[VIDEO] New Moon, Solar Eclipse and What to Do When You Feel Anxious or Lost During a Major Life or Career Transition

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Are you going through a major personal or career transition, and feeling very anxious, frustrated or lost? Are you beating yourself up for not progressing as quickly as you’d like to? Are you having a confidence crisis or identity crisis? So many of my coaching clients & colleagues are going through very challenging, major life or career transitions right now.

Tonight we have a New Moon and Solar Eclipse. You may or may not be aware that we are going through a HUGE energetic shift right now — a portal to release what no longer serves us, so we can move forward in our journey. I felt called to make this video for you, and I hope you’d find it helpful.

Here is the video:

As I mentioned in the video, I’ve helped many high-achieving women navigate this type of major life or career transitions, and I’ve gone through a few cycles of such “Metamorphosis” myself. So, I can relate, and I know how to help. If you are going through similar challenges, and would like to explore coaching with me, visit my website here to learn more and sign up for a complimentary Initial Consultation. 

Please like & share this video with anyone who might benefit from my message. Thanks!

Until next time, please remember to take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable. Sending you so much love.

 

P.S. You can sign up for a complimentary Initial Consultation with me here: www.hueinasu.com/offerings

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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[Video] My Unconventional Valentine’s Day Wish for You

Chinese New Year’s day and Super Bowl are behind us, you know what’s coming up next… Valentine’s Day! It’s a day to celebrate romantic love, and depending where you are in your life or in your relationship, the thought of celebrating Valentine’s Day can be passionate and exciting, OR it can cause a lot of anxiety and stress. Or maybe a little bit of both.

Whether you’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day with a loved one or not, I’d like to offer you this very unconventional & very personal Valentine’s Day wish for you. This is a video I made a few years ago. I remember I was driving home from doing my annual Chinese New Year’s presentation at my son’s school (hence the traditional Chinese dress), and suddenly felt very compelled to make a video to share this message. I got home and made this video right away. No rehearsal. Just straight from my heart.

When I watched it again today, the message is still very poignant and true. I believe this would make a great Valentine’s Day message for you, especially if you have ever felt like you are “not good enough”, “can’t fit in”, “can’t measure up” and “there’s something wrong with me”…. This message is for YOU.

You see, growing up, I’ve always felt there’s something wrong with me and I couldn’t fit in or measure up. Trying to be a “Good Girl” is incredibly stressful and sometimes very demoralizing. Until a few years ago, I made this one decision and EVERYTHING changed…

What was that one decision, you ask? That’s what I wanted to share with you in this video. I hope you enjoy it. I’d love to hear from you after you watch it. Please feel free to share it with anyone who needs this message today. Namaste. <3

Happy Valentine’s Day!! Don’t forget to celebrate YOU as well. I’m sending you so much love…

Watch the video here or click on the image below.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Are You Black And Blue from Beating Yourself Up?

Not Good Enough

If you’re on any social media, you might recall that back in February, #TheDress became arguably the most viral story in the history of viral Internet stories. It was a picture of a dress that in some lighting looked black and blue, and in other times appeared to be white and gold. The silly debates and viral meme aside, one good thing came out of it… The Salvation Army in South Africa used the viral sensation to create an ad campaign for domestic violence awareness. One in six women are victims of abuse, according to Salvation Army’s tweet. The ad copy reads “Why is it so hard to see black and blue? The only illusion is if you think it was her choice.”

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Domestic violence is an important and serious issue. However, I’d argue that there’s another kind of violence against women (and men too) that is just as serious but often overlooked. What I’m referring to is violence against ourselves. 

As you know, oftentimes we are our own biggest critic and worst enemy. As high achievers, we tend to be so hard on ourselves. Do you beat yourself up? A little? A lot? All the time?

Are you honoring your own core values and priorities? Are you honoring your SELF? Are you treating yourself and your loved ones with love, respect, compassion, and tender loving care?

OR… Are you often “black and blue” from beating yourself up? How often do you deny yourself your own heart’s desires and the TLC you deserve?

Maybe you have incredibly high (or unrealistic) standards and expectations for yourself, and nothing you do is ever good enough. Maybe you keep picking on yourself about your “not-enoughness” such as “I’m not good enough, thin enough, smart enough, pretty enough or (fill in the blank) enough”, “I didn’t try hard enough”, “I didn’t give/care/help enough”, “I’m not a good enough mom/wife/daughter”, etc. You get the idea.

Maybe you keep beating yourself up for what you have or have not done in the past. Maybe you keep telling yourself that you’ll never achieve your goal, find your soul mate, realize your dreams, because there’s something fundamentally wrong with you and you don’t deserve the good things in life.

Perhaps every time you look in the mirror, all you can see is all the flaws and imperfections on your face and body. Instead of appreciating your own unique beauty, and what your body has done for you, all you can think of is more reasons to put yourself down or beat yourself up.

Tell me: Can you see the black and blue from all this beating you’ve done on yourself?

Whoever said “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” was WAY off base. Words — whether spoken words, written words, or words in your head — DO hurt, and the injuries they inflict are often more serious and long-lasting than those caused by sticks and stones. 

Last weekend, my husband and I got into a car accident, and I was rushed to ER. Fortunately, no bones were broken, but I suffered soft tissue injuries to my neck and back. Those injuries don’t show up on the X-ray, and they are not visible to the naked eye, but, it doesn’t mean that they are not there or not serious.

By the same token, the kind of violence and injuries we inflict on ourselves with our words and thoughts are not visible, but, the traumas are usually deep and long-lasting.

If you make a point to pay attention to what you say to yourself throughout the day, you might feel surprised, shocked and/or really sad. Seriously, some of the words we say to ourselves, we probably would NEVER say to anyone else, because they are so unkind, mean or downright abusive. Only bullies would say those things to their victims!

So, if you are black and blue from beating yourself up, what can you do? There are many ways to cultivate self-love, self-compassion and self-acceptance. Here are 3 ideas for you to try:

1. Set up self-love reminders. To change your perpetual habit of criticizing and judging yourself, and cultivate the new habit of loving and accepting yourself, you need a LOT of practice and reminders. You can post affirmations and reminders such as “I love and accept myself completely”, “I am whole and complete just the way I am”, “Be kind to yourself” all over your house and/or office. If you use a smart phone, you can set these up as reminders to show up on your phone every day at a certain time (or multiple times a day). Or, use them as your computer’s screen saver.

2. Pay attention to your self-talk. Every time you catch yourself saying critical words to yourself, STOP, and replace those critical words/thoughts with loving, compassionate words toward yourself.

3. Talk to your Inner Child. If you make a mistake or fail to meet your own (or someone else’s) expectations, instead of beating yourself up, immediately tell yourself, “It’s okay. I still love you. I will always love you, no matter what.” It’s even more effective if you imagine you are saying this to your Inner Child and comforting her, telling her that you will always love her, accept her and protect her, no matter what. You can visualize your younger self and imagine you are speaking to her and giving her a hug. I have one of my favorite childhood pictures as my iPhone’s screen saver. So, I always have a visual reference of my Inner Child, and a constant reminder to be kind to her. Alternatively, you can stand in front of a mirror, look into your own eyes while you say these words to yourself with as much love as possible. At first you might feel very awkward. That’s normal. With practice, it will get easier to look at yourself with love and compassion, and you WILL feel a difference.

ADVANCED TIP: Instead of trying to silence your Inner Critic or Inner Bully (which doesn’t work very well, as you’ve probably found out by yourself), there is a process to coach your Inner Critic and transform her/him into your ally. This is something we can work on during our coaching sessions. I can guide you through this process.

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Louise Hay said, “You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

Are you willing to give it a try? Is this the year you FINALLY put your health and Intensive Self-Care on top of your list, and learn to LOVE and ACCEPT yourself no matter what?

If you are READY and WILLING to make some positive changes in your life, in your self-care, and in cultivating self-love & self-compassion, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation with me by phone or Skype, and let’s explore how coaching with me can be the right support for YOU.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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The One Decision That Saved My Life

The One Decision The Saved My Life

This Wednesday, I celebrated my 49th birthday. Wow, I’m almost half a century old (I know, I don’t look or feel like that)!! As a result, you can probably imagine, I’m in a celebratory and more contemplative mood this week. I’d like to share with you some birthday musings and some inspiration with you.

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The picture on the left was taken a few days before my birthday in 1991, and the picture on the right was taken on my birthday this year. Two pictures. Twenty-four years apart. When I look at the pictures side by side, I look and feel like a totally different person. Back in 1991, I was in graduate school, stressed out from studying in a foreign country, while going through several painful relationship break-ups. I was painfully shy, insecure and desperately craving love and acceptance from Prince Charming. I didn’t know I was beautiful, lovable and worthy of love. I didn’t know that I need to give love and approval to MYSELF, instead of trying to get love and approval from others. Ironically, I kept attracting men who cheated on me and broke my heart into pieces. It was after 3 men in a row cheated on me that I completely fell apart, and that triggered a profound spiritual awakening for me. I made ONE DECISION that saved my life and turned my life around.

When I look at my younger self, my heart is filled with compassion for her, and gratitude for how far I have come, and WHO I have become.

In my segment in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys (starring Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff), I shared that spiritual awakening experience, the ONE DECISION that saved my life, and the advice I’d give to my younger self. I’d like to share my segment with you today, because I know you will gain some inspiration and insights from watching it.

If I were to ask you to look back at your younger self, what comes to mind? In what way are you different from your younger self? What are you most proud about who you are today? What advice would you give to your younger self? What self-loving commitments would you make to YOURSELF?

As for my birthday celebrations… My daughter was leaving for college last Saturday, my husband was leaving for a 6-day business trip on Sunday, and my son informed me that he will be having dinner with his buddies on my birthday. Since we moved from NJ to VA a few months ago, all my good friends, cousins & sisters are at least 3-6 hours away. That means, I’d be celebrating my birthday all by myself. :( Good thing I had the foresight to get myself a birthday cake last Friday, so that my family could celebrate my birthday in advance, while everyone was home. :)

On my actual birthday, I took myself to a day spa for a 90-min massage. It’s one of my favorite birthday traditions FOR myself. Even when I was going through some dark times in the last few years, I kept up this self-loving tradition, which I’m proud and grateful for. I usually hang out in the quiet room of the spa afterwards to reflect and set intentions for the new year. This year, I couldn’t find a full-feature day spa like the one I loved in NJ, but, I did find a nice spa that offers a rose and lavender massage. I was intrigued because the description says it includes a dry body brushing, flowing full body massage with rose & lavender cream, and being “cocooned” in a bed of rose petals while enjoying scalp and neck massage. Being “cocooned” like in a butterfly chrysalis? You know how much I LOVE butterflies. Of course I wanted to try that! It was very relaxing, indeed. Then, I tried a new Asian fusion restaurant, because I was craving sushi. Imagine my surprise, when I saw the “Caterpillar Roll” on the menu. Wow, another sign about butterflies! Of course, I HAD to try the Caterpillar Roll along with sashimi. They were both delicious and I was so impressed by the presentation! Another surprise was that my son texted me an hour before dinner, saying his dinner plan got cancelled, so he could now have dinner with me. YIPEEE! We went to our favorite Thai place near our home and had a great time! I feel so blessed and grateful for all the love and birthday wishes from my family and friends.

Now, go watch my video (see below). I bet you can relate to my story on some level, as so many people who watched that movie have told me so. I have a hunch that it might help you in some way. I’d love to hear your story and what you think of the video. Please leave your comment below, OK? If I can support you on your journey in any way, please do not hesitate to contact me.

More importantly, please take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable.

Here is The Keeper of the Keys video. Enjoy! If you love my segment, you’d want to order your own copy of The Keeper of The Keys movie DVD here.

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About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Tune in Tonight to Claim Your Personal Power and Confidence

Would you like to know how to claim your personal power and confidence? How do you remain calm, centered and confident no matter what’s going on “out there”? When unspeakable tragedies like the Boston Marathon bombing happen, how do you find your peace of mind?

Please join me today (April 18th at 7PM EST) as I will be interviewed on The Positivity Project, an online speaker series hosted by my friends Katherine Poehnert & Alan Cohen. On this call, we will discuss:

  • The 8 Invisible Chaos that keep you fearful, stuck, broke, unhappy, shooting yourself in the foot and beating yourself up over and over
  • A powerful 3-step process to help you BE calm, centered and confident when everything is falling apart
  • One decision you MUST make to release self-doubt, self-sabotage, pain, anxiety, hidden shame & guilt
  • What you can learn about personal power from ancient Taoist wisdom and martial arts
  • Why you cannot fully claim your personal power if you try to avoid negative emotions
  • A counterintuitive way to claim your personal power

There is no cost to join this call, and if you can’t make the live call, you have 48 hours to listen to the recording. But, I do encourage you to call in LIVE if you can. You can ask me questions right on the call too.

Here’s the link to sign up ~> bit.ly/ZiJeKl

Hope to “see” you on the call tonight!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Change does not have to be hard IF…

Whether you feel like you’re forced to make a change, or, your heart is telling you it’s time for a change, there is NO DOUBT that change is in the air. Yes, change is in the air you and I are breathing – the air that we need for survival. There is no escaping from it.

I know many of you are going through tough transitions right now. I also know some of you are feeling restless, anxious and know in your heart of hearts that you NEED to make a change. You feel excited and eager for a change, but also nervous about the unknown and unsure of yourself. Do you resonate with this?

The question is not whether/when there is change in your life. The question is, “How well are you coping with change?”

And, when it’s time for you to take a leap of faith, do you have the COURAGE and CONFIDENCE to do so?

If your answer is not a resounding YES, then you need to take advantage of the new program I’m offering.

www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

If you missed the Navigating Change with Grace and Ease Teleseminar where I shared how to tap into the energy of the Water Dragon and the 4 C’s you need to thrive in 2012, you can listen to the recording on that page too.

Here’s the thing, as with everything in life, you can do it the hard way, or you can do it the easy way. Change does NOT have to be hard **IF** you have the right mindset, the right how-to and the right support.

It IS possible to allow more grace, ease and peace of mind, even in the toughest transition or the most tragic moment. It IS possible to preserve your self-esteem and self-confidence even after a huge setback or failure. It IS possible to bounce back and reinvent yourself over and over. It IS possible to finally let go of the past and move forward.

There are very specific INNER and OUTER action steps you must take, in order to thrive in change with more grace and ease. I’d like to teach you how to do that. Your job is to make a CHOICE to accept my support.

Join Navigating Change with Grace and Ease Program Today

In this intimate *interactive & experiential* group program you will learn:

Take the L.E.A.P. — my proprietary 4 step process to help you take the leap of faith and thrive

Kwan Yin’s W.A.V.E. Formula for abundance manifestation (Kwan Yin is the Goddess of Compassion in Chinese Buddhism)

–Specific Mindset Shifts you must make to thrive in change, allow grace, attract abundance and success

4 C’s for Thriving in Change — processes to cultivate Clarity, Courage, Confidence, Commitment

–Emotional Healing Techniques that are based on ancient wisdom, modern neuroscience research and cutting edge healing technology — help you let go past emotional traumas and dramas, overcome fears and anxiety, release self-limiting beliefs, and become aligned & congruent for success

Daily Energy Management Techniques – to stay centered & balanced, protect your bio-energetic field so you won’t be drained by toxic people and toxic energy in the environment

Grounding techniques I’ve used to help me win 10 gold medals in state, regional and international martial arts championships.

I’m designing the program to be interactive and experiential, because I know first hand — through 24 years of helping others go through all kinds of challenges and difficult transitions, as well as my own share of challenges — how critical it is to tackle BOTH external and internal barriers, to make the changes from the inside out, and to be congruent and aligned with who you are (not just what you do, or what you say you want). Merely understanding the theory or taking the external actions WITHOUT making the internal changes will set yourself up for more struggles and suffering. Furthermore, you’ll end up repeating the same negative pattern over and over.

It’s just as important to release the past emotional traumas and self-defeating beliefs as it is to work on practical action steps. In fact, I’m convinced that if you want to uplevel your success, you MUST work on uplevel your self FIRST. Sometimes you are required to reinvent yourself personally and/or professionally, which I have done successfully many times myself and I can help you do the same.

There are several great bonuses when you sign up for the program. And, I have decided to extend the Special Early Bird Tuition Monday May 28, so you have more time to listen to the recording and sign up for the program.

Get all the details and register here:

www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

I received so much positive feedback for “Navigating Change with Grace and Ease” Teleseminar. What a powerful call it was! We had a few hundred people signed up for the Teleseminar. If you missed it, no worries, you can listen to the recording now.

www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

There’s no need to register again to listen to the recording. You can also download the MP3 to your own computer or iPod.

Don’t delay – listen to the recording ASAP. Remember, you can SAVE $50 if you register for the 3-session group program by end of Monday 5/28!

Get the recording and all details about the program here:

www.hueinasu.com/programs/change

I’m excited about this new program and I’d love to welcome and support YOU in this **intimate and interactive** group. Please let me know if you have any questions.

Peace & Joy,

Hueina

P.S. Please forward this email to all your friends & family who are going through challenging change & transitions. They will really appreciate it.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Navigate Change with Grace and Ease

2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon, which occurs every 60 years. From a Feng Shui standpoint, the year of the Water Dragon brings many possibilities for good fortune. In Chinese 5 elements theory, water produces wood, which signifies growth and is the natural element of the dragon. Dragons are the most powerful mystical creatures in the Chinese culture, and legend has it that the emperor that rules the 7 seas is the dragon. In Chinese legend, dragons are shape-shifters, and water shares the same shape-shifting property. Water Dragon personifies creativity at its best.

So, you can imagine, the year of the Water Dragon is a powerful year of transformation and there’s no coincidence that 2012 is the Year of the Water Dragon.

What does this all mean to you? Great shifts are on the horizon and there’s no escaping from it. If you think last year was tough with a lot of shifts, changes and break-downs, this year will be even more intense! Buckle up and prepare for an exciting ride!

Bottom Line: You must learn how to adapt and thrive in change.

When you’re faced with change, are you excited and confident? Or, are you stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap?

I am hosting a FREE Teleseminar tomorrow to teach you how to navigate change with grace, ease, confidence and peace of mind.

Navigating Change with Grace and Ease FREE Teleseminar

You will learn:

  • What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon
  • One critical mindset shift you must make right now
  • The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence
  • The 2 saving grace that will overcome any fears
  • 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks
  • 3 mistakes you must avoid if you want to thrive in change
  • How to be victorious despite ANY adversity

Date: Tuesday May 15
Time: 1 pm ET (12 pm Central, 10 am Pacific)
Cost: there’s no cost to attend
*We will record the Teleseminar for you.

For more information and to Sign Up Now visit: www.hueinasu.com/navigating-change-call
About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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