Intensive Self-Care: Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

Self-Love Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

After the car accident earlier this month, I’ve been taking extra time to rest, so that my body can heal and recover. Coincidentally, during a group coaching call the other day, the topic of rest and self-care came up. Several members in our group (all high-achieving woman entrepreneurs) have asked for support and guidance on getting more rest and self-care time for themselves. Some of us have a tough time setting boundaries around work. You know, when you are a high achiever working for yourself, it’s very tempting to work ALL the time. However, if you don’t have adequate rest and self-care, your health and your business simply won’t survive. Other people have a hard time unplugging from Internet and social media (myself included). It becomes a distraction and time suck that interfere with both work and family/personal time.

Apparently, taking time for rest and self-care is a common challenge among high achievers.

It’s no surprise to me. Self-Care Deficiency is a hidden epidemic among moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals, small business owners and other high-achievers, as I discussed in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. So many women have a hard time ALLOWING themselves to rest — out of guilt, unworthiness, or because they are so wound up (mentally, physically, emotionally, or all of the above) that they simply cannot relax and rest . Can you relate?

I used to feel very guilty for sleeping in, especially when my kids were younger, and when it’s bright & sunny outside (that was an old programming from my childhood about not being lazy & wasting time). I often “override” my body’s signals with my strong will and my drive to achieve. The old programming that says if you rest & sleep in, it means you’re not a good mother or not working hard enough, used to bring up SO much guilt in me. I’d beat myself over and over.

Nowadays? NO GUILT. I honor and allow my body to rest when it needs to. The work will get done with more grace & ease, when I’m fully recharged.

How about you? Do you listen to your own body, and ALLOW yourself to rest without guilt? What old messages & beliefs get stirred up when you try to rest or do something nice for yourself?

Allowing yourself to rest is not being selfish or lazy. It’s an act of self-love. I love what my coach suggested — be “an overachiever for rest”. Let’s channel our overachieving energy into Intensive Self-Care. Let’s try it for a week, OK? Are you up for the challenge? :)

Tell me: What would you commit to do (or NOT do) today, in order to take better care of YOU? Please comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

If you need support in creating a self-care practice and more time for YOU (minus the guilt), I invite you to book a complimentary 30-min consultation with me via phone or Skype, and we will explore how coaching with me can help you. You can schedule your appointment here

Take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable.

P.S. My book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT Mother’s Day gift — for yourself and/or for someone you really care about. You can order here.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Feeling Overwhelmed? You Need to STOP, DROP & ROLL!

Overwhelmed businesswoman

Do you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, most of my clients felt that way when they first came to me for coaching.

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have ever come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined.

P.S. “Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others written by Hueina Su. This article is adapted from the book. You can order the book here or on Amazon.

P.P.S. Watch Hueina talk about this STOP, DROP & ROLL concept during her keynote speech at an international medical conference in Asia.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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The Last Knit: A Lesson Of Passion, Balance and Letting Go

The Last Knit animated short film directed by Laura Neuvonen

It was right before dawn, a knitter quietly walked toward a cliff. She picked a good vantage point facing the cliff and the rising sun, set up a chair and spread out her knitting supplies. She looked around, smiled, feeling satisfied with her arrangement, and got ready to create her masterpiece. As the sun rose up in the sky, the knitter has created a beautiful, long, multicolored scarf. She reached down to a pair of scissors at her feet, getting ready to cut the yarn and finish her masterpiece. However, she hesitated and decided to keep going. She stroked and examined her creation with admiration and pride, as she continued to knit. Her passionate fingers moved skillfully, faster and faster. The scarf grew longer and longer, curled and piled up by her feet. She stretched her legs and gave the pile a gentle kick, in order to create more room for her creation to grow.

That innocent, gentle kick was the tipping point that created the irrevocable domino effects that sealed her fate…

You see, unbeknownst to the knitter, when she kicked the pile of scarf to make more room, the tip of the long scarf fell off the edge of the cliff. As she continued to knit, and the scarf continued to grow longer, more of the scarf hung off the edge of the cliff, and the growing weight started to pull the entire scarf AND the knitter toward the edge of the cliff.

By now, the knitter realized there was a problem, as she was fighting a losing battle to pull the scarf away from the cliff. She could barely keep herself from falling down the cliff with her masterpiece. At this point, she could no longer reach the scissors, as she had been pulled WAY too far from her chair. What are her options? She could pull out her knitting needles and let go of her scarf. Or, she could simply let the whole thing go…

But, of course, she couldn’t, and WOULDN’T, let go of her beloved masterpiece.

Instead, she decided to knit FASTER, adding length to her scarf in order to counteract the weight and speed of the rest of the scarf falling down the cliff. Her face stubborn and determined. Her fingers moving feverishly. She knitted and knitted like there was no tomorrow… At one point, the scarf flew up in the sky, as she stared defiantly at it, as if she was taming a wild beast. For a moment, you might think that victory was hers. However, that’s when she ran out of yarn.

That’s when everything fell apart… 

The scarf now pulled her entire body off of balance and she was being dragged on the ground toward the edge of the cliff. She couldn’t reach back for the scissors. There was nothing nearby for her to grab on. In a moment of desperation, she decided to knit her long hair into her creation. She thought she could buy enough time to pull the entire thing back from the cliff. However, she simply didn’t have the strength.

Her creation has grown to be larger than life and she couldn’t do anything but be dragged down by it. The edge of the cliff was fast approaching. And this time, she was totally attached (literally!) to her creation and couldn’t even let go…

This is the story from an amazing animated film called The Last Knit. The entire film is less than 7 minutes long, with NO dialogue at all, but it’s full of edge-of-your-seat twists and turns till the end, with some PROFOUND lessons. I’ve included the video at the end of this post, so you can watch the film yourself, and find out what happened to the knitter in the end. It’s a surprise.

What do you think of this story? To me, this is a cautionary tale about passion, balance (or lack thereof), and letting go.

There is a fine line between passion and obsession, between devotion and compulsion. Would you say this knitter was passionate and devoted? Or, would you say that she has crossed the line and become obsessive compulsive?

I’d like you to read my article again, but this time, replace the word “knitting” with “working.” The scarf represents the money, fame, power and anything else that the knitter is determined to achieve in life. The chair represents her grounded center — her life balance or her true self. The scissors represent the discernment for “enough-ness.” As time passes, the more she accomplishes, the more ambitious she becomes. She could have used the scissors to cut the scarf when it’s “good enough”, but her ambition for MORE and her attachment to her creation pushed her to keep going, allowing herself to be pulled off of balance, and almost led to her own demise.

What do you think about this story now? How differently do you feel when you see it through this new lens?

Have you met people who are so passionate about their work, and so devoted to their own creation, that they have lost their balance in life, or even become a bit obsessive compulsive?

Have you ever felt like you have lost your balance (and/or yourself) while working at a job, a project or a business, and felt like you were being dragged involuntarily like the knitter in the story?

When you get to the point of your creative process, where you could “tie a bow” and it would be good enough by most standards, how often do you choose to keep going, to make it bigger, better or more perfect?

When something (a job, business, project or relationship) is overwhelming or falling apart, do you tend to work harder and faster, “weave your hair in it” and sacrifice yourself as a last-ditch effort?

How do you find the balance between passion and obsession?

Can you discern when to persevere and when to let go?

Where do you draw the proverbial line in the sand?

When is enough really enough?

These, my friend, are the questions I’m offering for you to ponder. If you can’t answer them for yourself, perhaps I can help.  Contact me for a complimentary initial consultation (by phone or Skype), and I will help you get some clarity and point you toward possible next action steps.

 

The Last Knit (2005) from Anima Vitae on Vimeo.
About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Passion and Purpose – Why I Almost Went Postal

There’s nothing like a birthday that makes you pause and reflect on your life. One particular memory stood out for me this year. It was March 21, 2005, just a few days before my birthday. My husband Carey and I officially swore in and became U.S. citizens. It was a long process and so much preparation went into getting our citizenship. So on this day, we were both excited and happy that our efforts had finally paid off, and that we would reap the benefits of better future and more opportunities for us and our children.

On our way home, we were both in high spirit. That’s when it happened.

My husband turned to me and said, “Now that you’ve got your citizenship, you can get a government job, like the post office.” I couldn’t believe what I just heard! I felt my blood was reaching the boiling point, yet I was SO mad that I couldn’t utter a word. Even with my “death stare”, dear hubby seemed totally oblivious (typical man). He continued, “well, you know, you can also consider the bank. They are always hiring tellers.” OUCH! That really hurt my feelings!

You see, I gave up my career as a college counselor when my daughter was about one year old, and my son was born about 2 years later. I was a stay-at-home-mom for a couple years, then started a home-based business and doing freelance jobs. Back in 2005, I had stayed home with our two young children for a few years, and Carey had asked me several times when I would return to work (i.e. a full-time J.O.B.). After staying home for a few years, I wasn’t sure what career I wanted to pursue, and I wasn’t confident that I could return to my previous career. Let’s face it, being a stay-at-home-mom is not a confidence-booster for career-minded high-achieving women. Besides, I wanted to find something that would allow me to work around my children’s schedules. So, a regular 9-to-5 J.O.B. wouldn’t no longer work. I did not want to settle. After months of soul-searching, I still had no clarity about my career path. Until my dear friend Heather told me about life coaching, and I eventually enrolled in iPEC Coaching and became a Certified Empowerment Coach.

On the day I got my citizenship, I was just enrolled in the coaching school. I was so excited about my future career – one that I feel combines my past education, training and experience in nursing, counseling and healing people. So imagine my surprise when dear hubby suggested I find a job at the post office!

To be frank, if it wasn’t because he was driving the car, I would’ve most definitely kicked him where it hurt MOST. And believe me, as a Black Belt in Tae Kwan Do, I have a powerful kick!!

After fuming for a while (you know how women are), I finally blurted out, “I can’t believe you said that!!! Post office? Why don’t I get a job as a grocery store cashier then?” I felt humiliated and hurt. He didn’t believe in me. I didn’t moved all the way from Asia to get my master’s degree, just to end up sorting mails here.

No offense to postal workers. It’s an important and respectable job. It’s just not something that’s aligned with my passion, purpose or talents. I know I’ll become bored and resentful very quickly, and it might just kill what little self-confidence I had left.

The last thing I wanted was to settle and compromise myself. And I’m so glad I didn’t. I became a Certified Empowerment Coach, best-selling author and international keynote speaker. I get to do what I love and make a difference in the world every day. My children, now 16 and 14, are amazing young people and very close to me because I’ve been home with/for them. And my husband Carey has become my biggest fan. Now he totally believes in my vision and support my work in so many ways. I’m truly grateful for him!

How about you? Are your life and work aligned with your passion, purpose and talents? Is your job feeding your soul, or draining your life force?

If you are currently at a job that depletes you, ask yourself why. Are you staying at this job because you are not sure what you really want? Or is it because of fear (fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown etc)? Are you settling because you think that’s being responsible to your family, or, are you using your family as an excuse not to pursue your dream?

Oftentimes we feel that we have to be responsible to our family, at the cost of our own well-being and happiness. Self-sacrifice, as I wrote in my Amazon bestseller Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, is a virtue for many people, especially heart-centered women. It’s also a surefire way to Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome, a host of physical, emotional and relationship problems. Let me give you a reframe here. If you are sacrificing your core values and well-being, you are not being responsible to yourself – your higher self. Of course, being a parent, some sacrifice and compromises are required. There is constant give-and-take in marriage too. But, there is a difference between healthy give-and-take and complete sacrifice of your happiness, core values, well-being and even who you are. Can you tell the difference?

So, if you are currently at a job that depletes you, what’s the first step you can take to move toward a career that’s more aligned with WHO you are and give you more JOY? Maybe it’s getting clear on what you really want. Maybe you need to take classes or learn new skills for your new career. Maybe you need to polish your resume. Maybe you need to block out time to write or start your business. Or even just allow yourself 10 minutes to daydream. No matter how tiny a baby step you can take, do it. Begin today.

If you need some ideas and action steps for successful midlife career change, check out my audio CD “Changing Lanes: Secrets of Successful Midlife Career Change” on my website. You will learn:

  • 4 myths that lead to job dissatisfaction
  • 4 mistakes people make in career change
  • how to decide whether to stay or change your career
  • what you must look for in your new career to ensure your happiness
  • the proactive steps to take for a successful midlife career change

If you are stuck in analysis paralysis, you might also love “Effortless Decision-Making Strategies for the Indecisive which teaches you:

  • the underlying reasons why you are indecisive
  • 3 questions you can ask yourself when you’re stuck
  • the 10-second technique to bring clarity in decision-making
  • one critical factor to ensure better decision-making and less regrets for you
  • tips and tools to help you make up your mind so you can move forward

All my books, CDs & movie DVDs are available here: www.HueinaSu.com/store. Today is the LAST day of my birthday celebration sale. Everything is 20% off (use Coupon Code 201203). Plus, if your order total is $50 or more (after the 20% discount) you will also receive a copy of The Venus Evolution Global Telesummit MP3 recordings ($77 value).

If you need further support through coaching, I’m here for you. Simply drop me an email at info [at] HueinaSu.com with the subject line “coaching consult” and I will send you the details.

No matter where you are on your journey, I wish you a year filled with JOY and fulfilling success!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Dragon, Second Chance and One Decision


Happy Chinese New Year!! As I was reflecting last night, my heart was filled with JOY and gratitude for all the LOVE and riches in my life. My family enjoyed a great Chinese New Year’s Eve dinner together, and we called our parents, in-laws and relatives in Taiwan to wish them Happy Chinese New Year. What an amazing year 2011 has been, and I know I have so much to look forward to in 2012!!

Actually, we ALL do.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve had lots of triumphs or rock bottom defeats last year, you’ve been given a second chance today to start anew. It doesn’t matter if you have not started your 2012 on the right track, or, you might be falling off the wagon in terms of your New Year’s Resolutions. You’ve been given a second chance today.

Why? You see, today is Chinese New Year’s Day, the beginning of Year 4710. And it’s not just any Chinese New Year, either. This is the Year of the Dragon, one of the most powerful in the Chinese Zodiac. This is one of the reasons I LOVE my culture, because Chinese New Year always comes after the “regular” New Year. That means, I’ll always get a second chance to re-start my New Year. :) And now that you know this, YOU are given a second chance today too!

Where do you start? You start by making ONE DECISION. In The Keeper of the Keys movie, I talked about the ONE DECISION that saved my life. It was truly a pivotal moment that changed my life forever, and I still remember that moment of awakening so vividly after twenty years. I was in my twenties and just moved from Asia to US, far away from all my friends and families. Back then, I had very low self-esteem and as a result my relationships with men were a string of disasters. I kept attracting guys who didn’t love or appreciate me for who I was, and I kept bending backwards for them, trying to earn their love and approval. After 3 guys IN A ROW cheated on me, I completely fell apart! All the childhood emotional trauma came back and I fell into the deep abyss of depression. For months I was on the brink of suicide, until one morning I woke up. I mean I REALLY woke up and got angry! I realized that those men were not worthy of my love and I deserve so much more! That morning I made ONE DECISION: If nobody in the world will love me, I will love myself. If I can’t fit in or blend in anywhere, I will stand out and be who I am. If I were to have any chance at success or happiness, I must learn to believe in myself and do it MY WAY.

That ONE DECISION saved my life and turned my life around.

Now it’s YOUR turn: What is the one thing you’d like to change this year that will make the MOST difference in your life? And what is the ONE DECISION you have to make in order to achieve that?

My invitation is for you to make that ONE DECISION today. Declare it right here, right now by leaving a comment on this post. Say it loud and clear for the whole world to hear. It’s your declaration to the Universe!!

To support you, I’m going to give away TWO prizes!! The first prize is a one-hour telephone coaching session with me (the coaching session is valued at $400, and your transformation from coaching is PRICELESS), and the second prize is an AUTOGRAPHED DVD of my new movie The Keeper of the Keys, which I co-star with Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray. You will learn how to master the 7 keys that can change your life, and have a good laugh (serious) along the way! You’ll probably cry when you watch my segment, so have your Kleenex ready. You’ve been warned. By the way, the DVDs are ready for order on my website. Order now so you can receive the special discounted price, plus there are some special bundles to choose from. As soon as I receive them (should be in a week or so), I will be able to ship them to you. :)

OK, how do you win the prizes? By entering the ONE DECISION CHALLENGE! It’s really easy. All you have to do is fill out a simple entry survey telling me what is the one thing you want to change/achieve this year, what is the ONE DECISION you need to make in order to achieve it, 3 reasons you want to achieve it, and 3 reasons why you think coaching with me will help you achieve your goal (psst, this is the part where you need to WOW me).

That’s the gist of it. Simply fill out the ONE DECISION CHALLENGE entry survey BEFORE 5PM EST on January 31, and you will be entered into the contest. I will personally read every single entry, and choose the best response as the winner. By completing the entry survey, you will come away as a WINNER whether you win the challenge or not. Because of the way I designed this entry survey, if nothing else, you will gain valuable clarity and resolution for achieving your goal. That alone could make or break your goal, so it’s PRICELESS!

So go ahead and take the ONE DECISION CHALLENGE entry survey now.

If the link does not work, simply copy & paste this URL to your web browser: www.surveymonkey.com/s/GJSYNPZ

May the Year of the Dragon bring you much Peace, Power & Prosperity! I look forward to reading your ONE DECISION CHALLENGE entries and comments on my blog. Good Luck!!

Peace & Joy,
Hueina

P.S. You can now order your AUTOGRAPHED “The Keeper of the Keys” movie DVDs on my website here: www.HueinaSu.com/the-keeper-of-the-keys-movie

P.P.S. Don’t forget to enter the ONE DECISION CHALLENGE to win TWO amazing prizes!! (Hurry before 1/31) www.hueinasu.com/one-decision-challenge

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Beyond Horizon Coaching Featured in Daily Record’s Special Business Denville Rockaway This Week

 

 

THE BASICS

Business name:  Beyond Horizon Coaching

Type of business: Life Coaching, Keynote Speaking, Training, Consulting

Owner: Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC

Address: Denville, NJ 07834

Phone: (973) 664-0446

Web site: www.HueinaSu.com

Find us on: Facebook.com/Hueina.Su, Twitter.com/HueinaSu

Hours of operation: by appointments only

Founded: 2005

 

THE DETAILS

Why did you start the business?

I started my first career as a registered nurse more than 23 years ago. Over the years, I’ve worked in nursing, counseling, education, nonprofit and started several businesses. Every career I took on involved helping others improve the quality of their lives. In 2004 I was looking to reinvent myself again, and a good friend of mine told me about life coaching. What attracted me to coaching was the fact that I could continue to help people improve their lives while integrating all my previous education and skills. Being a mom and a former nurse, I have experienced and overcome stress and “nurturing burnout,” and I understand the serious consequences of chronic stress. That’s why I chose to work with healthcare professionals, family caregivers, working moms, women business owners and other women nurturers, and help them with stress management, work-life balance, self-care and self-empowerment. It is my mission to help one million women nurturers put Intensive Self-Care as their top priority, and create the life of their choice. Through personal coaching, keynote speaking, workshops, corporate training and consulting, I provide inspiration, practical strategies and innovative solutions for my clients.

If you could do it again, what would you do differently?

If I could do it again, I would’ve hired a high-caliber business and marketing coach. If I had a great coach from day one, I wouldn’t have to go through all the trials and errors. It would’ve saved me so much time, energy and money!

What’s the best business advice you have ever received?

My parents always told me to get the best education and never stop learning. I always try to keep current with my professional training, as well as business skills. I invest in tens of thousands of dollars every year in working with coaches and mentors, as well as attending conferences and training programs. My clients benefit greatly from my learning. In this time and age, everything is changing so fast. You really have to keep learning and adapting, invest in yourself and your business, or your business simply won’t survive.

What personality trait helps you the most?

I’m compassionate, calming and insightful. I have a way of seeing through the “old programming” of my clients and giving them empowering new perspectives and solutions. Also, I’m a great listener and connect with people easily.

 

 

What’s the hardest part of the job?

As I am expanding my practice, I need to build a support team. Finding the right people is the hardest part.

The easiest?

The easiest part of my job is coaching clients, writing my books, delivering keynotes because these are all the things I love. With the internet and different technologies, I can easily work with clients from all over the world, no matter where I am.

I heard that you are a keynote speaker and you speak internationally. Where do you speak?

I deliver keynotes at government agencies, professional organizations, corporations, nonprofit, medical, nursing & women’s conferences such as FDA, American Cancer Society, Northeast Regional Oncology Nursing Conference, Women’s Institute Annual Conference and at different spa resorts & retreats. I also make guest appearances on national TV and radio shows such as Lifetime TV, and Flourish! with Dr. Christiane Northrup on Hay House Radio.

This August, I’m invited to deliver a keynote at Taiwan Joint Conference in Health Care, an international medical and public health policy conference in Taipei, Taiwan. I will be addressing 700-800 medical doctors and hospital administrators, sharing the principles and strategies from my best-seller Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. I’m honored and very excited about this opportunity.

 

 

What topics do you speak on?

I speak on stress management, self-care for caregivers, and women’s empowerment. My most requested topics are: Claim Your Peaceful Power for True Happiness, Inner Peace and Unstoppable Success, Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul (How to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others), Nurture and Grow Rich (3 Keys to Building a Thriving, Sustainable Business), and Sailing Through Your Breast Cancer Journey.

What makes you different from other coaches and speakers?

What sets me apart from other speakers and coaches is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese wisdom and culture behind me. Brought up in Taiwan and trained in the U.S., I am known for my wisdom, compassion, and the way I blend my Eastern philosophy and Western training in solving modern day problems. In addition, I focus on helping my clients overcome both inner and outer obstacles, instead of just dealing with the “symptoms” of their problems. Just like you can’t just put on a band-aid when you have an infection on your arm, you can’t solve your problem by going for a quick fix or only dealing with the symptoms. No matter what my clients’ challenges are, whether it’s stress, life balance, self-confidence or business issues, I help them get to the root cause of their issue, and provide practical strategies and action plans.

What’s your least expensive product or service?

The least expensive product (and it’s free) is my introductory 7-Part Video E-Course “Taming the Invisible Chaos” and the other free download is Intensive Self-Care Kit at www.HueinaSu.com

The most expensive?

The most expensive yet the most effective program is my Private Platinum VIP Coaching Program where my clients get to coach and consult with me one-on-on to create their vision and strategic plan, followed by a year-long private coaching and support from me. This is also the most valuable and powerful program that can help you transform your life and business to a whole new level.

Any major projects and programs since the last interview?

Since June 2010, I have been leading the Mindful Wellness Coaching and Stress Management Program at Sparta Cancer Center in Sparta, New Jersey. Over 80 cancer patients and caregivers have participated and benefited from the stress relief coaching program.  Recently, I was the keynote speaker at a Breast Cancer Survivorship Conference “Sailing Through Your Breast Cancer Journey”, which was organized by Summit Breast Care and Beyond Horizon Coaching (my company), and sponsored by Sparta Cancer Center, Newton Memorial Hospital, Sussex County Cancer Coalition and Project Self-Sufficiency. It was well-received and we had almost 100 people at the event.

Do you have any new program, service and event coming up?

I’m launching a new women’s empowerment and self-mastery program for heart-centered high-achieving professional women and entrepreneurs called the V.E.N.U.S. Circle. This is a program designed for women who understand the value and importance of working on themselves for their long-term success, happiness and well-being. Your business will grow only as much as who you are being. So all successful people know in order to up-level their success, they must continue to learn and master themselves personally and professionally.

Another exciting news is that I am starring in a new personal development movie called “The Keeper of the Keys” with Jack Canfield, (best-selling author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) and Marci Shimoff (best-selling author of Happy for No Reasons). I’m so honored work with Jack and Marci who are also featured experts in the phenomenally successful personal development movie, “The Secret.” This new movie “The Keeper of the Keys” will empower viewers by introducing them to the Universal Laws and how they can use these laws, or “keys”, to positively transform their own lives. It is set to release in December 2011 with a red-carpet premiere in Las Vegas.

What message would you like to share with the community?

So many people have lost their confidence and inner peace due to recent economic downturn or their circumstances. You might be stressed, overwhelmed, and even frozen in fear. The problem is not the external circumstances and chaos. You must remove the internal “Invisible Chaos” that keep you stressed, stuck, and sabotaging your own success. I have transformed myself from a painfully shy, insecure, depressed young girl from Asia to an international keynote speaker, best-selling author, and attracted amazing opportunities and success. I can help you transform yourself and create a life of your choice too!

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About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Is It Time for an Emotional Detox?

Back in October, I set a goal to dedicate the month for emotional detox. I realized that I had some old patterns and old energy that were holding me back and causing me unhappiness, and I wanted to “clean the slate” so I could bring my business and personal life to the next level. They say energy flows where attention goes. My attention and heightened awareness seemed to stir up more old patterns and energy from the past. Luckily, I have the coaching skills and healing tools to help myself. I also have my coach and some healer friends who support me in the process. I emerged from the emotional darkness feeling much lighter, peaceful and powerful.

Just as our physical body needs vital nutrients and occasional detox to stay healthy and perform at optimal level, so does our emotional body. Oftentimes I see clients try so hard to achieve their goals and hit an invisible brick wall. They self-sabotage, lose motivation and self-confidence, get stuck in inertia or analysis paralysis. Or they might have achieved a lot but still don’t feel happy. They feel anxious, sad, resentful at others or angry at themselves, self-pity, inadequate, powerless or even hopeless. They might also have physical symptoms such as headache, indigestion, neck and back pains, insomnia, anxiety or panic attack.

Can you relate? When you are in this state, your negative emotions and self-sabotage become a vicious cycle. It becomes so much harder to push yourself to reach your goals. I know, because I’ve seen so many of my clients struggle, and I have been there myself. If you have the above symptoms, it is time for an emotional detox.

There are 8 major emotional toxins I see in many people: Not Good Enough, Not Worthy, Chronic People-Pleasing, Perfectionism, Emotional Traumas & Dramas, Self-Limiting Beliefs, Compulsive Comparison (with others) and The Four Fears (fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and fear of judgment). These are the root cause of stress and self-sabotage. I call them the Invisible Chaos since most people are unaware of their own patterns. They are swept away by these internal tornadoes and unable to free themselves.

I have a coaching process to help my clients recognize and release these Invisible Chaos, so they can reclaim their balance and power for more success, inner peace, and happiness. You can sign up for my Taming the Invisible Chaos 7-part video e-course at www.InvisibleChaos.com.

Here are a few tips to assist your emotional detox. First step is to recognize your emotional toxins. Which of the Invisible Chaos is causing you stress and self-sabotage? What events or situations tend to trigger your negative emotions? What are the underlying thoughts and beliefs when you are experiencing these negative emotions?

Once you become aware, it’s time to release them. Coaching is very effective in working through these issues. You might also try energy healing (such as EFT) to release the emotions energetically. Therapeutic-grade essential oils such as Trauma Life, Release, SARA, Forgiveness, Peace and Calming are powerful tools for emotional healing at cellular level. You can inhale, diffuse, or apply the oils at your pulse points and/or chakras (more info about the therapeutic-grade essential oils at www.TrueHealingOils.com).

When you are going through emotional detox, it’s important to amp up your Intensive Self-Care and be more patient and compassionate with yourself. Most importantly, get the right support you need, right now, because your happiness and success depend on it.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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