Lately it seems like everyone I talk to is facing some kind of change or transition. According to Buddha, “The only constant in life is change.” Change is a part of life and there’s NO escaping from it. You’d think that we should be really great at it with all the “practices” we’ve had in our lives, career/business, relationships, health etc. However, most people are really inept in coping with change.
Instead of feeling excited and confident about change, most people are stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, fearful, stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessing themselves, worried excessively and about to snap. Some admit they are frozen in fear, like they are standing (or HANGING) at the edge of a cliff, and any mis-step could result in a horrible death. They just stand there, unable to breathe, unable to move. Can you relate to this?
I know that feeling so well because I’ve been there many times. Now, I have thrived in many dramatic changes in my life, such as moving from Asia to the U.S. in my twenties (speaking little English and knowing almost no one); thriving in many industries (ranging from nursing, counseling, consulting, coaching, education, nonprofit management, freelance, small business & sales etc); living in 4 states in 6 calendar years with two babies in tow; coping with my husband’s job loss when he was the sole bread-winner and we had a house and 2 kids under age 4; winning Black Belt and 10 gold medals in my 30s and 40s despite injuries and fears; recovering from various illnesses and surgeries…
You get the picture. I’ve been through A LOT of changes, I’ve had to start over many times, and I’m REALLY good at thriving in change. In addition, I’ve had 24 years of experience in nursing, counseling and coaching, where I’ve helped people going through all sorts of challenges and difficult changes in their lives, such as job loss, cancer, death of loved ones, divorce, financial crisis, depression, suicide, etc. You name it, I’ve seen it all.
Even so, I’m not immune to fear. In fact, I’ve had many frozen-in-fear, on-my-knees moments.
When you are faced with change, you need to think clearly, make the right decisions, and take swift actions. However, when fear grabs you by your throat and your emotions hijack your mind, all you can see is worse-case scenarios. Like the cliff-hanger, you try to hang on to what you think is safe with a death grip (pun intended), not knowing what you perceive to be safe (i.e. hanging on to the cliff) might ultimately lead to your demise.
I was reminded of this lesson recently when I almost turned down perhaps the greatest opportunity for my business. I was extremely anxious about the risks involved, what would other people think, what if I made a mistake and failed, etc. UNTIL my coach reminded me to focus on the opportunities, not the risks. It’s like a boulder lifted off my chest and I can finally breathe and seize the opportunity. When you are frozen in fear, you need someone who can see objectively point out the right direction for you. A professional coach such as myself can do that.
As the famous quote by John Burroughs goes, “Leap and the net will appear.” Learn to trust yourself and have faith in the Universe. When you leap in faith, the net will appear, or you might realize you’ve been wearing a parachute on your back all along. But, you’ll never know until you take the leap.
If you are too afraid to take a giant leap of faith right now, take a baby step instead. Any action is better than staying stuck. Remember the cliff-hanger — the longer you wait, you’ll have less options and more risks. So, make a DECISION and take ACTION now. What’s one baby step you can take today?
If you are having challenges going through change in your life, career/business, relationship and/or health, make sure you sign up for my upcoming FREE Teleseminar “Navigating Change with Grace and Ease” now.
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- What’s required of you to thrive in the Year of the Water Dragon (2012)
- The 4 C’s you need to navigate change with grace, ease and confidence
- The 2 things that will overcome any fears while you’re going through change
- 4 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re faced with major setbacks
- 3 pitfalls you must avoid
- How to be victorious despite ANY adversity
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|About the Author:
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11).
Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.
For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com
©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.