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Would you like to know how to claim your personal power and confidence? How do you remain calm, centered and confident no matter what’s going on “out there”? When unspeakable tragedies like the Boston Marathon bombing happen, how do you find your peace of mind?

Please join me today (April 18th at 7PM EST) as I will be interviewed on The Positivity Project, an online speaker series hosted by my friends Katherine Poehnert & Alan Cohen. On this call, we will discuss:

• The 8 Invisible Chaos that keep you fearful, stuck, broke, unhappy, shooting yourself in the foot and beating yourself up over and over
• A powerful 3-step process to help you BE calm, centered and confident when everything is falling apart
• One decision you MUST make to release self-doubt, self-sabotage, pain, anxiety, hidden shame & guilt
• What you can learn about personal power from ancient Taoist wisdom and martial arts
• Why you cannot fully claim your personal power if you try to avoid negative emotions
• A counterintuitive way to claim your personal power

There is no cost to join this call, and if you can’t make the live call, you have 48 hours to listen to the recording. But, I do encourage you to call in LIVE if you can. You can ask me questions right on the call too.

Here’s the link to sign up ~> http://bit.ly/ZiJeKl

Hope to “see” you on the call tonight!

Change does not have to be hard IF…

Whether you feel like you’re forced to make a change, or, your heart is telling you it’s time for a change, there is NO DOUBT that change is in the air. Yes, change is in the air you and I are breathing – the air that we need for survival. There is no escaping from it.

I know many of you are going through tough transitions right now. I also know some of you are feeling restless, anxious and know in your heart of hearts that you NEED to make a change. You feel excited and eager for a change, but also nervous about the unknown and unsure of yourself. Do you resonate with this?

The question is not whether/when there is change in your life. The question is, “How well are you coping with change?”

And, when it’s time for you to take a leap of faith, do you have the COURAGE and CONFIDENCE to do so?

If your answer is not a resounding YES, then you need to take advantage of the new program I’m offering.

http://www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

If you missed the Navigating Change with Grace and Ease Teleseminar where I shared how to tap into the energy of the Water Dragon and the 4 C’s you need to thrive in 2012, you can listen to the recording on that page too.

Here’s the thing, as with everything in life, you can do it the hard way, or you can do it the easy way. Change does NOT have to be hard **IF** you have the right mindset, the right how-to and the right support.

It IS possible to allow more grace, ease and peace of mind, even in the toughest transition or the most tragic moment. It IS possible to preserve your self-esteem and self-confidence even after a huge setback or failure. It IS possible to bounce back and reinvent yourself over and over. It IS possible to finally let go of the past and move forward.

There are very specific INNER and OUTER action steps you must take, in order to thrive in change with more grace and ease. I’d like to teach you how to do that. Your job is to make a CHOICE to accept my support.

Join Navigating Change with Grace and Ease Program Today

In this intimate *interactive & experiential* group program you will learn:

–Take the L.E.A.P. — my proprietary 4 step process to help you take the leap of faith and thrive

–Kwan Yin’s W.A.V.E. Formula for abundance manifestation (Kwan Yin is the Goddess of Compassion in Chinese Buddhism)

–Specific Mindset Shifts you must make to thrive in change, allow grace, attract abundance and success

–4 C’s for Thriving in Change — processes to cultivate Clarity, Courage, Confidence, Commitment

–Emotional Healing Techniques that are based on ancient wisdom, modern neuroscience research and cutting edge healing technology — help you let go past emotional traumas and dramas, overcome fears and anxiety, release self-limiting beliefs, and become aligned & congruent for success

–Daily Energy Management Techniques – to stay centered & balanced, protect your bio-energetic field so you won’t be drained by toxic people and toxic energy in the environment

–Grounding techniques I’ve used to help me win 10 gold medals in state, regional and international martial arts championships.

I’m designing the program to be interactive and experiential, because I know first hand — through 24 years of helping others go through all kinds of challenges and difficult transitions, as well as my own share of challenges — how critical it is to tackle BOTH external and internal barriers, to make the changes from the inside out, and to be congruent and aligned with who you are (not just what you do, or what you say you want). Merely understanding the theory or taking the external actions WITHOUT making the internal changes will set yourself up for more struggles and suffering. Furthermore, you’ll end up repeating the same negative pattern over and over.

It’s just as important to release the past emotional traumas and self-defeating beliefs as it is to work on practical action steps. In fact, I’m convinced that if you want to uplevel your success, you MUST work on uplevel your self FIRST. Sometimes you are required to reinvent yourself personally and/or professionally, which I have done successfully many times myself and I can help you do the same.

There are several great bonuses when you sign up for the program. And, I have decided to extend the Special Early Bird Tuition Monday May 28, so you have more time to listen to the recording and sign up for the program.

Get all the details and register here:

http://www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

I received so much positive feedback for “Navigating Change with Grace and Ease” Teleseminar. What a powerful call it was! We had a few hundred people signed up for the Teleseminar. If you missed it, no worries, you can listen to the recording now.

http://www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

There’s no need to register again to listen to the recording. You can also download the MP3 to your own computer or iPod.

Don’t delay – listen to the recording ASAP. Remember, you can SAVE $50 if you register for the 3-session group program by end of Monday 5/28!

Get the recording and all details about the program here:

http://www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

I’m excited about this new program and I’d love to welcome and support YOU in this **intimate and interactive** group. Please let me know if you have any questions.

Peace & Joy,

Hueina

P.S. Please forward this email to all your friends & family who are going through challenging change & transitions. They will really appreciate it.

Navigate Change with Grace and Ease

2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon, which occurs every 60 years. From a Feng Shui standpoint, the year of the Water Dragon brings many possibilities for good fortune. In Chinese 5 elements theory, water produces wood, which signifies growth and is the natural element of the dragon. Dragons are the most powerful mystical creatures in the Chinese culture, and legend has it that the emperor that rules the 7 seas is the dragon. In Chinese legend, dragons are shape-shifters, and water shares the same shape-shifting property. Water Dragon personifies creativity at its best. So, you can imagine, the year of the Water Dragon is a powerful year of transformation and there’s no coincidence that 2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon. What does this all mean to you? Great shifts are on the horizon and there’s no escaping from it. If you think last year was tough with a lot of shifts, changes and break-downs, this year will be even more intense! Buckle up and prepare for an exciting ride! Bottom Line: You must learn how to adapt and thrive in change. When you’re faced with change, are you excited and confident? Or, are you stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap? I am hosting a FREE Teleseminar tomorrow to teach you how to navigate change with grace, ease, confidence and peace of mind.

Navigating Change with Grace and Ease FREE Teleseminar You will learn: What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon One critical mindset shift you must make right now The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence The 2 saving grace that will overcome any fears 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks 3 mistakes you must avoid if you want to thrive in change How to be victorious despite ANY adversity Date: Tuesday May 15 Time: 1 pm ET (12 pm Central, 10 am Pacific) Cost: there’s no cost to attend *We will record the Teleseminar for you.

For more information and to Sign Up Now visit: http://www.hueinasu.com/navigating-change-call

Are You Frozen in Fear in the Face of Change?

Lately it seems like everyone I talk to is facing some kind of change or transition. According to Buddha, “The only constant in life is change.” Change is a part of life and there’s NO escaping from it. You’d think that we should be really great at it with all the “practices” we’ve had in our lives, career/business, relationships, health etc. However, most people are really inept in coping with change.

Instead of feeling excited and confident about change, most people are stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap. Some admit they are frozen in fear, like they are standing (or HANGING) at the edge of a cliff, and any mis-step could result in a horrible death. They just stand there, unable to breathe, unable to move. Can you relate to this?

I know that feeling so well because I’ve been there many times. Now, I have thrived in many dramatic changes in my life, such as moving from Asia to the U.S. in my twenties (speaking little English and knowing almost no one); thriving in many industries (ranging from nursing, counseling, consulting, coaching, education, nonprofit management, freelance, small business & sales etc); living in 4 states in 6 calendar years with two babies in tow; coping with my husband’s job loss when he was the sole bread-winner and we had a house and 2 kids under age 4; winning Black Belt and 10 gold medals in my 30s and 40s despite injuries and fears; recovering from various illnesses and surgeries…

You get the picture. I’ve been through A LOT of changes, I’ve had to start over many times, and I’m REALLY good at thriving in change. In addition, I’ve had 24 years of experience in nursing, counseling and coaching, where I’ve helped people going through all sorts of challenges and difficult changes in their lives, such as job loss, cancer, death of loved ones, divorce, financial crisis, depression, suicide, etc. You name it, I’ve seen it all.

Even so, I’m not immune to fear. In fact, I’ve had many frozen-in-fear, on-my-knees moments.

When you are faced with change, you need to think clearly, make the right decisions, and take swift actions. However, when fear grabs you by your throat and your emotions hijack your mind, all you can see is worse-case scenarios. Like the cliff-hanger, you try to hang on to what you think is safe with a death grip (pun intended), not knowing what you perceive to be safe (i.e. hanging on to the cliff) might ultimately lead to your demise.

I was reminded of this lesson recently when I almost turned down perhaps the greatest opportunity for my business. I was extremely anxious about the risks involved, what would other people think, what if I made a mistake and failed, etc. UNTIL my coach reminded me to focus on the opportunities, not the risks. It’s like a boulder lifted off my chest and I can finally breathe and seize the opportunity. When you are frozen in fear, you need someone who can see objectively point out the right direction for you. A professional coach such as myself can do that.

As the famous quote by John Burroughs goes, “Leap and the net will appear.” Learn to trust yourself and have faith in the Universe. When you leap in faith, the net will appear, or you might realize you’ve been wearing a parachute on your back all along. But, you’ll never know until you take the leap.

If you are too afraid to take a giant leap of faith right now, take a baby step instead. Any action is better than staying stuck. Remember the cliff-hanger — the longer you wait, you’ll have less options and more risks. So, make a DECISION and take ACTION now. What’s one baby step you can take today?

If you are having challenges going through change in your life, career/business, relationship and/or health, make sure you sign up for my upcoming FREE Teleseminar “Navigating Change with Grace and Ease” now.

In this Teleseminar you will learn:

• What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon (2012)
• The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence
• The 2 things that will overcome any fears while you’re going through change
• 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks
• 3 pitfalls you must avoid
• How to be victorious despite ANY adversity
  

Sign up for this NO COST Teleseminar here.

Is Your Perfectionism Keeping You Stuck?

If you are a high-achiever, you always aim for excellence and achievement. You don’t mind working extra hard, going the extra mile in order to achieve your goals. However, in the name of pursuing excellence, it’s very common for high-achievers to fall prey to perfectionism. There’s a fine line between being excellent and being perfect. The desire to be excellent motivates you to move forward and be the best you can be. On the flip side, the need to be perfect fills you with anxiety and self-doubt, runs you ragged and keeps you stuck.

Your Inner Perfectionist may sound like this:

• I have to be perfect OR ELSE!
• If I’m not perfect, I’m a complete failure.
• People are waiting for me to fail and they will laugh at me.
• I’m not trying hard enough, otherwise I would’ve been perfect.
• Why can’t I pull it off like “everybody else”? What’s wrong with me?
• If I’m not perfect, nobody will love me.
• I can’t afford to make any mistakes.
• I have to be the best in everything I do.
• I’m so afraid of making the wrong choices or wrong moves that I’ve lost confidence in myself.
• If I can’t make it perfect (or, If I’m not sure I can succeed), why do I even bother getting started?
• If I don’t finish it, I won’t have to find out how imperfect (what a loser) I am.

Does it sound familiar? How does reading these statements make you FEEL – physically and emotionally? Do you tend to set impossibly high standards for yourself (and others) and beat yourself up over and over for not reaching your goals? If you feel anxious, frustrated, stuck in analysis paralysis, chest tightening, hyperventilating, paralyzed by fear of failure, with an extra dose of self-doubt or even self-loathing, you are probably a perfectionist. And the higher your aspirations are, the more severely affected you would be by perfectionism. The more successful you are, the more problematic perfectionism would manifest in your life, your health, your relationships and career/business.

Be honest: Is your Inner Perfectionist running you ragged these days? I know, because I’ve been there myself.

Last week I was invited by my Taiwanese sister Andrea J. Lee to speak via video at her 2012 The Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea asked me to share my experience in The Keeper of the Keys movie (which I costar with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff), and offer advice for attendees who are considering a movie project like this in the future.

If you are in the coaching & personal development industry, you’d know it’s a great honor to be included in Andrea’s Wealthy Thought Leader event. Andrea is known for teaching thought leaders on how to stay ahead of the curve, make money AND meaning via innovation. Her annual Wealthy Thought Leader event (it’s her 4th this year) in Vancouver, B.C. always attracts high-caliber speakers and thought leaders from all over the world. So, imagine my joy and surprise when I got a message from Andrea inviting me to share my experience at her event. And since she asked for a video sharing, I don’t even have to worry about flying over there. I was so excited!

There’s only one caveat: I got Andrea’s email on Sunday night, asking me if I can send her my video by Tuesday, or the latest Wednesday (her event starts on Thursday morning).

“Oh, I wish I had more time to work on this!!” my Inner Perfectionist piped up right away.

I assured her, “That’s okay, it’s only a very short video (5 min) and we can make it.” She insisted, “But, Hueina, this is your very first contact with Andrea’s community, and there will be so many accomplished thought leaders there. You want to make a perfect first impression. It’s very important, you know.” Well, first impression IS important. I can’t argue with that!

Then, my Inner Good Girl chimed in, “And Hueina, it’s such an honor that Andrea asked you to do this. It’s important to her and you don’t want to disappoint her.” The Inner Good Girl is the one who always wants to be a “good girl” and do good. She is all concerned about being proper, doing things right and making others happy (often at the cost of her own well-being). I started to feel a little pressure on my chest. Well, I do want to give Andrea and her community a great video that brings value to them; however, I do not want to get stressed out over this.

Been there, done there. Not again.

Instead, my intention was to make this video with JOY and offer it as my gift to Andrea and her community. I wanted to have a little FUN in the process as well (fun is one of my highest core values). Knowing the persuasive power of my Inner Perfectionist, and fully aware of my time constraints, I made a deal with her right off the bat. I told her that I agreed with her that we wanted to present a high-quality video that represents me well, and brings high value for Andrea’s community. On the other hand, I made it clear to her that we needed to stick to my schedule and honor my other business and family commitments (and it goes without saying that I would keep my self-care as well). AND, I wanted to aim for being professional and authentic, NOT perfect.

With the ground rules set, I looked at my business and family schedule, and picked out a couple small blocks of time for this project. I knew I most likely won’t be able to record and edit the video in one sitting. Trying to do everything all at once would probably tire me out. On the other hand, I knew I had to give myself and my Inner Perfectionist a deadline, otherwise I’ll be spending WAY too much time and energy working on “perfecting” the video. Can you relate to this?

So, my Inner Perfectionist and I went to work – first in our head, planning out what we’d like to share based on Andrea’s questions. As it turned out, it’s not easy to condense all I wanted to share in 5 minutes, without feeling rushed or speaking at a frantic pace (that wouldn’t be peaceful or powerful, would it?) The creative in me had so many ideas, and I wouldn’t and couldn’t settle for a boring “talking head” video. So, I decided to include a snippet of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer, and used a short clip of my segment in the movie to illustrate my point of telling deeply personal story in a powerful way. By the way, that’s how you can connect with the audience, stand out and be memorable.

I was excited by this new idea, so I planned out the video and recorded my speaking part. Next is the editing part – stringing everything together. Of course, every step of the way, my Inner Perfectionist was by my side, relentlessly reminding me to be perfect and fiercely pointing out my flaws. Every time she did that, I thanked her for trying to help and patiently but firmly reminded her the ground rules we’ve agreed on. Reminding myself my intention to bring value instead of trying to create a perfect video really helped. When I used up the time I’ve set for myself to complete this project, I saved the video, and sent it to Andrea right away. She told me she loved the video and they way I’ve designed it, with commentary and snippets of the movie trailer as well as my story. When she showed the video at The Wealthy Thought Leader event last Friday, I got so many praises and accolades from the live audience as well as simulcast attendees. Even days after I still got messages from Facebook thanking me for my sharing.

So, what can you learn from my experience? Here are 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism:

1. When opportunity knocks, you need to take decisively swift action. Successful people are action-takers. The rule of thumb is, ALWAYS SAY YES first, then figure out how to get it done.

2. Set a clear intention before you commit to or start a new project. What do you intend to achieve as the end result? (hint: aim for anything but absolute perfection.) Also, what do you intend to experience in the process and as a result of this project? For example, joy, fun, connecting with others, learning something new, making a difference, feeling proud of yourself, etc.

3. Set a clear time frame for you to work on the project. This is for you if you have a tendency to not finish your project, procrastinate like crazy, or spend FOREVER trying to make it perfect.

4. Before you start anything, set ground rules for yourself and your Inner Perfectionist, and firmly reinforce these rules. In my coaching, I teach my clients specific ways to communicate with their Inner Perfectionists and turn them into helpers, not tyrants who boss them around until they are totally run down.

5. Acknowledge and praise yourself for your efforts and progress (no matter how little), not just the end result. Practice loving kindness and Intensive Self-Care.

6. Know that your Inner Perfectionist (with her magnifying glass and white cotton gloves) is probably the only one who can see your flaws. To other people, you are probably quite amazing.

7. Remember, good enough is good enough. If you are offering something (be it your words or gifts of any kind), as long as it’s from your heart and you have done your best, it’s more than good enough.

So there you have it. My 7 tips for overcoming perfectionism. There’s no extra charge for the typos.

Here’s the video I shared at The Wealthy Thought Leader event, which included snippets of The Keeper of the Keys movie trailer and MY segment in the movie. Check it out!!

If the video player does not work, use this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nt10J1VljxE

P.S. If you are stumped by perfectionism, you might have other Invisible Chaos too! Sign up for my FREE Claim Your Peaceful Power Success Activation Kit and learn how to tame your Invisible Chaos for lasting inner peace, joy and true confidence.

P.P.S. You can order The Keeper of the Keys DVD on my website here.

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