Do You Long for True Inner Confidence and Peace
No Matter What’s Going on “Out There”?
From the desk of Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC
 If you ask 100 people who have met me, what impressed them the most about me, I bet 90% would say I exude peace, despite whatever is happening around me. They would say there’s this quiet confidence about me. |
| However, can I share an important secret with you? |
| Years ago, I was stressed out all the time. |
| It wasn’t because I was a former registered nurse. It wasn’t because I was taking care of many terminal cancer patients. It wasn’t because I was commuting 3 hours every day to work. It wasn’t because I was taking care of a newborn while working full-time. I could deal with all that. |
| Want to know the REAL reason I was stressed? |
| There was a force that had a greater power over me. There was Invisible Chaos that I grew up with that ran so deep and created a stress that governed so much of my life … |
| I was born and raised in Taiwan. Now, the first thing you need to know about my culture is that sons are strongly preferred over daughters, and that honoring your parents, your family and your tradition is the of the utmost importance. |
 Hueina Su and Jack Canfield, best-selling author of Chicken Soup for the Soul My family has four generations of doctors and nurses. My father is the eldest son in his family, and I am the eldest child in mine. Needless to say, my parents were hoping for a son to inherit my father’s medical practice. When I was born, my parents were excited for their first child, but my grandparents were outright disappointed. When my two younger sisters were born, the situation got worse. My parents are very loving and overprotective parents for us, however, they also never hide their longing for a son and the regret of not having one. Not having a son became the source of many conflicts and problems in my family. |
| As a young child, I was often told that I was “the substitute son”. To my father, he meant that he had very high expectations for me. But to me, I internalized it as I would never be good enough for him, because I was not a son. |
| I felt that I had to try extra hard for my parents’ love and approval, because being myself was simply not good enough. |
| Being a daughter of a small town doctor means that everyone knew me as Dr. Su’s daughter. I was constantly reminded that everyone was watching my every move, and I should be mindful of my role and responsibility to honor my family. To my parents, nothing less than straight A was acceptable. To carry my family name and honor was tremendous pressure. |
| I felt like a fish in a small fish bowl, and my life was in plain sight for everyone to see and criticize. |
| The glass on the fish bowl magnified every little flaw I had, and I had nowhere to hide. Talk about stress! |
| Even though I was a straight A student and excelled at everything I did, I felt extremely insecure and self-conscious. I had tremendous fears of failure, rejection and judgment. |
| To make the matters worse, my mom, out of good intention to keep me away from boys, told me that for a girl to find a good husband (and that’s THE most important goal for a girl), she must either be beautiful, has a well-off family, or has good education. Mom said, “Hueina, you are not pretty, and we are not rich, so you’d better study hard.” |
| Of course, I totally believed her. |
| You see, when you buy into a certain belief, you will find all the evidence to support that. The early onset of severe acne and the fact that I didn’t have the coveted porcelain skin or shiny black hair only reinforced my belief that I was not pretty. |
| In fact, I believed that I was not pretty for twenty some years, until I realized that I am actually beautiful. |
| So study hard I did. I was a straight A student and excelled in everything I did. Mom’s tactic kept me from boys, however, she probably never imagined how much trouble and heartbreaks I’d have to pay for my low self-esteem and limiting beliefs. In fact, I was on the brink of suicide many times because I just couldn’t deal with the stress and emotional pains from both academic pressure and failed relationships. |
| I became an over-achiever, perfectionist and people-pleaser, because my self-worth was totally attached to my achievements and being liked. |
| My relationships were a mess! I kept attracting men who did not respect and appreciate me. I suffered from tremendous emotional pain and years of depression from many failed relationships. |
| In fact, I was on the brink of suicide at one point. |
 Hueina Su and Michael Port, New York Times best-selling author of The Think Big Manifesto In the meantime, since as young as I could remember, I was told that I must become a medical doctor and follow my family’s tradition, and that was the only way. I struggled with it when I realized that medicine was not my passion nor my gift. I wanted to be a writer but was told that I would most likely starve. Long story short, I became a nurse instead of following my dream. I was a good nurse, but I knew there was something more that I wanted. Eventually, I decided to follow my dream and moved to the U.S. for graduate study. Moving to a foreign country with a totally different culture and language takes tremendous courage. Both my parents and I had to take a giant leap of faith and a lot of risks. |
| Every time I reinvented myself, I was following my passion and taking a leap of faith. It’s not easy to take risks and make big changes. But, when you are following your heart, it’s SO worth it! |
| I finished my master’s degree, and later on became a certified life coach. For more than 20 years I have thrived in many careers including nursing, counseling, consulting, education, nonprofit management, speaking, training, and small business. |
| Over the years, through my own trials and errors, diligent studies on my spiritual journey, and with the help of great mentors and coaches, I have learned how to tame my Invisible Chaos, and created much happiness and success in my life. |
 Hueina Su guest apperance on TV After years of suffering from men who didn’t respect or appreciate me, I now have a beautiful family. My husband and I have been married for 16 years. He loves and appreciates me as who I am, and supports me 100% in pursuing my dreams. My daughter is starting high school and my son is starting middle school this year. They are both beautiful souls and such JOY in my life! |
| I have healed my relationship with my parents too. We are much closer than before. |
| After I learned to love and accept myself, and stopped trying to get my parents’ approval, they actually started to praise me and told me they are proud of me. |
 Hueina & her fellow Black Belt women When I was 35, I started martial arts training. Within 3 years, I earned my Black Belt along with several gold medals from state and regional championships. Martial arts training helped me tremendously in connecting with who I truly am and see that I am much stronger than I thought. |
| I now know that I am intelligent, beautiful, strong, and powerful. |
 Hueina Su and Marci Shimoff, New York Times best-selling author of Happy for No Reason I became a certified life coach, keynote speaker and realized my childhood dream of being a best-selling author. In fact, my book Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others became #1 Bestseller on Amazon.com. I’m no longer that painfully shy girl who was insecure, heartbroken and depressed. Instead of hiding in the back of room, I now travel the country to give keynotes and present Teleseminars to a global audience. I’m a recognized expert featured in national magazines, TV and radio shows. |
| I’m much more confident and happier. Most importantly, after years of rejecting and fighting with my self, I’m finally at peace with who I am. |
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| My Chinese name Hueina consists of two characters which means wisdom and beauty. My grandfather gave me that name which clearly expressed his expectation for me. I feel like I’ve finally become who I’m meant to be. Life flows with ease and meaning. |
| Recently, it came to my attention that many women, suffer from the same Invisible Chaos that I’ve struggled with, and it causes them tremendous amount of stress, anxiety, insecurity, self-sabotage and emotional pain. |
| I have reverse-engineered what I had to do to tame my own Invisible Chaos and created the inner peace, joy and success in my life. |
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And I’m on a mission to help other women – to serve you – to do the same.
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So, who is Hueina Su?
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 Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC is a renowned expert in helping people find the missing peace in their stressful lives. She is a keynote speaker, Certified Empowerment Coach, founder of Beyond Horizon Coaching, the best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others and the upcoming Invisible Chaos: Why Most People Never Overcome Stress and How to Rewrite Your Inner Blog for Happiness. |
| She started her first career as an RN (registered nurse), and has more than 20 years of experience in nursing, counseling, coaching, training, education, consulting, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. Hueina specializes in helping medical professionals and other women Nurturers to go beyond their horizons, re-arrange their lives to reduce stress, create balance and inner peace, and live the life they truly desire. |
 Hueina holds a Master of Science in Family Studies from University of Maryland, and a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from National Taiwan University. Hueina received her Certified Empowerment Coach (CEC) certification from the Institute for Professional Empowerment Coaching (iPEC Coaching), which is accredited by International Coach Federation (ICF) and one of the world’s most prestigious coaching schools. Hueina is an adjunct faculty at the County College of Morris (NJ) and Dartmouth College (NH), offering continuing education courses for nurses. She is personally trained by Terri Levine, PhD, Mater Certified Coach, The Guru of Coaching and founder of Comprehensive Coaching U. Other training includes Landmark Forum, Landmark Advanced Course, Landmark Self Expression and Leadership Program (SELP), Jack Canfield’s Success Principles Coaching Program, Peak Potentials training, Guided Imagery, Clinical Aromatherapy. |
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Hueina defines her life purpose as “to create, inspire and enjoy life”. Coaching is a natural integration of her education, professional & personal experience, and life purpose. Born and raised in Taiwan, she graciously blends her Western education and Eastern philosophy in coaching and everything she does. She has lived and traveled extensively in Asia and U.S., which enhances her natural ability to understand, appreciate and work with people from different backgrounds. |
| Since she has lived in many places (her record was living in 4 states in 6 calendar years), and thrived in many professions, Hueina is extremely adaptable to change and great at reinventing herself. All these life experiences became incredible assets in her coaching, and her clients benefit greatly. |
 Hueina Su feature article in Natural Health magazine (click on image to read) With her extensive personal and professional experiences as a Nurturer, Hueina understands deeply about stress and the challenges that women Nurturers face every day. Brought up in a family of 4 generations of doctors and nurses, and having been a nurse herself, she knows first-hand the stressful lives they lead. She had experienced and overcome Nurturing Burnout herself as an RN caring for terminal cancer patients, and again as a full-time counselor, commuting 3 hours everyday, while caring for her newborn baby. She has since successfully made the transitions from full-time working mother, to stay-at-home mom, to an entrepreneur and professional life coach. |
| It is her passion and personal mission to empower other women Nurturers to practice Intensive Self-Care, create work-life balance, restore joy and inner peace, and create the life they truly desire. By changing the lives of Nurturers, she intends to empower these women as role models for the next-generation women, and impact all the lives they will touch for generations to come. |
RISK more than others think is safe. CARE more than others think is wise. DREAM more than others think is practical. EXPECT more than others think is possible. – Cadet maxim, U.S. Military Academy, West Point |
| Hueina lives with her husband of 16 years and their two beautiful children (age 14 and 12) in New Jersey, USA. In her spare time, she enjoys freelance photography, reading, writing, music, fencing, movies, gardening, travel, yoga, hanging out with friends and family, volunteering at her children’s schools and charity, and training in martial arts (Tae Kwon Do, Tai Chi Sword, Kung Fu and Wushu). She holds a Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do, competed and won multiple gold & silver medals in Tae Kwon Do, Kung Fu and Tai Chi Sword, in state and regional tournaments. |
| One of her personal goals is to become a grandma with lots of inspiring and adventurous stories to tell. She is working on that every day. |
- iPEC Certified Empowerment Coach
- International Coach Federation Member
