, or romantic partner.

This simple, holistic program—based on current scientific research, ancient wisdom, proven techniques, and Marci’s interviews with 150 Love Luminaries—will make you a magnet for love.

To experience a greater state of love NOW, click here: www.TheLoveBook.com

WHAT CAN LOVE FOR NO REASON DO FOR YOU?

Marci’s breakthrough approach will help you reset your “love set point” as easily as you reset a thermostat.

You’ll automatically turn up the heat on giving, receiving—and accepting—more love and abundant blessings in your life.

You’ll be able to:

• Open your heart fully and experience deep love from the inside, even in the midst of challenges.
• Enjoy more fulfilling relationships with others AND with yourself.
• Turn off your body’s stress response and turn on your body’s “love response” for better health and well-being.
• Experience greater success and satisfaction.
• Transform your family, community and the world.

This is TRUE LOVE—it’s what your heart wants most deeply and it’s what the world needs most urgently. Whatever your experience of love is right now—whether you’re in pain or feeling content—you can feel the joy and freedom of an even more open heart.

If you’re ready for a more dazzling, love-filled life starting today, click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

IF MARCI’S NAME SOUNDS FAMILIAR…IT SHOULD!

Marci’s the New York Times best-selling author of Happy For No Reason as well as co-author of SIX books in the phenomenally popular Chicken Soup For The Soul series.

Her books have sold more than 15 million copies worldwide in 31 languages! She’s also a featured teacher in the hit film “The Secret.”

In Love for No Reason, Marci shares the most important, life-changing message of all—the one that will dissolve heartache, pain, and emptiness.

You’ll learn the 14 Love Keys she discovered in her extensive research that will bring you lasting joy and fulfillment.

“If only you could love enough,
you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the universe.”
- Emmet Fox

If you want to feel like you’re in love ALL THE TIME, click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

WHY NOW?

Because Love for No Reason is the one thing that can make your 2012 fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams.

AND if you buy Love for No Reason TODAY, you’ll receive The Love for No Reason Gift Package as a BONUS—this includes a powerful recording to remove your blocks to love, audio interviews with famous Love Luminaries, a 5-minute daily love practice, practical ebooks, and much more!

So, I’m heartily recommending this book to EVERYONE I KNOW, giving it an enthusiastic two thumbs up.

If you’re ready to take a giant leap in your experience of love, then this book is for you.

Click here: http://www.TheLoveBook.com

Wishing you a year of extraordinary love,
Hueina

P.S. Marci’s onto something BIG. I’m heartily recommending this breakthrough book to everyone, Get it TODAY, and you’ll also receive the exclusive “Love For No Reason Gift Package” as a BONUS. Click here:
http://www.TheLoveBook.com

WHAT THE EXPERTS ARE SAYING ABOUT LOVE FOR NO REASON:

“Marci Shimoff has her finger on the pulse of the greatest evolutionary leap in the history of humanity—our leap out of fear into the attitudinal matrix of love. In Love for No Reason, she provides to the world…a compelling case for the power of love. This book has answers. And Marci Shimoff is a worthy guide.”

—from the Foreword by Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love

“Love for No Reason helps us establish a foundation of unconditional love that supports greater happiness in our lives. Poignant stories and Marci Shimoff’s characteristic insights guide us to understand at a visceral level how we can love for no reason.”

—Dr. Mehmet Oz, coauthor of YOU: Raising Your Child

“Marci Shimoff has written another life-changing book. In Love for No Reason, she lays out a powerful and comprehensive program that anyone can do to experience a more lasting state of unconditional love. If you want to experience inner fulfillment on a whole new level, read this book.”

—Jack Canfield, New York Times bestselling author of The Success Principles and cocreator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series

Love for No Reason is a brilliant how-to guide for expanding your capacity to love. Highly recommended.

—John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.



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Holiday Stress Relief for the Shy and Sensitive Introverts

Posted by Hueina Su on December 16, 2011 · Leave a Comment 

Are you a shy, sensitive introvert? Do you get overwhelmed easily by noise, light, busy activities, crowded places, trying new things or meeting new people? Are you easily affected by other people’s words, emotions and/or energies? If so, chances are, holidays are stressful and overwhelming for you. With MORE people, things and activities to deal with, it’s very easy to get stress and sensory overload. Can you relate?

Let me tell you a first-hand experience I had last week.

It was the day after the red-carpet premiere of The Keeper of the Keys movie in which I costar with Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray. I had a great time getting all dressed up (the hair and makeup took 2 hours) for the red carpet and hanging out with my fabulous costars. It was surreal to watch myself on the silver screen. The movie was AMAZING!! We partied till past midnight (which was 3 AM Eastern time) on the premiere night. I was exhausted, but I had to get up early that morning for another hair and makeup session for my photo shoot. I hadn’t drank coffee for a while, but, I asked for one that morning before heading down for the photo shoot.



Hueina Su Marci Shimoff Jack Canfield at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

Note to self: Never schedule a photo shoot the morning after a major party!

The photo shoot went well. I tried my best to smile despite my fatigue. It was a LOT of walking, though, in downtown Las Vegas, in my super high heels, which I totally didn’t expect. After an hour of walking around, my feet were killing me and I just wanted to crawl back to bed.



Hueina Su & John Gray at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

That’s when my dear hubby called, saying he and our kids were having lunch near the hotel, asking me if I were going to join them. I asked him to bring me some food and iced tea instead. I really needed a break. When he got back, he was complaining that I didn’t answer his text about what kind of tea I wanted. He questioned why I wouldn’t answer my phone “all morning” or text him back when I “had a break during the photo shoot.” Then he was rushing me to get ready to go to Red Rock Canyon.

Are you kidding me?!! I was really irritated, to say the least. First of all, I told him, I didn’t “have a break” during the photo shoot. We were walking and taking pictures the whole time. And, my phone was on mute, in my purse, which the photographer was carrying for me. Second of all, the entire movie VIP luncheon, premiere night and the photo shoot, even though fun, were official business functions. I was busy working, for God’s sake!

It wasn’t a pretty picture… I was hungry, tired and really cranky. It took great constraint on my part to NOT have a meltdown in front of my kids. On our way to the Red Rock Canyon, you could clearly feel the tension in the air.

After eating some food and meditating to center myself, I felt MUCH better. The gorgeous scenery and fresh air at the Red Rock Canyon uplifted my spirit. We were amazed by the peace and quiet in that magnificent open space. I breathed a sigh of relief, as I took in the beauty all around me, and every cell in my body relaxed. Before long, I was happy playing with my family and snapping tons of pictures (you know how much I love photography). Well, nature proved to be just what I needed to recharge and center myself.



Hueina Su at at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

It was a big lesson for me. Being a shy and sensitive introvert, I’m usually quite mindful of managing my energy – physical, mental and emotional energies. I can strike a pose and enjoy all the glamor and excitement on the red carpet, AS LONG AS I allow enough time to rest and recharge. Having quiet, solitary time every day is extremely important to me. However, on this trip, because of the tight schedule and because I brought my entire family with me, I ended up not having quiet time for myself. Sleep deprivation and low blood sugar made everything worse! Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and I’m so happy that they could share this amazing experience with me. However, if I could do it again, I would’ve built in pockets of quiet time, just for me, every single day. That’s why after returning home, I intentionally unplugged from emails and Internet for a few days, so that I could rest, recharge and process all the exciting experiences from this trip.

Hopefully you’ve learned a valuable lesson from my story too. Here are a few tips for you this holiday season and beyond:

• If you are a shy, sensitive introvert, you need to be mindful of your activities and energy level. To avoid sensory overload, plan your day and activities carefully. Try not to schedule too many activities that are taxing for you physically, mentally or emotionally.
• Build in enough quiet time and rest every day, so you can recharge and stay centered. Practice meditation, spend time in nature, or simply sit quietly. Let yourself sleep in or take a nap when you need it.
• Use stress relief techniques and tools such as deep breathing, yoga, and visualization. Therapeutic-grade essential oils are an excellent tool for stress relief, managing energy level and emotional healing. Just make sure you are using the therapeutic-grade essential oils so you don’t end up burdening your body with allergens and chemical toxins.
• Practice Intensive Self-Care and self-compassion. Ask yourself: “What’s the most loving thing I can do for me right now?”
• Set good boundaries on what kind of people you interact with. Try to surround yourself with positive people and limit your time with people who drain your energy.
• Know that what other people think of you, how they feel or act are NOT your business. You can only control your own thoughts, emotions and actions.
• Give yourself permission to say NO. You don’t have to accept every single invitation to holiday gatherings.
• Focus on what really matters to YOU and let other stuff slide.

Most important of all, be fully present and ENJOY the holidays!

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.



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The KEEPER of the KEYS Star Hueina Su Reveals the Secret to a Happy and Stress-Free Life

Posted by PR on November 20, 2011 · Leave a Comment 

Best-selling author, international keynote speaker and evolutionary leader, star in “The Keeper of the Keys” personal development film, Hueina Su delivers keynote address at an International Medical and Healthcare Conference.

Su addressed over 700 doctors, nurses, hospital administrators, healthcare executives, univeristy professors, medical affairs directors, and healthcare policy makers.

In this segment of keynote address, Su presented a step-by-step stress management strategy to stop, drop and roll out of stress, overwhelm and burnout.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s keynote speaking, coaching, training, consulting and products visit www.HueinaSu.com.

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About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.



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