A Perfect Mother’s Day Gift for Moms Who Take Care of Everyone But Themselves

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What would you give to your mom this Mother’s Day? Flowers are always appreciated… although they only last a few days. Chocolate is awesome… although it could add to her waistline (not so awesome).  A piece of beautiful jewelry or trinket? Also wonderful, but may or may not have much meaning, let alone any long-lasting benefits for mom.

What could you give to your mom, the woman who gave LIFE to you, took care of you around the clock when you were little (all those late-night feedings, fevers, throw-ups), sacrificed SO much for you over the years, and STILL trying to take care of you & guide you long after you’re all grown up?

When I pondered on this, there are probably very few (material) gifts that are truly worthy of our own mom, when we think about how much she has done for us and how much she means to us.

Then I thought about what I wish for my mom…

I wish she could learn how to take better care of herself and NOT feel guilty about it. I wish she knew how worthy of love she is, just by being herself — without having to do anything for anyone in order to prove her worth or win other people’s love & approval. I wish she could love herself unconditionally, instead of trying to get that love from someone else. 

I have a gut feeling that you might have some of these same wishes for your mom, or for YOURSELF, or maybe for your own daughter or granddaughter…

Am I right?

If you’re nodding your head, I’d like to suggest a Mother’s Day gift that could help your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones fulfill these wishes. I’d like to offer you a gift can and will keep on giving, to your mom who keeps giving SO much of herself, year after year. Would you like to hear what it is?

It is a book called Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know this is written by me. :) I wrote this book, because as a former RN, a wife, and a working mother of two, I have experienced first-hand how challenging it is to joggle taking care of a growing family, a full-time career/business, and aging parents. I’ve seen it, over and over, in my nursing colleagues, my coaching clients who are mostly high-achieving working moms, my own extended family full of medical professionals, and my friends who are family caregivers.

It’s all too easy to feel stressed, overwhelmed, or downright burned out, and taking care of yourself becomes… well, not only on the back burner, but it’s not even on the burner any more.

When you are not taking care of yourself adequately, your own health, energy and mood suffer greatly, then it affects your productivity, career, relationships and EVERYTHING ELSE. Can you relate?

I know most people KNOW intellectually how important it is to improve their self-care and manage stress, but it is simply very difficult for them to actually implement in their own lives. That’s where my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul comes in.

I intentionally wrote it in a VERY EASY to read format, that combines timeless principles, real life stories (of myself and my clients), and simple yet powerful action steps you (or your mom) can apply immediately in your own life. Because, let’s face it, with the kind of stressful and crazy-busy schedule you have, who has the time to read long, dry, difficult-to-implement how-to books on stress management?

This is more than a book. It’s an interactive guidebook filled with insights and powerful tools to prevent caregiver burnout. Each chapter comes with an interactive Self-Coaching Session, so you can personalize your learning and choose action steps that are JUST RIGHT FOR YOU.

If you (or your mom) often feel stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, with no time or energy to take care of yourself, or do what you enjoy doing…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel very guilty taking time to take care of yourself…

OR, if you (or your mom) often feel resentful, angry or sad for giving so much and taking care of everybody else EXCEPT yourself…

OR, if your (or your mom’s) health, energy level or mood are suffering greatly, and you are worried…

Then, I highly recommend that you order my book and dig in ASAP.

Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT GIFT for Mother’s Day or any day — for moms, grandmas, nurses, teachers, therapists, family caregivers, and anyone who is in the role of taking care of other people.

But, don’t just take my word for it. Please check out what other people who have read my book said about it here: www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com On this page, you will find more info about my book and how to order it for your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones.

Some of the topics I explore in the book include:

  • Recognizing Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome and what to do about it
  • Resolve the feeling of overwhelm
  • Finding joy and serenity in the present moment
  • Restore peace and calm when life is spinning out of control
  • Creating life balance to avoid caregiver burnout
  • How to clear out emotional clutter for lasting inner peace
  • Finding peace in the face of death and grieving

Again, it’s an interactive guidebook that will give your mom, yourself and/or your loved ones timeless insights, real life stories, as well as practical tools & action steps you can immediately implement in your own life.

It’s a meaningful Mother’s Day gift that will keep giving to your beloved mom, who keeps giving and giving to everyone.

It’s time for her to take better care of herself and give HERSELF some of that love and TLC she so generously gives to EVERYONE else. Don’t you agree?

The link to order the book is www.IntensiveSelfCareBook.com. If you’re in a hurry, you can also order it from Amazon and choose 2-day shipping.

Please use this link to order from Amazon, because when you order from this link, a part of the proceeds will go to Indrani’s Light Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to end violence against women. It’s our way to help make the world a better place for ALL. Thank you for your support!

“Intensive Self-Care is NOT being selfish,

and it’s NOT a luxury,

but rather an essential practice for your survival

and overall well-being.”

— Hueina Su

I hope you’ll order my book for your mom, yourself, and/or your loved ones who are taking care of everyone and need to take better care of themselves. It is a great gift that could change their lives for the better. And you know what? When mom feels better, EVERYONE ELSE benefits too!

If you are a mother, I wish you so much LOVE and JOY for a very Happy Mother’s Day. Pamper yourself. Do whatever your heart desires. You are worth it! Let’s strive to be champion and role model of Intensive Self-Care for our children. :) 

Until next time, remember to take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable!

Love, Peace & Joy,

Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Intensive Self-Care: Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

Self-Love Allow Yourself to Rest Without Guilt

After the car accident earlier this month, I’ve been taking extra time to rest, so that my body can heal and recover. Coincidentally, during a group coaching call the other day, the topic of rest and self-care came up. Several members in our group (all high-achieving woman entrepreneurs) have asked for support and guidance on getting more rest and self-care time for themselves. Some of us have a tough time setting boundaries around work. You know, when you are a high achiever working for yourself, it’s very tempting to work ALL the time. However, if you don’t have adequate rest and self-care, your health and your business simply won’t survive. Other people have a hard time unplugging from Internet and social media (myself included). It becomes a distraction and time suck that interfere with both work and family/personal time.

Apparently, taking time for rest and self-care is a common challenge among high achievers.

It’s no surprise to me. Self-Care Deficiency is a hidden epidemic among moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals, small business owners and other high-achievers, as I discussed in my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. So many women have a hard time ALLOWING themselves to rest — out of guilt, unworthiness, or because they are so wound up (mentally, physically, emotionally, or all of the above) that they simply cannot relax and rest . Can you relate?

I used to feel very guilty for sleeping in, especially when my kids were younger, and when it’s bright & sunny outside (that was an old programming from my childhood about not being lazy & wasting time). I often “override” my body’s signals with my strong will and my drive to achieve. The old programming that says if you rest & sleep in, it means you’re not a good mother or not working hard enough, used to bring up SO much guilt in me. I’d beat myself over and over.

Nowadays? NO GUILT. I honor and allow my body to rest when it needs to. The work will get done with more grace & ease, when I’m fully recharged.

How about you? Do you listen to your own body, and ALLOW yourself to rest without guilt? What old messages & beliefs get stirred up when you try to rest or do something nice for yourself?

Allowing yourself to rest is not being selfish or lazy. It’s an act of self-love. I love what my coach suggested — be “an overachiever for rest”. Let’s channel our overachieving energy into Intensive Self-Care. Let’s try it for a week, OK? Are you up for the challenge? :)

Tell me: What would you commit to do (or NOT do) today, in order to take better care of YOU? Please comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

If you need support in creating a self-care practice and more time for YOU (minus the guilt), I invite you to book a complimentary 30-min consultation with me via phone or Skype, and we will explore how coaching with me can help you. You can schedule your appointment here

Take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable.

P.S. My book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul is a PERFECT Mother’s Day gift — for yourself and/or for someone you really care about. You can order here.

 

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Feeling Overwhelmed? You Need to STOP, DROP & ROLL!

Overwhelmed businesswoman

Do you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact, most of my clients felt that way when they first came to me for coaching.

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have ever come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined.

P.S. “Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others written by Hueina Su. This article is adapted from the book. You can order the book here or on Amazon.

P.P.S. Watch Hueina talk about this STOP, DROP & ROLL concept during her keynote speech at an international medical conference in Asia.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Help Me Celebrate Moms and Support American Cancer Society

Since last June, I’ve been leading the Mindful Wellness Coaching Program for cancer patients, survivors and caregivers at the Sparta Cancer Center. In March, I co-organized and delivered a keynote at a special breast cancer survivors event called Sailing Through Your Breast Cancer Journey, which was co-sponsored by Summit Breast Care, Newton Memorial Hospital, Project Self-Sufficiency and Sussex County Cancer Coalition. The event was well-received and we had almost 100 participants. My own grandpa and grandma both died of cancer, and I took care of many terminal cancer patients when I was a nurse years ago, so I’ve always feel for cancer patients & survivors. That’s why I’ve done several workshops and participated in breast cancer walks for American Cancer Society over the years.Intensive Care for the Nurturer's Soul by Hueina Su

This year, I’m doing a special fundraiser for American Cancer Society’s Relay for Life on May 14. I’m helping the Rainbow Racers to raise money for their team. From now till May 14, when you order my book or CDs from my website, I will donate 50% proceeds to the Rainbow Racers for Relay for Life.

In addition to my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul, there are 5 different audio CDs to choose from: A Prescription for Stress-Free Living, The Balancing Act: Time Management for Busy Professionals, Learn to Say NO, So You Can Say YES to Your Life, Effortless Decision-Making Strategies for the Indecisive, and Changing Lanes: Secrets of Successful Midlife Career Change. Each one offers inspiration as well as PRACTICAL action strategies you can use right away. They make perfect gifts for moms, caregivers, teachers, coaches, healthcare professionals, and anyone who can use some relief from their stressful lives. Plus you will be supporting a great cause!! :)

To order my book and CDs, please visit my website www.HueinaSu.com/store. If you prefer to donate directly to Rainbow Racers, you can visit their team page at the American Cancer Society website.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Valentine’s Day Special

Valentine’s Day Special Bundle to Celebrate You!

Valentine’s Day is about sharing love with someone special, and that should include YOU! As a nurturer we often focus so much on taking care of EVERYONE but neglect ourselves. In celebration of Valentine’s Day and National Heart Health Month (February), I am offering an amazing special gift to celebrate YOU!!! This special bundle takes three of my powerful tools to help you reduce stress, nurture yourself without guilt, and create more JOY and PEACE in your busy life.

Are you someone that needs a little nurturing and self-love or do you know someone that could use the encouragement? These were specially selected as a bundle to give you that self-love and nurturing you need in order to care for others.

The Valentine’s Bundle Includes:

Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others

* Do you feel like there is no time for you?
* Are you feeling lonely and isolated?
* Are your work and life out of balance?
* Do you feel overwhelmed and stressed?
* Are you lacking a social life?
* Do you feel there’s never enough time?
* Do you feel exhausted at the end of the day?
* Is stress causing you physical or emotional distress?
* Difficulty juggling your work and family life?
* Disappointed in the lack of progress your loved one or patient is making?

Then this book is a must read for YOU!

“This book is a must read for anyone who is in the role of caregiver: nurses, doctors, home health aids, or anyone caring for a loved family member. Hueina Su has done an outstanding job of giving tools and techniques that are practical and highly valuable to caregivers. This book will inspire you as you hear her compassionate voice, giving you hope as well as solutions.”
— Terri Levine, PhD, MCC, The Guru of Coaching®, best-selling author of Coaching is for Everyone
This amazing interactive guidebook will help you:

  • Create more time for YOU
  • Resolve the feeling of stress & overwhelm
  • Take care of yourself without feeling selfish or guilty
  • Find joy and serenity in the present moment
  • Restore peace and calm when life is spinning out of control
  • Create life balance to avoid caregiver burnout
  • Clear out emotional clutter for lasting inner peace
  • Find peace in the face of death and grieving
  • Use Self-Coaching Session at the end of each chapter to personalize your learning and action steps
A Prescription for Stress-Free Living (Audio CD)

In the modern world where most people have hectic schedules and juggling multiple responsibilities, stress seems like an inevitable element in life that we have to live with. Maybe you have tried to alleviate stress by deep breathing, exercise, yoga, massage, shopping, but the relief is temporary. Or maybe you resort to other unhealthy coping behaviors, such as drinking, smoking, drugs, emotional eating, gambling, and end up creating more stress and problems. It is time to try something that works.
In this audio program, you will learn:

  • The anatomy of stress — where does your stress come from, what’s your default reaction, and how effective (or ineffective) your coping strategies are
  • The underlying root cause of your stress — it’s not what you think
  • Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome — what it is, what are the symptoms and consequences, and what can you do about it
  • Why most stress relief strategies only provide temporary relief, and what can you do instead to for long-lasting freedom from the devastating effects of chronic stress
  • The powerful 3-prong approach I use to help my clients relieve chronic stress, create more joy and balance in every area of their lives
  • 3 powerful questions that will shift your energy from stress to peace instantly
  • Empowering mindset shift to help you handle any crisis
  • Principles to live by for stress-free living
Learn to Say No Stress Relief CDLearn to Say NO, So You Can Say YES to Your Life (Audio CD)

Many people feel tremendously anxious or guilty when they have to say NO to other people’s requests. They feel obligated to say YES, and end up feeling over-scheduled, overwhelmed, stressed out, and even resentful. Can you relate to this?We all have 24 hours a day. When you say YES to something, you are saying NO to something else. In order to live a balanced life, you need to set your priorities straight, and set good boundaries by saying NO to some requests and/or invitations.

In this audio program you will learn:

  • the root cause of WHY you can’t say no
  • why changing behaviors alone will not work
  • what kind of “Wrong Equations” you’ve created around saying no
  • get clear about what you want to say no to
  • how to deal with guilt, fears, anxiety when you say no
  • the 7-step process to turn negative emotions into positive actions
  • the critical 6-second window to avoid being hijacked by your emotions
  • the ONE question you can use to take control of your emotions
  • strategies and tactics to help you say no
  • how to build on the insights you learn for lasting changes

Give Yourself and/or Someone You Care the Gift of Self-Love Today!!

As you can see, each one of these is very powerful on its own, and each provides practical tools and strategies to help you reduce stress, nurture yourself so you will have more to give to your loved ones. In celebration of Valentine’s Day and the National Heart Health Month (February), I’m offering these 3 products as a special bundle just for you!!

This is a perfect gift for Valentine’s Day and EVERYDAY!!

Regular Price for all 3 Products is $60.00

The Valentine’s Bundle Special Pricing: $47.00
(PLUS discounted shipping for this special LIMITED-TIME OFFER)


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About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Hueina Su Lifetime TV Interview Now on YouTube

The Balancing Act show on Lifetime TV interviews The Nurturer’s Coach and best-selling author Hueina Su. Show host Kristy Villa and Hueina Su talked about her bestseller Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul and her mission to bring the message of self-love and self-care to one million women nurturers worldwide. Hueina offered tips for moms, caregivers and health care professionals on reducing stress and overwhelm, avoiding burnout, and creating time for Intensive Self-Care.

The show aired on 8/9/2010 and you can now watch the interview anytime you like on YouTube.


About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Watch Hueina Su on Lifetime TV The Balancing Act

Attention: Moms, caregivers, healthcare professionals and anyone caring for others in their personal or professional lives.

If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, no time for you at the end of the day, and feeling guilty for taking time for you, this is for YOU.

The Balancing Act on Lifetime TV will interview Hueina Su, The Nurturer’s Coach and best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul on why you feel guilty taking care of you, and important keys to nurture yourself while you care for others. Tune in on Monday August 9 at 7:00 am ET on Lifetime TV for this important discussion. Don’t miss it!


About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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