Do You Long for True Inner Confidence and Peace
No Matter What’s Going on “Out There”?


From the desk of Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC

If you ask 100 people who have met me, what impressed them the most about me, I bet 90% would say that I exude peace, despite whatever is happening around me. They would say there’s this quiet confidence about me.

However, can I share an important secret with you?

Years ago, I was stressed out all the time.
It wasn’t because I was a registered nurse.
It wasn’t because I was taking care of many terminal cancer patients.
It wasn’t because I was commuting 3 hours every day to work.
It wasn’t because I was taking care of a newborn while working full-time.
I could deal with all that.
Want to know the REAL reason I was stressed?
There was a force that had a greater power over me. There was the Invisible Chaos that I grew up with that ran so deep and created a stress that governed so much of my life …
I was born and raised in Taiwan. Now, the first thing you need to know about my culture is that sons are strongly preferred over daughters, and that honoring your parents, your family and your tradition is of the utmost importance.
Hueina Su and Jack Canfield

Marci Shimoff (left), Hueina Su & Jack Canfield at the red-carpet premiere of their new movie The Keeper of the Keys

My family has 4 generations of doctors, nurses and dentists. My father is the eldest son in his family, and I am the eldest child in mine. Needless to say, my parents were hoping for a son to inherit my father’s medical practice. When I was born, my parents were excited for their first child, but my grandparents were outright disappointed. When my two younger sisters were born, the situation got worse. My parents are very loving and overprotective parents for us, however, they also never hide their longing for a son and the regret of not having one. Not having a son became the source of many conflicts and problems in my family.

As a young child, my father always called me his “substitute son”. To my father, he meant that he had very high expectations for me. But to me, I internalized it as I was not worthy and I would never be good enough for him, because I was not a son.
I felt that I had to try extra hard for my parents’ love and approval, because being myself was simply not good enough.

Hueina Su and Marci Shimoff exchange their bestsellers

Being a daughter of a small town doctor meant that everyone knew me as “Dr. Su’s daughter”. I was constantly reminded that everyone was watching my every move, and I should be mindful of my role and responsibility to honor my family. To my parents, nothing less than straight A was acceptable. To carry my family name and uphold the family honor proved to be tremendous pressure.

I felt like a fish in a small fish bowl, and my life was in plain sight for everyone to see and criticize. The glass on the fish bowl magnified every little flaw I had, and I had nowhere to hide. Talk about stress!!

I was extremely shy, insecure and self-conscious. I had tremendous fears of failure, rejection and judgment.
To make the matters worse, my mom, out of good intention to keep me away from boys, told me that for a girl to find a good husband (and that’s THE most important goal for a girl), she must either be beautiful, has a well-off family, or has good education. Mom said, “Hueina, you are not pretty, and we are not rich, so you’d better study hard.”
Of course, I totally believed her. Why wouldn’t I?
You see, when you buy into a certain belief, you will find all the evidence to support that. The early onset of severe acne and the fact that I didn’t have the coveted porcelain skin or shiny black hair only reinforced my belief that I was not pretty.
In fact, I believed that I was not pretty for twenty some years, until I realized that I am actually beautiful.
So, I studied hard and became an over-achiever, chronic people-pleaser and perfectionist. Even though I was a straight A student and excelled at everything I did, I felt extremely insecure and haunted by fear of failure. No matter how much I had achieved, I never felt good enough.
My relationships with men were a string of disasters! I kept attracting men who did not respect or appreciate me. As a result, I suffered from tremendous emotional pain and years of depression from many failed relationships. Mom’s tactic kept me from boys, however, she probably never imagined how much trouble and heartbreaks I’d have to pay for my low self-esteem and limiting beliefs.
I was depressed and on the brink of suicide many times because I just couldn’t deal with the stress and emotional pains from failed relationships and the pressure to succeed.

Hueina Su & John Gray, her costar of The Keeper of the Keys movie

In the meantime, since as young as I could remember, I was told that I must become a medical doctor and follow my family’s tradition, and that was the only way. I struggled with it when I realized that medicine was not my passion nor my gift. I wanted to be a writer but was told that I would most likely starve if I pursued that. Long story short, I became a nurse instead of following my heart. I was a good nurse, but I knew there was something more that I wanted. Eventually, I decided to follow my dream and moved to the U.S. for graduate study. Moving to a foreign country with a totally different culture and language takes tremendous courage. When I landed in Baltimore International Airport, I could barely speak English, and knew only one person in the state of Maryland. Both my parents and I had to take a giant leap of faith and a lot of risks, but I’m SO glad I did!

Every time I reinvented myself, I was following my passion and taking a leap of faith. It’s not easy to take risks and make big changes. But, when you are following your heart, it’s SO worth it!
I finished my master’s degree in Family Studies, became a counselor and later on a certified life coach. For more than 24 years I have thrived in many careers including nursing, counseling, consulting, education, nonprofit management, speaking, training, sales and small business.

“It was really lovely to meet and connect with Hueina Su, who has a knack for asking deep questions, and a unique perspective on power for women that is much needed in this all-too-adrenalized time on the planet. For someone trustworthy, reliable, deep, wise, not to mention a magnetic attractor of powerful results and inner peace, I’m delighted for you to learn more about Hueina and what she has to offer.

–- Andrea J. Lee, The Wealthy Thought Leader www.wealthythoughtleader.com

Over the years, through diligent studies on my spiritual journey, and the help of great mentors and coaches, I have learned how to tame my Invisible Chaos, reclaimed my Peaceful Power, and created much happiness and success in my life.
Hueina Su on Lifetime TV The Balancing Act show

Hueina Su on Lifetime TV

After years of suffering from men who didn’t respect or appreciate me, I now have a beautiful family. My husband and I have been married for 18 years. He loves and appreciates me as who I am, and supports me 100% in pursuing my dreams. My daughter is 17 and my son is 14 this year. They are both beautiful souls and such JOY in my life!

I have healed my relationship with my parents too. We are much closer than before. We talk every week and vacation together.

Hueina Su and her gold medals

After I learned to love and accept myself, and stopped trying to get my parents’ approval, they actually started to praise me and told me they are proud of me.

When I was 35, I started martial arts training. Within 3 years, I earned my Black Belt along with several gold medals from state and regional championships. Martial arts training helped me tremendously in connecting with who I truly am and see that I am much stronger than I thought.

You see, martial arts is all about self-mastery. When you can master yourself, you become unstoppable. That’s the Peaceful Power I mentioned earlier.

I now know that I am intelligent, strong, beautiful and powerful.
I became a certified life coach, international keynote speaker and realized my childhood dream of being a best-selling author. In fact, my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others became #1 Bestseller on Amazon.com.

I’m no longer that painfully shy girl who was insecure, heartbroken and depressed. Instead of hiding in the back of the room, I now travel the country and to Asia to give keynotes and present Teleseminars to a global audience. I’m a recognized expert featured on national TV, radio shows and magazines.

I was honored to co-star with Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff and John Gray in a ground-breaking multiple-award-winning transformational movie called The Keeper of the Keys (WINNER of Best Independent Film at 2012 Las Vegas Film Festival, Best Feature Documentary at 2012 IndieFest Award, and Official Selection at Sundance Festival)

In addition, I hosted The Venus Evolution Global Telesummit, with 20 world-renowned mentors, visionaries and experts in personal development, spirituality and business, to bring inspiration, wisdom and powerful solutions for heart-centered, high-achieving V.E.N.U.S. women. It’s such a JOY to work with these world-renowned mentors, and share my message and mission on a global level.

I’m much more confident, peaceful and happier. Most importantly, after years of rejecting and fighting with my self, I’m finally at peace with who I am.

True confidence is acquired when you exercise the freedom to be you. When you are deeply rooted in your true essence, fully tap into your Inner Authority, nobody and nothing in the world can disturb your inner peace, and you are most powerful.
– Hueina Su

My Chinese name Hueina consists of two characters which means wisdom and beauty. My grandfather gave me that name which clearly expressed his expectation for me. I feel like I’ve finally become who I’m meant to be. Life flows with ease and meaning.

It came to my attention that many women suffer from the same Invisible Chaos that I’ve struggled with, and it causes them tremendous amount of stress, anxiety, insecurity, self-sabotage and emotional pain.

I have reverse-engineered what I had to do to transform myself and create the inner peace, joy and success in my life. And I’m on a mission to help other women like you do the same.
It is my passion and personal mission to empower heart-centered, high-achieving women nurturers to practice Intensive Self-Care, restore inner peace, joy and life balance, succeed on their own terms, and create a life of their CHOICE. By changing the lives of women nurturers, I intend to empower these women as role models for the next-generation women, and impact all the lives they will touch for generations to come.

“There are two primary choices in life:
to accept conditions as they exist,
or to accept the responsibility for changing them.”
— Denis Waitley

Listen, here’s the thing:

Hueina Su and Michael Port, New York Times best-selling author of Book Yourself Solid

If you are feeling stuck in stress, anxiety, fears, self-doubt, low self-esteem or unconscious self-sabotage, you’ve got to make some changes NOW, and you’ve got to get the RIGHT SUPPORT to do that.

If you are READY and WILLING to invest in yourself, in your own success, then coaching might be the right solution for you!! Coaching can provide the ongoing support, accountability, motivation and tools that you need to FINALLY create the success you desire in your personal and professional life.

The first step is to realize that you do have the CHOICE and the POWER to make the changes in your life, and you deserve it.

You have spent your life taking care of everyone around you and living by someone else’s rules. Now it’s YOUR turn!

…. to nurture yourself …. to pursue your passions …. to travel the world …. to go after that dream career …. to go back to school …. to have some fun …. to find your soulmate …. to start over …. to focus on your own health …. to do something you love …. to put yourself first for a change …. to be you, the REAL YOU!

Your life is waiting…. Are you ready to make a change?

Are you ready to go beyond your horizons, and begin this beautiful journey that is YOUR LIFE?

IF NOT NOW, WHEN?
How much longer are you willing to wait?
Where would you like to be 5, 10 or 20 years from today?
What would you like to accomplish?
How would you like to FEEL?
You have two choices:

You can continue to struggle and NOT get what you want. Or you can do it the EASY way — have a mentor support you, and help you achieve your goals. I’m asking you to make a DECISION for yourself today.

One decision can change your life, and change generations to come.

“And the day came when the risk to remain closed in a bud was
more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
— Anais Nin

Is it time for YOU to blossom? The choice is yours, and the time is NOW!

Stop Pleasing Everybody and Start Creating a Self-Loving, Authentic and Joyful Life for You!

I can help you do that. The question is: Are you ready?

If you are READY and WILLING to invest in yourself and your future, I’d like to offer you a complimentary 30-min Initial Consultation by phone (or by Skype, if you live outside of the US).This is NOT a sample coaching session. This is a consultation to explore if we are a good fit for coaching.

During our conversation, you will get clarity about your goals, your challenges and I will point you to the next step you can take. So, even if we end up not working together, it will be extremely valuable for you to have a consultation with me.

I have a limited number of Initial Consultation openings each month. To apply for your consultation, simply click on the “Apply Now” button below to schedule your appointment online.

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What Can You Expect from Working With Me?

Here a some typical results my private coaching clients have shared:

  • Become more resilient to stress, adversity and setbacks
  • Create more inner peace & work-life balance in your professional & personal life
  • Continue to achieve AND maintain high-level success
  • Feel a strong sense of achievement, purpose, peace of mind and inner fulfillment
  • Maintain high performance without stress, anxiety and exhaustion
  • Finally FEEL confident, competent and proud of your own achievements WITHOUT feeling like a fraud
  • Prioritize and be able to take care of what matters most to you
  • Stop letting fears, stress, insecurity and self-sabotage keep you from achieving your goals
  • Be more assertive and create healthy boundaries and healthy relationships at work and at home
  • Embrace your unique beauty and feel comfortable in your own skin
  • Love, Accept and Nurture yourself WITHOUT guilt, so you’ll have better health & emotional well-being
  • Create a RICHER life with a deep sense of joy, purpose and fulfillment

But, don’t just take my words. Here’s what my clients say about me, in their own words: CLICK HERE

 

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