More Resonance = More Abundance?

Hueina Su Mindful Wellness Expert Keynote Speaker Best-Selling Author Intensive Care for the Nurturer's Soul

Joy to you! Have I told you lately how much I appreciate having you in my community? :)

Do you know that being in resonance lead to your body and mind feeling good?

Are you aware that your resonance have tremendous impact on your intimate relationship, your success, and even money?

Yes it does!

The question is: How can you move into resonance?

At one level resonance comes from the mind – thinking aligned, positive thoughts and so on.  As powerful as this approach is, it can get exhausting and overwhelming, can’t it?

There’s an even deeper level of resonance available to us.  It’s called Soul Resonance.  Soul Resonance underlies everything else… no matter what you’re thinking about – no matter what’s going on in your life.  It’s the resonance of your essence.

For many people, Soul Resonance is the missing link for closing the gap between what’s showing up in your life, and what’s possible.

So…. How can you tap into Soul Resonance?

My good friend Ken Stone is a master at teaching people how to uncover and experience their Soul’s Resonance.  Most meaningfully – he actually facilitates an experience of deep soul resonance that is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before.

Now, for the first time, he’s going to be teaching and facilitating Soul Resonance on a large scale with a no-cost program called The Resonance Experiment.

>>Tap Into Your Soul’s Resonance – Sign Up for The Resonance Experiment Now <<

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I’d love for you to join Ken for this no-cost program so you can experience your soul’s resonance and watch how your life begins to massively transform in the coming weeks and months.

Best Selling Author, Coach and Transformational Catalyst Christine Kloser said this:

“My sessions with Ken Stone have been the most powerful distance healing work I’ve ever experienced. In addition to feeling more present in my body and my life, I am experiencing more ease, clarity, and grace. The pieces of the puzzle are joyously manifesting faster than ever before, and I have a new curiosity for what will happen next! Life has become an exciting adventure as I experience deeper trust in myself and God.

Plus, I don’t think it’s coincidence that I earned my fastest and most joyous six figures in the first few weeks I worked with Ken. Things shifted on so many levels.

 

And Darius Barazandeh – the host of Your Wealth Revolution – said this:

“I had an incredible one-on-one session with Ken. He showed me exactly where I was losing embodiment with my soul and EXACTLY how I can connect back to full soul connection.

I felt a SHIFT instantly and immediately I came back into center and felt a peace of mind and joy that astounded me! I recommend him to anyone who really feels like something is off but with all the spiritual practice still feels like things are not working. He really shifted my awareness in a way that I never realized was possible!”

This is a powerful and unique opportunity for you to connect to your Soul’s Resonance and enjoy all the expressions of abundance that flow from this super aligned state. Get ready for something well beyond what you can imagine with the Resonance Experiment!

The first session begins on Monday February 6th, and there is no cost to join. I’m looking forward to hearing about your experience with Ken, Your Soul’s Resonance – and everything that begins to accelerate as a result of this work.

>>Tap Into Your Soul’s Resonance – Sign Up for The Resonance Experiment Now <<

Sending you love and many blessings. I appreciate having you in my community. Namaste.

Much Love and Peace,

Hueina

PS – Mindfulness, meditation, and intentions are all awesome – but this is something very different. It works and I invite you into Ken’s world of Resonance.

Sign Up Now – The First Session Begins on Monday February 6th

PPS – Replays are available if you miss one of the LIVE sessions. Don’t miss this opportunity to transmute the stuff that’s been holding you back and accelerate forward into resonance with your work.

Click this link to sign up now.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Ignite Your Soul’s Resonance

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In honor of the powerful new beginning of Chinese New Year (Year of the Fire Rooster), I’d like to introduce you to a dear friend and an amazing opportunity for transforming your life from the inside out…

Doesn’t everything we encounter come down to one of two experiences? Dissonance or Resonance. We’re either looking for more Resonance – or less Dissonance – or sometimes, both!

For the last nine years, my good friend Ken Stone has been teaching a revolutionary approach to being in Resonance he calls Embodied Soul Resonance. No matter how much pain or joy you feel in your body or life – Ken is going to show you how to move into deeper Resonance in a way that supports real, sustaining transformation.

Ken teaches from a totally different perspective, but perhaps most meaningfully – he actually facilitates an experience of deep resonance that is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before. Now, for the first time, he’s going to be teaching and facilitating Embodied Soul Resonance on a large scale for the first time with a free program called The Resonance Experiment.

Sign Up for The Resonance Experiment Now – and Experience Your Soul’s Resonance

The Resonance Experiment is Perfect for You If You:

==> Wonder why there’s a gap between what you know is possible, and what’s actually showing up in your life (with health, money, relationships and other important areas).

==> Wish there was a way to find some inner peace and joy – even though just about everything you’ve tried just makes you feel agitated, sad, and disconnected.

==> Know there’s something blocking you from moving forward, but can’t figure out how to clear the blocks so you begin living in Joy and Peace.

==> Keep trying different approaches to the magic shortcut that leads to ultimate happiness and joy – only to discover there’s no shortcut and joy seems more elusive than ever.

==> Are ready for a different approach to solving life’s challenges while moving into deeper joy and peace.

Mindfulness, meditation, and intentions are all awesome – but this is something very different.

It works, and I’d like to invite you into Ken’s world of Resonance.

Join The Resonance Experiment and Animate Your Divine Potential

Best Selling Author, Coach and Transformational Leader Derek Rydall said:

“Ken is one of my secret resources. When I’m in session with Ken I have the deepest spiritual experiences. I remember once even saying to him “if this experience is repeatable — then you are the real deal” and he is the real deal. There are very small number people I’ve spent time with where I feel the presence of the spirit in this way.”

Rachael Jayne Groover – a best-selling author, speaker, and coach put it this way:

“Ken has one of the most beautiful and gentle souls I’ve ever known. He is like a master tuner of fine instruments with ability to energetically touch the physical, spiritual, and energetic bodies and re-tune them to the Divine perfection that they are meant to naturally be.”

And Spiritual Messenger, Author and Founder of The Inspired Messenger’s Network, Mark Porteous said:

“Ken has been the most powerful instrument of transformation in my life. He has a way of holding sacred space and seeing my highest expression of who I am. He sees the whole me and allows me to recognize my own divinity with grace and dignity where I am.”

Again, this is something very different.

It works and I’d like to invite you into Ken’s world of Resonance.

Join The Resonance Experiment and Ignite Your Soul’s Resonance

Accelerate into 2017 with the greatest momentum and the full support of your soul’s resonance by joining Ken for The Resonance Experiment. And get ready for transformation at a level that you’ve never before imagined!

In Resonance and Gratitude,

Hueina

PS – You’ll have an amazing experience with Ken on the webcast with him live. And don’t worry if you can’t make it – the replay will be available following each session so you won’t miss anything.

Click this link to participate in The Resonance

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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What do you see when you look at your old self?

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What do you see when you look at your old self? I hope you look at her with much love and compassion… You have come a long way, my dear. No matter what you think you should have or shouldn’t have done in your past, please know that you did your best with what you knew back then. We can only do our best. Nothing more. Beating yourself up or holding grudges against others will only keep you stuck in the victim mode, feeling disempowered and sorry for yourself.

Allow yourself to fully feel those strong emotions… anger, hatred, resentment, shame, blame, sadness, disappointment, despair, regrets, worthlessness, any judgment against yourself. Have a good cry. Scream. Punch or kick a pillow. Break a glass. Whatever you need to do to FEEL the feelings and LET IT OUT. Don’t hold back… Let it all out. When you can truly allow yourself to FEEL those feelings, they will dissipate and be released, instead of being stuck in your body.

After you let your feelings out, it’s great to do some emotional healing rituals. I’ll be writing more about this topic. If you need ideas, send me a message.

Forgive yourself. Send love, light and blessings to your old self. You didn’t know better back then. But you know better now, and you can do better this time around.

It is time to move forward, my dear. You can do it. I believe in you.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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[Video] My Unconventional Valentine’s Day Wish for You

Chinese New Year’s day and Super Bowl are behind us, you know what’s coming up next… Valentine’s Day! It’s a day to celebrate romantic love, and depending where you are in your life or in your relationship, the thought of celebrating Valentine’s Day can be passionate and exciting, OR it can cause a lot of anxiety and stress. Or maybe a little bit of both.

Whether you’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day with a loved one or not, I’d like to offer you this very unconventional & very personal Valentine’s Day wish for you. This is a video I made a few years ago. I remember I was driving home from doing my annual Chinese New Year’s presentation at my son’s school (hence the traditional Chinese dress), and suddenly felt very compelled to make a video to share this message. I got home and made this video right away. No rehearsal. Just straight from my heart.

When I watched it again today, the message is still very poignant and true. I believe this would make a great Valentine’s Day message for you, especially if you have ever felt like you are “not good enough”, “can’t fit in”, “can’t measure up” and “there’s something wrong with me”…. This message is for YOU.

You see, growing up, I’ve always felt there’s something wrong with me and I couldn’t fit in or measure up. Trying to be a “Good Girl” is incredibly stressful and sometimes very demoralizing. Until a few years ago, I made this one decision and EVERYTHING changed…

What was that one decision, you ask? That’s what I wanted to share with you in this video. I hope you enjoy it. I’d love to hear from you after you watch it. Please feel free to share it with anyone who needs this message today. Namaste. <3

Happy Valentine’s Day!! Don’t forget to celebrate YOU as well. I’m sending you so much love…

Watch the video here or click on the image below.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Alignment, Metamorphosis & Second New Beginning

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It’s been a long while since I wrote to you, and I hope this finds you well. Today is the first day of Chinese New Year of the Fire Monkey (traditionally, we celebrate for 15 days), and also a powerful Aquarian New Moon. Needless to say, new beginning is on my mind.

I’ve always appreciated the fact that Chinese New Year falls on a different date from the Western New Year. Instead of starting the new year on January 1st, Chinese New Year usually starts somewhere in late January to early February. Since it follows the Lunar Calendar, it always coincides with a new moon, which makes it an even more powerful day for a new beginning.

What does it mean to you, my dear? If, for whatever reason, your 2016 didn’t take off the way you’d imagined, no worries. Now you get a second chance to hit the “REBOOT” button and begin the new year again! Isn’t that awesome? :)

To harness the powerful energy of the Fire Monkey and Aquarian New Moon, it’s a great idea to spend some time today to tune in, center yourself, and set your intention for the year. Choosing a theme word for the year is a powerful way to anchor your intention and focus for the year.

Did you choose a theme word for this year? Alignment is my theme word for 2016. Alignment in my body, mind, heart, soul, as well as any external expression in my life and business. I intend to love myself completely, embrace my unique beauty, and LIVE MY TRUTH.

Last year, my theme was Self-Love, and that will continue indefinitely. Yes, self-love is a life-long practice, just like self-care, just like any spiritual practice. Last year, I gave myself PERMISSION to go on a year-long journey of SELF-DISCOVERY, SELF-LOVE and SACRED SELF-CARE. What a difference a year has made!!

I feel like a different person… a calmer, wiser, more compassionate, self-loving, truer version of myself. I’ve re-connected with the Divine, with my True Self, and returned from my journey — my Metamorphosis — with renewed energy & purpose.

I’m very grateful for the intense INNER WORK I’ve done for myself, with the help of my coaches and soul sisters (I couldn’t have done it by myself). I’m very grateful that I gave myself PERMISSION and TIME to go through my own Metamorphosis. As I’ve made powerful inner transformations and breakthroughs, miracles happened in my outer reality too!! When I reviewed what happened in my life last year, I was BLOWN AWAY by some of the miracles that I knew wouldn’t have happened, if I hadn’t done my INNER WORK to “clear the way”.

The truth is, I can’t stress how important INNER WORK is. Without taking the time & efforts to do the inner work, you can not create powerful and sustainable changes in the outer reality. You simply can’t.

The metamorphosis of butterflies is probably one of THE most amazing transformations in nature. Before a caterpillar can transform into a butterfly, it must first morph into a chrysalis. Inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar must completely DISSOLVE its old self and RE-CREATE itself as a butterfly. On the surface, the chrysalis is motionless and doesn’t even look alive. But on the inside, the most radical, most amazing transformation is taking place. The chrysalis stage is THE most critical and powerful stage in the butterfly’s life cycle.

The INNER WORK we do in coaching is like the chrysalis stage in the butterfly’s metamorphosis. Without the chrysalis — and the INNER WORK that the caterpillar does inside the chrysalis — there will be no butterfly.

By the way, it’s almost impossible to do the kind of transformational, Metamorphosis-Level INNER WORK without the help of coaches, mentors and/or spiritual teachers. I can attest to that, and I’m sure anyone who has gone through a Metamorphosis would concur with me.

My old self — the Type-A Overachiever — only wanted to focus on DOING & ACHIEVING. She would get very impatient and SELF-JUDGING when she didn’t see outer results. She relied on her brilliant left-brain, logic, hard work and sheer WILL POWER to MAKE IT HAPPEN — whatever IT is. It was a surefire path to self-abuse and burnout. Can you relate?

Now I know better. Now I’m much more loving, compassionate and kind toward myself — and everyone else. I take better care of myself — physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually — as I continue to take care of my family, my friends and my clients. I have more peace, spaciousness and beauty in my life and my environment. I have more to give to others and I’m not giving from a place of being a martyr or victim. I have certain non-negotiable self-care practices, and I don’t feel guilty taking care of myself any more.

Another huge difference is that instead of relying on my left-brain and will power, I’ve learned how to TUNE IN to Divine guidance and my own inner wisdom. It’s a much gentler, peaceful yet more powerful way of BEING and ACHIEVING things. 

Can you resonate with what I said? What is your intention for this year?

Are you longing to love & accept yourself, take better care of yourself without guilt, heal your past, re-connect with who you truly are (instead of who you think you “should” be), embrace & express your unique beauty, and create a life that is self-loving, joyful, fulfilling and fully aligned with WHO YOU ARE?

Would you like to take a year-long transformational journey (aka your own Metamorphosis) with me as your coach & wisdom guide? This year I’m taking a few select women on a year-long journey with me. If your heart is whispering (or shouting) a resounding YES, please listen…. Your heart will never steer you wrong.

Remember, no matter what has or has not happened in the past, you can always begin AGAIN…

If you would like more information or explore the possibility of working with me as your coach, sign up here and I will be happy to set up a time to talk with you.

Peace & Joy,
Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Cosmic 2×4, Staying Strong and Vulnerability

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I love this quote from Cheryl Richardson: “There will come a day when you look back in gratitude for the cosmic rug-pulling that brought you here.” Yes, the gratitude will come, eventually, when we have learned the lesson and found the blessings in disguise. However, when something (or multiple things) causes you to lose your footing by surprise — whether it’s a slight stumble, or what feels like a free fall down the Grand Canyon — it’s hard not to get triggered while it’s happening.

Depending on your “default stress response”, you might react with anxiety, worry, anger, resentment, guilt, blame, fear, or a full-out panic attack. You might also feel sad, helpless or hopeless. I’ve been there many times myself, and even recently, I experienced a few minor “cosmic rug-pulling” that sent me into a little tailspin (yup, it happens to the best of us).

Being an introvert, when I feel stressed and overwhelmed, I tend to withdraw from social interactions. I was also brought up and taught to NEVER air your dirty laundry, show your weakness, or burden others with your problems. My parents are always very anxious and fearful that if we share something personal or show any weakness, some unsavory people will try to judge or harm us. So, I usually try to be strong and suffer alone. Can you relate?

Back to my recent cosmic 2×4 experience… It started with a car accident a few weeks ago. My husband and I were rear-ended on I-95. Thankfully, we walked away with minor injuries, but his car was totaled. We had to deal with getting treatments, replacing his car and all the tedious back-and-forth with the insurance companies. Then a few other “cosmic rug-pulling” happened, that got me so anxious, worried, fearful and overwhelmed, that I withdrew from FB and all social circles. At the time, I felt very overwhelmed, and social media felt like another thing “to do” that would add to my overwhelm. So I just stopped posting altogether.

After a week or two of silence, some of my FB friends started to send me private messages or post to my timeline, wondering what’s going on with me.

Well, this time, I did something different. I realized that it’s not very self-loving to deny myself the love and support that could help me. It’s also not fair to assume that my friends would see me as needy or a burden or wouldn’t care or support me. I was tired of suffering alone, and decided it’s time for me to ask for support. 

So, I posted this update to FB:

“Hello friends, I’m back! Sorry I’ve been MIA for a bit and got some of you worried. Thanks so much for checking in on me (you know who you are and I so appreciate you)! ♥  I’ve been dealing with some stuff. There were some more-than-usual highs and lows in the last few weeks, since the car accident Carey and I had on Easter Sunday. Some joyful celebrations, mixed with surprises of both good and bad kinds, and a WHOLE host of very strong emotions. I’ve been dealing with it privately with my family and just a few friends. All is well in the grand scheme of things. I was just feeling overwhelmed and social media seemed another thing “to do” that would add to my overwhelm, so I withdrew… This has been my M.O. however — I withdraw from social interactions when I feel stressed and overwhelmed. I was brought up and taught to NEVER air your dirty laundry or show your weakness in public, or worse, burden others. However, by doing so, I also cut myself off from the support I could’ve received from my friends. I now realize this is not helping me. It’s not very self-loving to deny myself the love and support that could help me. It’s also not fair to assume that my friends would see me as needy or a burden or wouldn’t care or support me.

I need to learn to be okay to feel vulnerable and ask for help. I’m far from perfect, and I don’t have it all together — and I’ll stop pretending that I do. I’ll update what’s going on later. There are some happy news for sure (including new butterflies!) and some challenges I’m still dealing with. For now, I’m asking you, my friends, to send some love, light and hugs, please. Thank you!!! ♥ “

I admit, I was anxious about posting this update, showing so much vulnerability. What would people think? Would they think that I’m weak and needy? How can I be stressed and overwhelmed? I’m a stress management expert, for God’s sake. Would they think that I’m not good at what I do? These thoughts are not self-loving, of course. I quickly released them and replaced them with EXTRA dosage of self-compassion. 

Breathe, Hueina, breathe.

Within minutes of posting this, I received kind words, love, light, hugs, prayers from SO many friends, both online and offline. And they kept coming in the following days. The outpouring of love and support warmed my heart and lifted my spirit.

But, what really moved me was the comments about vulnerability and being strong. Some thanked me for the courage and role-modeling to be authentic and vulnerable. Some offered assuring words that nobody has it all together and I’m not alone. Interestingly, quite a few people told me that I’m a very strong person, but it’s okay to be vulnerable too.

It does take a lot of courage to be authentic and vulnerable. The truth is, my friends have ALWAYS been very supportive. But, the fear of judgment and rejection is still paralyzing sometimes. However, putting on a brave face and pretending to be strong while I’m feeling the opposite, does not make me strong. It only cuts me off from the love and support that could really help me.

In my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, I wrote about the importance of connection and asking for support in Key #7: Dare to Connect. Asking for help and support when you need is NOT being selfish or needy. It is an act of self-love. How can you receive any support if you pretend that you don’t even need it? How would people know you need help, if you don’t ask for it?

It’s a simple truth, isn’t it? Yet, so many of us still have a tough time asking for help. For me, it’s the fear of judgment and rejection. You might have a different reason why you don’t want to ask for help. We all have different upbringing and limiting beliefs that could prevent us from asking for support. The obstacle and the solution, I believe, are one and the same — the willingness to be vulnerable. 

This is a huge lesson for me, and I’m grateful for the cosmic 2×4 that created this learning opportunity. What I learned from my experience is that it takes a strong person to be authentic, to show vulnerability and ask for help. Nobody has it all together. Nobody is perfect. When we share ourselves authentically, we also strengthen our relationships with those around us. More often than not, when we do ask for help, there are many people who are willing and ready to lend a helping hand. Don’t assume that your friends would see you as needy or a burden, or wouldn’t care or support you. Please know that you deserve the love and support. All you need to do is ASK, and be open to RECEIVE.

And if I can support you through coaching, please do not hesitate to contact me and set up a discovery session. I am here for you. Sending you much love and light.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Feeling Overwhelmed? You Need to STOP, DROP & ROLL!

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Do you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, most of my clients felt that way when they first came to me for coaching.

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have ever come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined.

P.S. “Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others written by Hueina Su. This article is adapted from the book. You can order the book here or on Amazon.

P.P.S. Watch Hueina talk about this STOP, DROP & ROLL concept during her keynote speech at an international medical conference in Asia.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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