More Resonance = More Abundance?

Hueina Su Mindful Wellness Expert Keynote Speaker Best-Selling Author Intensive Care for the Nurturer's Soul

Joy to you! Have I told you lately how much I appreciate having you in my community? :)

Do you know that being in resonance lead to your body and mind feeling good?

Are you aware that your resonance have tremendous impact on your intimate relationship, your success, and even money?

Yes it does!

The question is: How can you move into resonance?

At one level resonance comes from the mind – thinking aligned, positive thoughts and so on.  As powerful as this approach is, it can get exhausting and overwhelming, can’t it?

There’s an even deeper level of resonance available to us.  It’s called Soul Resonance.  Soul Resonance underlies everything else… no matter what you’re thinking about – no matter what’s going on in your life.  It’s the resonance of your essence.

For many people, Soul Resonance is the missing link for closing the gap between what’s showing up in your life, and what’s possible.

So…. How can you tap into Soul Resonance?

My good friend Ken Stone is a master at teaching people how to uncover and experience their Soul’s Resonance.  Most meaningfully – he actually facilitates an experience of deep soul resonance that is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before.

Now, for the first time, he’s going to be teaching and facilitating Soul Resonance on a large scale with a no-cost program called The Resonance Experiment.

>>Tap Into Your Soul’s Resonance – Sign Up for The Resonance Experiment Now <<

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I’d love for you to join Ken for this no-cost program so you can experience your soul’s resonance and watch how your life begins to massively transform in the coming weeks and months.

Best Selling Author, Coach and Transformational Catalyst Christine Kloser said this:

“My sessions with Ken Stone have been the most powerful distance healing work I’ve ever experienced. In addition to feeling more present in my body and my life, I am experiencing more ease, clarity, and grace. The pieces of the puzzle are joyously manifesting faster than ever before, and I have a new curiosity for what will happen next! Life has become an exciting adventure as I experience deeper trust in myself and God.

Plus, I don’t think it’s coincidence that I earned my fastest and most joyous six figures in the first few weeks I worked with Ken. Things shifted on so many levels.

 

And Darius Barazandeh – the host of Your Wealth Revolution – said this:

“I had an incredible one-on-one session with Ken. He showed me exactly where I was losing embodiment with my soul and EXACTLY how I can connect back to full soul connection.

I felt a SHIFT instantly and immediately I came back into center and felt a peace of mind and joy that astounded me! I recommend him to anyone who really feels like something is off but with all the spiritual practice still feels like things are not working. He really shifted my awareness in a way that I never realized was possible!”

This is a powerful and unique opportunity for you to connect to your Soul’s Resonance and enjoy all the expressions of abundance that flow from this super aligned state. Get ready for something well beyond what you can imagine with the Resonance Experiment!

The first session begins on Monday February 6th, and there is no cost to join. I’m looking forward to hearing about your experience with Ken, Your Soul’s Resonance – and everything that begins to accelerate as a result of this work.

>>Tap Into Your Soul’s Resonance – Sign Up for The Resonance Experiment Now <<

Sending you love and many blessings. I appreciate having you in my community. Namaste.

Much Love and Peace,

Hueina

PS – Mindfulness, meditation, and intentions are all awesome – but this is something very different. It works and I invite you into Ken’s world of Resonance.

Sign Up Now – The First Session Begins on Monday February 6th

PPS – Replays are available if you miss one of the LIVE sessions. Don’t miss this opportunity to transmute the stuff that’s been holding you back and accelerate forward into resonance with your work.

Click this link to sign up now.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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A Perfect Mother’s Day Gift for Moms Who Take Care of Everyone But Themselves

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What would you give to your mom this Mother’s Day? Flowers are always appreciated… although they only last a few days. Chocolate is awesome… although it could add to her waistline (not so awesome).  A piece of beautiful jewelry or trinket? Also wonderful, but may or may not have much meaning, let alone any long-lasting benefits for mom.

What could you give to your mom, the woman who gave LIFE to you, took care of you around the clock when you were little (all those late-night feedings, fevers, throw-ups), sacrificed SO much for you over the years, and STILL trying to take care of you & guide you long after you’re all grown up?

When I pondered on this, there are probably very few (material) gifts that are truly worthy of our own mom, when we think about how much she has done for us and how much she means to us.

Then I thought about what I wish for my mom…

I wish she could learn how to take better care of herself and NOT feel guilty about it. I wish she knew how worthy of love she is, just by being herself — without having to do anything for anyone in order to prove her worth or win other people’s love & approval. I wish she could love herself unconditionally, instead of trying to get that love from someone else. 

I have a gut feeling that you might have some of these same wishes for your mom, or for YOURSELF, or maybe for your own daughter or granddaughter…

Am I right?

If you’re nodding your head, I’d like to suggest a Mother’s Day gift that could help your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones fulfill these wishes. I’d like to offer you a gift can and will keep on giving, to your mom who keeps giving SO much of herself, year after year. Would you like to hear what it is?

It is a book called Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know this is written by me. :) I wrote this book, because as a former RN, a wife, and a working mother of two, I have experienced first-hand how challenging it is to joggle taking care of a growing family, a full-time career/business, and aging parents. I’ve seen it, over and over, in my nursing colleagues, my coaching clients who are mostly high-achieving working moms, my own extended family full of medical professionals, and my friends who are family caregivers.

It’s all too easy to feel stressed, overwhelmed, or downright burned out, and taking care of yourself becomes… well, not only on the back burner, but it’s not even on the burner any more.

When you are not taking care of yourself adequately, your own health, energy and mood suffer greatly, then it affects your productivity, career, relationships and EVERYTHING ELSE. Can you relate?

I know most people KNOW intellectually how important it is to improve their self-care and manage stress, but it is simply very difficult for them to actually implement in their own lives. That’s where my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul comes in.

I intentionally wrote it in a VERY EASY to read format, that combines timeless principles, real life stories (of myself and my clients), and simple yet powerful action steps you (or your mom) can apply immediately in your own life. Because, let’s face it, with the kind of stressful and crazy-busy schedule you have, who has the time to read long, dry, difficult-to-implement how-to books on stress management?

This is more than a book. It’s an interactive guidebook filled with insights and powerful tools to prevent caregiver burnout. Each chapter comes with an interactive Self-Coaching Session, so you can personalize your learning and choose action steps that are JUST RIGHT FOR YOU.

If you (or your mom) often feel stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, with no time or energy to take care of yourself, or do what you enjoy doing…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel very guilty taking time to take care of yourself…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel resentful, angry or sad for giving so much and taking care of everybody else EXCEPT yourself…

OR, if your (or your mom’s) health, energy level or mood are suffering greatly, and you are worried…

Then, I highly recommend that you order my book and dig in ASAP.

Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT GIFT for Mother’s Day or any day — for moms, grandmas, nurses, teachers, therapists, family caregivers, and anyone who is in the role of taking care of other people.

But, don’t just take my word for it. Please check out what other people who have read my book said about it here: www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com On this page, you will find more info about my book and how to order it for your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones.

Some of the topics I explore in the book include:

  • Recognizing Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome and what to do about it
  • Resolve the feeling of overwhelm
  • Finding joy and serenity in the present moment
  • Restore peace and calm when life is spinning out of control
  • Creating life balance to avoid caregiver burnout
  • How to clear out emotional clutter for lasting inner peace
  • Finding peace in the face of death and grieving

Again, it’s an interactive guidebook that will give your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones timeless insights, real life stories, as well as practical tools & action steps you can immediately implement in your own life.

It’s a meaningful Mother’s Day gift that will keep giving to your beloved mom, who keeps giving and giving to everyone.

It’s time for her to take better care of herself and give HERSELF some of that love and TLC she so generously gives to EVERYONE else. Don’t you agree?

The link to order the book is www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com. If you’re in a hurry, you can also order it from Amazon and choose 2-day shipping.

Please use this link to order from Amazon, because when you order from this link, a part of the proceeds will go to Indrani’s Light Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to end violence against women. It’s our way to help make the world a better place for ALL. Thank you for your support!

“Intensive Self-Care is NOT being selfish,

and it’s NOT a luxury,

but rather an essential practice for your survival

and overall well-being.”

— Hueina Su

I hope you’ll order my book for your mom, yourself, and/or your loved ones who are taking care of everyone and need to take better care of themselves. It is a great gift that could change their lives for the better. And you know what? When mom feels better, EVERYONE ELSE benefits too!

If you are a mother, I wish you so much LOVE and JOY for a very Happy Mother’s Day. Pamper yourself. Do whatever your heart desires. You are worth it! Let’s strive to be champion and role model of Intensive Self-Care for our children. :) 

Until next time, remember to take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable!

Love, Peace & Joy,

Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Intensive Self-Care: Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

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After the car accident earlier this month, I’ve been taking extra time to rest, so that my body can heal and recover. Coincidentally, during a group coaching call the other day, the topic of rest and self-care came up. Several members in our group (all high-achieving woman entrepreneurs) have asked for support and guidance on getting more rest and self-care time for themselves. Some of us have a tough time setting boundaries around work. You know, when you are a high achiever working for yourself, it’s very tempting to work ALL the time. However, if you don’t have adequate rest and self-care, your health and your business simply won’t survive. Other people have a hard time unplugging from Internet and social media (myself included). It becomes a distraction and time suck that interfere with both work and family/personal time.

Apparently, taking time for rest and self-care is a common challenge among high achievers.

It’s no surprise to me. Self-Care Deficiency is a hidden epidemic among moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals, small business owners and other high-achievers, as I discussed in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. So many women have a hard time ALLOWING themselves to rest — out of guilt, unworthiness, or because they are so wound up (mentally, physically, emotionally, or all of the above) that they simply cannot relax and rest . Can you relate?

I used to feel very guilty for sleeping in, especially when my kids were younger, and when it’s bright & sunny outside (that was an old programming from my childhood about not being lazy & wasting time). I often “override” my body’s signals with my strong will and my drive to achieve. The old programming that says if you rest & sleep in, it means you’re not a good mother or not working hard enough, used to bring up SO much guilt in me. I’d beat myself over and over.

Nowadays? NO GUILT. I honor and allow my body to rest when it needs to. The work will get done with more grace & ease, when I’m fully recharged.

How about you? Do you listen to your own body, and ALLOW yourself to rest without guilt? What old messages & beliefs get stirred up when you try to rest or do something nice for yourself?

Allowing yourself to rest is not being selfish or lazy. It’s an act of self-love. I love what my coach suggested — be “an overachiever for rest”. Let’s channel our overachieving energy into Intensive Self-Care. Let’s try it for a week, OK? Are you up for the challenge? :)

Tell me: What would you commit to do (or NOT do) today, in order to take better care of YOU? Please comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

If you need support in creating a self-care practice and more time for YOU (minus the guilt), I invite you to book a complimentary 30-min consultation with me via phone or Skype, and we will explore how coaching with me can help you. You can schedule your appointment here

Take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable.

P.S. My book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT Mother’s Day gift — for yourself and/or for someone you really care about. You can order here.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Feeling Overwhelmed? You Need to STOP, DROP & ROLL!

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Do you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, most of my clients felt that way when they first came to me for coaching.

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have ever come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined.

P.S. “Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others written by Hueina Su. This article is adapted from the book. You can order the book here or on Amazon.

P.P.S. Watch Hueina talk about this STOP, DROP & ROLL concept during her keynote speech at an international medical conference in Asia.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Stop! In the Name of Love


The majority of people I work with and speak to are highly successful and intelligent high-achieving professional women and entrepreneurs. It’s the same type of women I’m also connected with on Facebook and other social media. The interesting thing about social media is that you get to have a peek into other people’s lives from their posts and also from the comments by others. If you pay attention, there are some patterns and trends worth noticing.

For example, there is a worrisome trend I’ve observed over the years, but more so in the last few years. More and more women (whether successful professional women, entrepreneurs, or stay-at-home moms) are pushing themselves past breaking point! As women, we’ve taken on more and more responsibilities both at home and at work. In the process of pursuing our professional goals and taking care of our loved ones, our own needs often got pushed off our mile-long to-do list. Not only that, I’m seeing more and more women who couldn’t (or wouldn’t) take a much-needed break UNLESS they are sick.

Can you relate?

I cringe every time I read or hear someone say that they are so physically ill or injured, BUT they choose to push on, instead of allowing themselves to rest and heal. They complain that they are feeling so miserable, but, they still wouldn’t stop. So, a simple cold might drag on forever, or turn into a sinus infection or even pneumonia. Then, and ONLY then, they’d be FORCED to take a long break in order to recover.

Believe me, I know this all too well, because that used to be my M.O. for many years.

Years ago, I was working with a very successful business coach, who is a typical Type-A high achiever. I’d never forget a story she told us. She was pushing herself really hard, as usual, and running nonstop building her coaching business, writing a new book and getting ready for an international speaking tour that she was really excited about. Right before her speaking tour, however, she tripped and broke her Achilles tendon! She was forced to cancel her speaking tour and rest for 6 months. It was a painful and long recovery, not to mention a costly lesson. She laughed and said that the Universe literally forced her to stop, because she wouldn’t listen.

That story really made an impression on me. I became very aware of how often I had done the same thing to myself. I was so driven and always pushed myself relentlessly. It’d take nothing short of an illness or injury to slow me down. I almost always got sick right after a big goal or project was completed — and sometimes I got sick right before the deadline. Sounds familiar? I’d push and push, ignoring my body’s signal for needing a break. Then I’d get sick and rightfully get a chance to rest. It’s almost as if I unconsciously didn’t feel that I deserved to rest UNLESS I was sick, so my body had to break down in order to get the rest it needed.

Can you relate? The show must go on, you might say. And, you’d even say it with a sense of pride, as if you’re wearing a badge of honor for working so hard while you’re feeling so ill.

One time, a very successful coach I know said that she was very proud for delivering a multi-day training, even though she was running a high fever and coughing miserably. She patted herself on the back for keeping her commitment in spite of her flu. I commended her on her strong work ethic and commitment, then gently asked, “I wonder if it is for your highest good, and your participants’ highest good, for you to deliver the training when you are feeling so sick?

It’s something to think about, isn’t it? Besides the obvious concern that you don’t want to pass your germs to someone else, why are you doing this to yourself? More importantly, what are you modeling for your clients, team members, students, colleagues, and/or children?

Whether you are a professional woman, business owner, corporate executive or working mom, your health and well-being are essential for your long-term success and happiness. You are the “golden goose” and you need to treat yourself accordingly.

When I look back at how I was treating myself years ago, my heart is filled with compassion for my younger self — just as I’m now feeling compassionate toward the women who are pushing themselves relentlessly, often past breaking point. I’m so glad that I’ve learned to be kinder to myself, take better care of myself, and tune in more keenly to my own body. I rest when I need to. I no longer need to get sick, just so that I can “legitimately” take a much-needed break.

If you are one of those high-achievers who push themselves without proper self-care, if you are heading toward burning out or breaking down (physically and/or emotionally), please, STOP in the name of love. STOP in the name of self-love. STOP for the sake of the people you love (and those who love you). STOP for the sustainable success of your career, business, and/or the cause you care deeply about. They need you to be healthy, happy, vibrant and engaged. They need you to be there for them for years to come. Your burning out or breaking down WOULD NOT serve anyone.

I sincerely hope that you, too, will learn to be more loving and compassionate toward yourself. Give yourself a little more time each day, to rest, to nurture your body and recharge your spirit. Even just a few minutes of quiet time or a cat nap would make a huge difference. Give it a try, OK? YOU deserve it.

If you need more inspiration and strategies for taking care of yourself WHILE you take care of others, make sure you get a copy of my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. You can download the first 4 chapters (as my gift to you) at www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com.

Take good care of yourself… because you are irreplaceable!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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How to Find Peace When You Feel Out of Control

There are times when you feel like your life is going against your best intention or planning, and you are losing control. It’s easy to feel anxiety, fear, self-doubt, anger and other strong emotions. How do you find inner peace when many things seem to be out of your control? That’s the lesson I’ve been learning this past week – from an unexpected cold that felt like the flu, teenage driver and a school bomb threat.

Early last week, my daughter came home from school, sick as a dog. She is usually very healthy, so this was unusual for her. The weather has been very unstable recently, and colds and flu are going around. As a seasoned Dr. Mom, I immediately whipped out all my powerful healing tools, including Young Living Essential Oils and ZeroPoint bio-energetic lasers and intention stones to help her balance and reset her bio-energetic system, boost her immunity, and lesson her discomfort (I’ll share about these AMAZING healing tools with you in the near future). She fell asleep in the middle of the bio-energetic reset protocol, and after a few hours of deep sleep, woke up feeling MUCH better.

Meanwhile, I myself was feeling a little bit under the weather that day. After tending to my daughter, I started to go down the hill, FAST. Care-giving is very straining, physically and emotionally, as I had experienced and shared in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul. Still, I was fighting the cold with every ounce of my strength and will. I did NOT want to get sick at all. I did all the holistic and bio-energetic healing protocols that I used on my daughter, but, I was not feeling better.

I was dragging myself for about two days, trying to get things done in my business and around the house. I couldn’t control my body, which frustrated me big time. At the same time, I was beating myself up for getting sick and losing precious time. I got frustrated and angry that those healing tools did not work as effective this time. The worked wonders before. So, what’s wrong with ME? My “Evil Stepsister” chimed in: “What a disgrace! You’re an expert in self-care and mindful wellness. How can you get sick?! What will other people think when they find out?!” And my “Evil Stepmother” called me lazy, when I decided not to send out my e-zine last Friday. I was like, “WHOA, time out! I’m not lazy! I’m not feeling well and I deserve to rest.”

It finally dawned on me that I was resisting the reality, instead of being in the present moment and accepting “what is”. What you resist, persists. I was fighting with the reality that I had a bad cold and I needed (and deserved) to rest. In addition, the false belief that “I shouldn’t get sick at all” robbed my inner peace and created more stress in my physical and emotional body. No wonder none of those healing tools worked. No wonder I wasn’t getting better.

The reality is, I’m ill, and it’s OK to be ill from time to time. I’m only human, and this is part of the human experience. When I finally accepted what is without judgment, I told my Evil Stepmother and Stepsister to shut up, closed my office and allowed myself to rest as much as I could. My body responded and began to heal. It’s taken longer than I thought, and I’ve learned that you can’t rush healing. Everyone’s body is different. I’m learning to be more patient and kind to myself.

The second lesson came last weekend, when my daughter finished her 6-hour driving lessons and got her driving permit. I don’t know where “teenage driver” ranks on the top 10 stress and anxiety list, but I’m guessing it’s pretty high for any parent. She was over-the-moon excited and ready to get on the road, but, I was far from ready. My husband is braver than I am. He took her out driving around town the next day, and even let her drive him to school (only 2 blocks from home) on Monday. Both the driving instructor and my husband said that she did a great job, although I was still skeptical. In my mind, she is still my little baby girl. She only has 6 hours of lesson. Can she really drive on the road? Shouldn’t we be practicing in an empty parking lot (for a few months) first?

The next day, I was going to pick up my son from school when she enthusiastically asked, “Mommy, can I drive?” My first reaction was, “You want to drive my minivan? Are you sure? It’s much bigger than daddy’s car.” I wanted to say no, but, knowing that it was my fear talking, I decided to say yes instead. How will she be able to learn and get good at driving, if I don’t give her a chance? Here’s an opportunity for me to check what she has learned and teach her what I know. So, we got on the road, as I tried as hard as I could to look calm and relaxed. The worst thing I could do was to make her nervous by being a nervous wreck myself. To my surprise, even though she was brand new to driving, she had a fairly stable handle on the steering wheel, and she was being very careful. I’ve seen some new drivers who are much more nervous and unstable than she is. We drove all the way to school, picked up my son, and to my surprise, I offered for her to drive all of us to the grocery store too, which is on the opposite side of the town.

When we got home safely from the grocery store, she happily exclaimed, “YAY! We are ALIVE!” and I replied “Hallelujah!!” and we all laughed. Apparently she needs a lot more practice on braking and gauging the distance for turning, changing lanes, etc. but she will get better with time and practice, and I can help her with that. As long as my husband or I stay in the car with her, I think she can do well and stay safe. Come September she will get her full drivers license, and she won’t need us to drive with her. The thought of her driving somewhere without us or any grownup supervision is still nerve-wrecking for me, but, I’m going to take it one step at a time. Right now, there’s still a lot I can do to help her get ready. So when that day comes, and she goes out without me, hopefully she will remember what I’ve taught her and know what to do to keep herself safe.

As if a teenage driver is not nerve-wrecking enough, my 3rd lesson came yesterday, when I got a voicemail from the superintendent of my son’s school district that my son’s middle school was in lockdown. Half an hour later, the 2nd voicemail came, saying the lockdown was over, police just left and the kids were going to lunch. There was no explanation of WHY the school was locked down and I was visiting a Buddhist/Taoist temple in New York City when this happened, which means it would’ve taken me a few hours before I could get to my son’s school. As it turned out, the school was locked down due to a bomb threat!! In fact, they received 2 bomb threats 2 days in a row. Talk about nerve-wrecking!! Fortunately, all is well, and the police will be monitoring the campus for the next couple of weeks.

As I shared this incident on Facebook, I found out from one of my co-stars in “The Keeper of the Keys” movie Laura Carpenter-Vobornik that her daughters go to Chardon High School where the shootings shocked the nation on February 27 (fortunately her daughters are safe). The severity of the bomb threat in my son’s school slowed sunk in. It was so surreal to think that something so terrible could happen in your child’s school, and yet, I realized that we are all vulnerable to random violence, accidents and unspeakable tragedies like the Chardon shootings. In my case, there were several blessings, though. First and foremost, the bomb threat was a false alarm. Second, I somehow didn’t hear the first call, so, I got both voicemail messages at the same time (after the lockdown was over). If I had gotten the first message right away, I would’ve freaked out!! Last but not least, because I was at the temple, I was able to pray to the Tao/Buddha and surrender my fears to him. That made a huge difference! Even though I didn’t know the details about the lockdown, I got the peace of mind knowing that he is safe and all is well.

The next morning after he went to school, I got that panic feeling again, worrying whether they will have another bomb threat or lockdown. Again, I had to spend extra time in meditation and surrender to the Divine.

This, I realized, is a process I’ll need to repeat, over and over.

So, how do you find peace when you feel out of control? I hope you take away a few lessons from my story:

1. Accept what is without judgment. It’s no use to argue, deny or reject the reality. Resisting it will only create more resistance, stress, anxiety, anger or destructive behaviors. Blaming yourself or others will not help, either.

2. You can’t rush things. Everything works on divine timing, not on your schedule. Sometimes despite your best efforts, you don’t seem to get anywhere. But, if you stick to it a little longer, you’ll have a breakthrough or another door will open. Learn to be patient and trust the process.

3. Do your best and surrender the rest. You can only do your best. When things are not going according to your plan, and you are feeling out of control, know that there is a higher purpose in everything. Learn to trust that everything is in divine order and things will work out for your highest good, even when it appears the opposite.

4. Be patient and kind to yourself. Beating yourself up does not help the situation. If you’re not feeling well, do whatever you need to heal yourself. By all means, take a nap if you need to. Take your time. Your health is the top priority for your own well-being and your long-term success. Remember, you are irreplaceable!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Holiday Stress Relief for the Shy and Sensitive Introverts

Are you a shy, sensitive introvert? Do you get overwhelmed easily by noise, light, busy activities, crowded places, trying new things or meeting new people? Are you easily affected by other people’s words, emotions and/or energies? If so, chances are, holidays are stressful and overwhelming for you. With MORE people, things and activities to deal with, it’s very easy to get stress and sensory overload. Can you relate?

Let me tell you a first-hand experience I had last week.

It was the day after the red-carpet premiere of The Keeper of the Keys movie in which I costar with Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray. I had a great time getting all dressed up (the hair and makeup took 2 hours) for the red carpet and hanging out with my fabulous costars. It was surreal to watch myself on the silver screen. The movie was AMAZING!! We partied till past midnight (which was 3 AM Eastern time) on the premiere night. I was exhausted, but I had to get up early that morning for another hair and makeup session for my photo shoot. I hadn’t drank coffee for a while, but, I asked for one that morning before heading down for the photo shoot.

Hueina Su Marci Shimoff Jack Canfield at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

Note to self: Never schedule a photo shoot the morning after a major party!

The photo shoot went well. I tried my best to smile despite my fatigue. It was a LOT of walking, though, in downtown Las Vegas, in my super high heels, which I totally didn’t expect. After an hour of walking around, my feet were killing me and I just wanted to crawl back to bed.

Hueina Su & John Gray at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

That’s when my dear hubby called, saying he and our kids were having lunch near the hotel, asking me if I were going to join them. I asked him to bring me some food and iced tea instead. I really needed a break. When he got back, he was complaining that I didn’t answer his text about what kind of tea I wanted. He questioned why I wouldn’t answer my phone “all morning” or text him back when I “had a break during the photo shoot.” Then he was rushing me to get ready to go to Red Rock Canyon.

Are you kidding me?!! I was really irritated, to say the least. First of all, I told him, I didn’t “have a break” during the photo shoot. We were walking and taking pictures the whole time. And, my phone was on mute, in my purse, which the photographer was carrying for me. Second of all, the entire movie VIP luncheon, premiere night and the photo shoot, even though fun, were official business functions. I was busy working, for God’s sake!

It wasn’t a pretty picture… I was hungry, tired and really cranky. It took great constraint on my part to NOT have a meltdown in front of my kids. On our way to the Red Rock Canyon, you could clearly feel the tension in the air.

After eating some food and meditating to center myself, I felt MUCH better. The gorgeous scenery and fresh air at the Red Rock Canyon uplifted my spirit. We were amazed by the peace and quiet in that magnificent open space. I breathed a sigh of relief, as I took in the beauty all around me, and every cell in my body relaxed. Before long, I was happy playing with my family and snapping tons of pictures (you know how much I love photography). Well, nature proved to be just what I needed to recharge and center myself.

Hueina Su at at The Keeper of the Keys movie premiere

It was a big lesson for me. Being a shy and sensitive introvert, I’m usually quite mindful of managing my energy – physical, mental and emotional energies. I can strike a pose and enjoy all the glamor and excitement on the red carpet, AS LONG AS I allow enough time to rest and recharge. Having quiet, solitary time every day is extremely important to me. However, on this trip, because of the tight schedule and because I brought my entire family with me, I ended up not having quiet time for myself. Sleep deprivation and low blood sugar made everything worse! Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and I’m so happy that they could share this amazing experience with me. However, if I could do it again, I would’ve built in pockets of quiet time, just for me, every single day. That’s why after returning home, I intentionally unplugged from emails and Internet for a few days, so that I could rest, recharge and process all the exciting experiences from this trip.

Hopefully you’ve learned a valuable lesson from my story too. Here are a few tips for you this holiday season and beyond:

  • If you are a shy, sensitive introvert, you need to be mindful of your activities and energy level. To avoid sensory overload, plan your day and activities carefully. Try not to schedule too many activities that are taxing for you physically, mentally or emotionally.
  • Build in enough quiet time and rest every day, so you can recharge and stay centered. Practice meditation, spend time in nature, or simply sit quietly. Let yourself sleep in or take a nap when you need it.
  • Use stress relief techniques and tools such as deep breathing, yoga, and visualization. Therapeutic-grade essential oils are an excellent tool for stress relief, managing energy level and emotional healing. Just make sure you are using the therapeutic-grade essential oils so you don’t end up burdening your body with allergens and chemical toxins.
  • Practice Intensive Self-Care and self-compassion. Ask yourself: “What’s the most loving thing I can do for me right now?”
  • Set good boundaries on what kind of people you interact with. Try to surround yourself with positive people and limit your time with people who drain your energy.
  • Know that what other people think of you, how they feel or act are NOT your business. You can only control your own thoughts, emotions and actions.
  • Give yourself permission to say NO. You don’t have to accept every single invitation to holiday gatherings.
  • Focus on what really matters to YOU and let other stuff slide.

Most important of all, be fully present and ENJOY the holidays!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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