Are You Frozen in Fear in the Face of Change?

© 2010 Hueina Su

When fear grabs you by your throat, your emotions hijack your mind, all reasoning is out the window, will you hang on to the cliff for your dear life (and eventually fall to your demise), or will you take the leap and SOAR?

Lately it seems like everywhere I go, everyone I talk to is facing some kind of change or transition, and the predominant feeling, whether explicitly expressed or not, is FEAR. In the last week alone, I’ve spoken to business owners trying to survive recession, professionals in career transitions, a doctor facing a hospital merger, breast cancer survivors trying to adapt to “the new normal”, a movie producer embarking on her new movie production, and a few business women trying to decide whether to invest in coaching and training, etc. The common thread is, everyone is facing some kind of change and the unknown. Old chapters are closing, old relationships and security are fading into history, while new opportunities and challenges are rising on the horizon, with uncharted paths waiting to be explored. While a few are excited about the new chapters and promises in their life and/or business, most of them are filled with SO much anxiety about the impeding changes and transitions. They are stressed, overwhelmed, fearful of an unknown future, afraid of making mistakes, stuck in analysis paralysis, worried excessively about the worst-case scenarios, losing sleep, and about to snap. Some told me flat-out that they are frozen in fear — unable to make any decisions or take any actions, feeling scared, stuck, confused, desperate, powerless and even hopeless. They feel like they are standing at the edge of a cliff, and any mis-step, even a tiny one, could result in falling to a horrible death. So, they just stand there, unable to breathe, unable to move.

Does this sound familiar? Are you holding your breath reading this? OK, take a D-E-E-P breath in and let it ALL out.

I know that hold-your-breath-until-your-face-turns-blue feeling, because I’ve been there many times myself. Now, I consider myself a veteran of change, and have thrived in many dramatic changes and challenges in my life, such as moving from Asia to the U.S. in my twenties (speaking little English and knowing almost no one here); transitioning and thriving in many industries and professions; coping with my husband’s job loss when he was the sole bread-winner and we had a house and 2 kids under age 4; starting my own business when I had no clue what I was doing; moving and living in 4 states in 6 calendar years (with two babies in tow); transforming myself from a painfully shy, insecure, suicidal young girl to an international keynote speaker and best-selling author; winning my Black Belt and 8 gold medals despite my injuries and fears; recovering from various illnesses, surgeries and a breast cancer scare a few years ago. I can go on and on…..

You get the picture. I’ve been through A LOT of changes and I’m REALLY good at adapting and thriving in change. But, I’m not immune to fear, either. In fact, I’ve had many frozen-in-fear, scared-to-death, on-my-knees moments. Probably more so than many people.

Change is definitely in the air. Buddha said, “The only constant in life is change.” There’s no escaping from it whether you’re royalty or a mere mortal. So, the question is, how well can you deal with change? And what do you do when you are frozen in fear?

By the way, this is exactly what we will discuss in my upcoming women’s inspiration and self-mastery group The V.E.N.U.S. Circle meeting THIS Friday May 6th at 12:00-2:00 PM. We will discuss the 4 C’s for Riding the Waves of Change. All details here: http://www.hueinasu.com/venus-circle RSVP required.

When you are faced with change, you need to be able to think clearly, make the right decisions, and take swift actions. Problem is, when fear grabs you by your throat and your emotions hijack your mind, all reasoning is out the window. Your ability to think clearly and act accordingly might be diminished to ZERO. Like the person standing, or even worse, HANGING, at the edge of the cliff, you are frozen in fear, unable to think or move.

In one of the Indiana Jones movies, Indiana Jones had to cross a canyon to retrieve the Holy Grail to save his father. However, when they arrived at the top of the canyon, there was no bridge or any pathway across the canyon. The ancient scripture showed a man crossing the canyon, seemingly floating in mid-air. Time is running out for his father, and he couldn’t find another transportation to cross the canyon. At that moment, he had to go on faith, and faith alone. He had to make a DECISION and trust. So, even though he was scared, as any normal human being would at the edge of a deep gorge, Indiana Jones closed his eyes, and took a step into the air. Surprisingly, he didn’t fall to the bottom of the canyon. Instead, he landed on a narrow rock bridge that was totally invisible before. He safely traveled on this rock bridge across the canyon and saved his father at the end.

Sometimes when you are overcome by fear, you can’t see the path to safety and success. All you can see, all you focus on, is the risks and danger. You keep thinking about the worse-case scenarios. Like the cliff-hanger, you just want to hang on to what you know (or so you thought) to be safe with a death grip (pun intended), not knowing the “path to safety” might be just a step away. The famous psychologist Abraham Maslow wrote, “You will either step forward into growth or backward into safety.” Ironically, what you perceive to be safe (i.e. hanging on to the cliff), might ultimately lead to your demise. You can take a step in faith, find an alternative path, or, you can insist on hanging on to the edge of the cliff until you can no longer hold on. And then what?

Know that change is inevitable and there’s always a risk involved whether you choose to move forward or not. The Chinese word “crisis” consists of two characters: “risk” and “opportunity”. The bigger the crisis, the greater the risk, and the greater the opportunity too. I was reminded of this lesson recently when I almost decided to turn down possibly the greatest opportunity (so far) for my business. I was focusing on what I perceive as a crisis because of the great risk involved in this project, and as a result, I was very anxious, overwhelmed and unable to make a decision. I was frozen in fear, until I talked with my coach, who reminded me to keep my eyes on the possibility and opportunity the change (project) will bring, instead of the risks and dangers involved. It was like a heavy boulder lifted off my chest and I can finally breathe and think again. Sometimes when you are so deep in anxiety and fear, you really need someone who can see objectively and clearly to point out the right thinking and right direction for you. A professional coach can do just that for you.

As the famous quote by John Burroughs goes, “Leap and the net will appear.” Learn to trust yourself and have faith in the Universe. Know that you live in a loving Universe. If you are following your heart, aligned with your passion and purpose, the Universe will conspire to support you. When you leap in faith, the net will appear, or you might find out that you’ve been wearing a parachute on your back all along. But, you’ll never know until you take the leap. Remember the cliff-hanger — the longer you wait, the less options you’ll have, and the higher risks for you. So, make a DECISION and take ACTION now.

P.S. How may I support you? Contact me for a complimentary 20-min consultation.

Breast Cancer Awareness Conference Keynote Speaker Hueina Su Connects Negative Thoughts with Emotional Stress on the Body

Breast Cancer Awareness Conference Keynote Speaker Hueina Su Connects Negative Thoughts with Emotional Stress on the Body

 

Breast Cancer Awareness Conference speaker and life coach Hueina Su keynotes to breast cancer survivors on connection of negative thoughts and emotions with stress on the body.

 

DENVILLE, NJ – April 24, 2011 – Physical and emotional stress can wreck havoc in breast cancer patients’ immune function and healing process when coping with cancer diagnosis and treatment. Negative thoughts and emotions can be further complicated by fears, anxiety, grief and stress.

In a keynote address at a breast cancer awareness conference, motivational speaker and life coach Hueina Su helps one hundred breast cancer patients, survivors and caregivers connect their negative thoughts and emotions with stress on their body.

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is an inspirational keynote speaker, best-selling author, mindful wellness expert, certified life coach, and the president of Beyond Horizon Coaching based in Denville, New Jersey.

“An average person has over 60,000 thoughts a day or one thought a second. Ninety-five percent of the thoughts are repeated from yesterday. Eighty percent of the repeated thoughts are negative,” Su said. “It’s important to recognize the fact that our thoughts affect our actions or inactions and perceived reality at a very deep subconscious level.”

Su demonstrated how negative thoughts affect a person’s strength using so-called muscle testing. It’s a method of applied kinesiology. “When you’re thinking positive thoughts, you are strong and able to resist externally applied force. Conversely, if you’re thinking negative thoughts, your strength starts to decrease,” Su said. “That’s a huge impact in your strength just by a change of thought. It’s a mind-over-matter, thought-over-body kind of phenomenon.”

“There are other forces that affect your level of stress. These invisible forces are the root causes of physical and emotional stress that I call “the invisible chaos.” They are invisible like electricity, but you can experience their effects. You have to learn how to tame your invisible chaos. Otherwise, you won’t have long-lasting stress relief,” Su said.

“Your thoughts are very powerful. Your thoughts turn into actions. Your actions become results. Your results are your reality. So mind your own thoughts,” Su said.

Since June 2010, Su has been leading a Mindful Wellness Coaching and Stress Management Program at Sparta Cancer Center in Sparta, New Jersey. Over 80 cancer patients and caregivers have participated and benefited from Su’s stress relief coaching program.

“The well-being of cancer caregivers and patient care staff is just as important as that of cancer patients. Having worked with cancer and other terminally ill patients as a registered nurse, I experienced first-hand the high level of stress and its negative impact on physical health and emotional well-being. This is why I wrote my best-selling book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others,” Su said.

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is a renowned expert in helping people restore the missing peace and balance in their stressful lives.  Su is a Mindful Wellness Expert, certified life coach, keynote speaker, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. She is on a mission to empower one million women nurturers to nurture themselves and create a life of their choice.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for work-life balance, stress management, and Intensive Self-Care through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services. She is the creator of Rx for Balance^TM, The Coaching Oasis^TM, and Nurture and Grow Rich^TM programs.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s coaching, keynote speaking, training services and products visit http://www.HueinaSu.com.

Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos http://www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

She is available for interviews and can provide a list of tips and other articles. Call 973-664-0446 (O) or 201-572-3641 (Cell) or email info@HueinaSu.com.

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Contact Information:

Hueina Su

Beyond Horizon International, LLC

Phone: 973-664-0446 (O), 201-572-3641 (Cell)

Email: Contact@HueinaSu.com

Web: http://www.HueinaSu.com

Inspirational Speaker and Life Coach Hueina Su Keynotes to Breast Cancer Patients and Survivors on Taming Invisible Chaos and Relieving Stress

 

Mindful wellness expert, inspirational speaker and life coach Hueina Su was the keynote speaker addressing the invisible chaos and root causes of stress to breast cancer patients and survivors at a breast cancer conference.

 

DENVILLE, NJ – April 16, 2011 – Coping with the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer is a very stressful journey for cancer patients and survivors, complicated by fears, anxiety, grief, and many emotional issues. Physical and emotional stress can wreck havoc in cancer patients’ immune function and healing process. Learning how to cope with stress effectively is critical for their recovery and emotional well-being.

In a keynote address at a breast cancer survivorship conference, inspirational speaker and life coach Hueina Su helps one hundred breast cancer patients, survivors and caregivers identify their invisible chaos and root causes of stress and offers coping strategies to remain calm, peaceful and confident.

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is an inspirational keynote speaker, best-selling author, mindful wellness expert, certified life coach, and the president of Beyond Horizon Coaching based in Denville, New Jersey.

“Most conventional stress management techniques are important and beneficial, but they often provide temporary relief for the symptoms of stress, not the root cause of the stress,” Su says. “For example, yoga, massage, meditation are feel-good techniques. But stress will come back within an hour or two if the root cause of stress isn’t addressed.”

Su adds that this is why conventional stress management alone does not work. There are other forces that affect your level of stress, and in many cases, these invisible forces are the root cause of your stress. “I call these forces the invisible chaos. They are invisible like electricity, but you can experience their effects. You have to learn how to tame your invisible chaos. Otherwise, you won’t have long-lasting stress relief,” Su says.

Su pointed out eight common invisible chaos causing emotional and physical stress:

1. I’m not good enough
2. I’m not worthy
3. Chronic people-pleasing
4. Perfectionism
5. Four fears, of success, failure, judgment, rejection
6. Constantly comparing yourself
7. Ghosts from the past
8. Self-limiting beliefs

Since June 2010, Su has been leading a Mindful Wellness Coaching and Stress Management Program at Sparta Cancer Center in Sparta, New Jersey. Over 80 cancer patients and caregivers have participated and benefited from Su’s stress relief coaching program.

“The well-being of cancer caregivers and patient care staff is just as important as that of cancer patients. Having worked with cancer and other terminally ill patients as a registered nurse, I experienced first-hand the high level of stress and its negative impact on physical health and emotional well-being. This is why I wrote my best-selling book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others,” Su said.

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, is a renowned expert in helping people restore the missing peace and balance in their stressful lives.  Su is a Mindful Wellness Expert, certified life coach, keynote speaker, and the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. She is on a mission to empower one million women nurturers to nurture themselves and create a life of their choice.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for work-life balance, stress management, and Intensive Self-Care through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services. She is the creator of Rx for Balance^TM, The Coaching Oasis^TM, and Nurture and Grow Rich^TM programs.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s coaching, keynote speaking, training services and products visit http://www.HueinaSu.com.

Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos http://www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

She is available for interviews and can provide a list of tips and other articles. Call 973-664-0446 (O) or 201-572-3641 (Cell) or email info@HueinaSu.com.

# # #

Contact Information:

Hueina Su

Beyond Horizon International, LLC

Phone: 973-664-0446 (O), 201-572-3641 (Cell)

Email: Contact@HueinaSu.com

Web: http://www.HueinaSu.com

Claim Your Peaceful Power for Confidence, Inner Peace and Unstoppable Success

Are you lacking confidence and courage to succeed? Do you sabotage your own success?

Best-selling author and mindful wellness expert Hueina Su shares her 3-R process to eliminate the root cause of your stress and self-sabotage, claim your Peaceful Power so you will be calm, centered & confident for unstoppable success, long-lasting inner peace and true happiness.

Claim Your Peaceful Power for Confidence, Inner Peace and Unstoppable Success

My Radio Interview and Other October News

I have a few exciting news to share with you today.

1) Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST

First off, a time-sensitive news. I will be interviewed on Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST. My topic is Taming the Invisible Chaos. I will talk about the single most important reason why most people never overcome their stress, why conventional stress management alone does not work, what’s Invisible Chaos and the 3-R Process you can use to tame your Invisible Chaos. You can call in live or listen online. http://tobtr.com/s/721693

2) My new site is almost done! Take a sneak peak & sign up for my new video e-course http://www.HueinaSu.com

3) National Stress Prevention Month

October is National Stress Prevention Month and Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Stress and cancer are obviously related. What are you doing to prevent both? If you are stressed, make sure you read this new article on my blog The Real Root Cause of Your Stress. http://budurl.com/ye9k

Last week I was invited to “shadow” an oncologist and his staff for a day at his cancer center. The good doctor wanted me to design stress management programs for his patients and staff. I applaud his proactive approach to help his patients heal and keep his staff healthy. Research has shown that practicing relaxation techniques (such as yoga, meditation, tai chi) on a regular basis can affect the cancer-related gene expressions. In other words, if you practice relaxation techniques, even if you are genetically pre-disposed to have cancer, you will reduce your risk of these genes being “turned on” to develop cancer in your body. Something to think about!

Another new study published by Cancer Prevention Research found that breast cancer gene expression was enhanced and tumor growth increased, following social isolation. We all know the importance of social support for our emotional well-being and stress relief. This study showed that social suppport also affects our physical health.

4) Powerful Women! Powerful You! Featured in Daily Record

Which brings me to another exciting news to share. Last Friday I spoke at the first annual The Women’s Institute Conference at Bergen Community College. It was a great success and I’m honored to be part of the initial planning committee for this important women’s initiative. It’s inspiring to hear great women speakers such as Rachel Simmons (author of The Curse of The Good Girl), Barbara Frankel (Editor of DiversityInc. Magazine), as well as other workshop speakers. I also enjoyed meeting amazing women and catching up with old friends. There is much power when women gather and support one another. Do you have your own “tribe” that you can turn to for support?

One of my favorite women’s groups is the Powerful You! Women’s Netowrk Denville NJ chapter, which I co-facilitate with my good friend Christina Santiago. And guess what? We are in the news AGAIN! Our Denville chapter meeting was featured on Sunday 10/4 in the Daily Record Morris Celebs section. We have a full-page spread. This is the 3rd time we got news coverage this year. Last time we were the cover story, also in Daily Record. Look how beautiful we are!

Powerful You! is a national women’s organization dedicated to connecting and empowering women. Their mission is to empower as many women as possible to find their inner wisdom, follow their passion and live rich authentic lives. Powerful You! Women’s Network is founded upon the belief that women are powerful creators, passionate and compassionate leaders and the heart and backbone of the world’s homes and communities. The Denville chapter is one of the largest and most active chapters in New Jersey. We meet every 3rd Wednesday from 12-2 pm (next meeting October 21). For more information, please visit http://powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm. Also, check out Powerful You! Conscious Connections Tour coming to your area: http://powerfulyou.com/regionalevent

5) Fitness Seminar: 5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!

Certified Fitness Trainer Carey Yang (my husband extraordinaire) will present a Fitness Seminar titled, “5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!” Wednesday, Oct. 21 from 7:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at Panera Bread, 3056 Rt. 10 West in Denville. He will share his years of client training experience and case studies on how to reclaim your attractive, healthy, and energetic body once and for all. Admission is $15. For details and to RSVP, visit weightloss.meetup.com/1591/. Call Carey Yang at (973) 303-2424 for more information.

If you are not in NJ, no problem, visit Carey’s website & blog for excellent tips and workout videos http://www.careyforfitness.com

To Your Health,

Hueina

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