How I Got My 4-Day Birthday Celebration

This past week was amazing for me. First of all, Spring is officially here. The Earth is awakening and so am I. Big change is on the horizon. Can you feel that?

Second of all, Thursday was my birthday. It’s become sort of a tradition for me, to spend a day at a spa for my birthday. This year was no exception. I LOVE getting pampered, and spending time alone reflecting about my life in the Quiet Room.

I’m so grateful for all the friends, family and colleagues who sent me wonderful birthday wishes, by greeting cards, phone calls, emails and on Facebook. I appreciate YOU!!

This year I got a special 4-day birthday celebration, including the spa day. No, I didn’t plan for it to happen this way, and that’s why it was extra special. Curious? Let me tell you how it happened.

My coaches mastermind group planned to watch Dr. Wayne Dyer’s new movie “The Shift”, and they happened to pick the night before my birthday. The movie was amazing and my mastermind pals gave me a surprise birthday celebration too! My favorite spiritual teacher and girlfriends on the same night – what’s not to like?!! The birthday cake was just gravy (actually it was a yummy chocolate cake, but you know what I mean.)

On my actual birthday, I followed my “birthday tradition” of spending a day at the spa. I LOVE getting pampered, and spending some time alone reflecting about my life in the Quiet Room. This year I got an 8:30 AM appointment for massage, because that was the only time available with my favorite massage therapist on that day. If you know me, you know I’m not a morning person at all. I didn’t like the idea of having to get up early for a spa day, but, it was worth it. When I got there, I was the only person at the steam shower, and again at the Quiet Room. I got to savor my cappuccino and fresh fruits in complete silence. It’s as if I’ve got the ENTIRE spa to myself. Ah, it felt FABULOUS! By the time I finished my massage, the Quiet Room was no longer quiet, which made me appreciate my quiet moment even more.

The next day (Friday), my little sister came from NY to take me out for lunch. We haven’t seen each other for months! We’re both busy with our work and family (she has 3 kids and I have two). I know how busy she and her husband are, and her kids are involved with so many after-school activities. Even though this is the closest we’ve ever lived from each other, it just seems like it’s very difficult to find time to get our families together. Needless to say, I’m SO happy that she made a point to come out to celebrate my birthday with me!! We got a couple hours of sister time over lobster salad, wine and window shopping at the mall. As it turned out, her office in NYC is not that far from another mall in NJ, which is a perfect mid-point for us to meet. Why didn’t I think of that before? I’ve been so fixated on getting our two families together that I didn’t see the possibility of spending alone time with my sister. Now that our kids are a little older and we both have some flexibility in our work schedule, we could meet for lunch on weekdays. Getting our two families together will still take some advance planning, but the two of us will hopefully see each other more often. Yay for more sister time!!

I took my children out for dinner on my birthday, but my husband couldn’t join us. We were planning to have my birthday cake after he came home, but, the kids fell asleep before he did. Friday night my daughter was out with her friends, so we couldn’t have the cake either. To be honest, I was a little bummed. Then Saturday, my husband saved the day by suggesting that we check out a restaurant we’ve never been to, and have my birthday cake there. Finally I had an “official” birthday celebration with my family, and it was well worth the wait. 😀

Now you know how I ended up with a 4-day birthday celebration. As I said, I didn’t plan for it to happen this way, but, everything happened better than I could have planned. I was again reminded that, when things don’t go “my way”, there might be a better plan for me. I also learned that sometimes it takes thinking out of the box to get what I want.

How do you celebrate your birthday? What do you do to nurture yourself on your birthday (and every day)? You know, I used to feel guilty for treating myself to a spa day, or anything just for ME. Now I’m older and wiser. Haha! But, seriously, if you feel guilty about nurturing yourself, perhaps you can look at Intensive Self-Care from a different perspective.

For me, as a business owner, a solopreneur, I know how important it is to take good care of myself. After all, my business will not exist without me. I treat my annual birthday spa day not as an unnecessary expense or selfish luxury. I treat it as an important business investment.

Even if you are not a business owner, your well-being is critical for your personal success and the well-being of your loved ones. And Intensive Self-Care is not just about taking care of yourself physically or pampering treatments. It includes nurturing yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Intensive Self-Care is not a luxury, or being selfish. It’s an essential practice for your long-term well-being and success. It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask FIRST, so you can take better care of others.

How can you look at self-care from a different perspective, so you can practice Intensive Self-Care without guilt? What self-care practices can you incorporate into your daily life? For more ideas, download your FREE Intensive Self-Care Kit.

Take good care of yourself, because you are irreplaceable!

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Celebrate You: The Leading Lady of Your Show

Today is my birthday. It’s become sort of a tradition for me, to spend a day at a spa, to celebrate my birthday. This year is no exception. I’m excited about getting pampered, and spending some time alone reflecting about my life in the Quiet Room.

Before I go, I thought it’s a good fit to share with you an article I wrote a while ago, called Celebrating You: The Leading Lady of Your Show. Enjoy!

© Copyright 2007 Hueina Su
Most people think about Valentine’s Day, when they think about the month of February. It’s important to celebrate your loved ones, and love in general. However, while you are busy planning a special evening with your special someone, I would like to remind you to celebrate YOU — the most important (but often neglected) person in YOUR life.

Whenever I asked the question “Who is the most important person in your life?” My clients and workshop participants always answered “my husband/wife, my kids, my parents”, etc.

NOT ONCE has someone answered “Me” or “Myself”.

NOT ONCE.

I often joked that “If your answer is anyone but yourself, then you need to come see me ASAP!”

Think about it: What would your life be without YOU?

What would your loved ones’ life be, without a healthy, happy and vibrant YOU?

When my clients said to me “But the show must go on”, I asked “Whose show are you talking about?” I told them, “You may not realize this, but YOU are the Leading Lady of your show, the show that’s Your Life“.

Every single one of us is the Leading Lady (or Man) of our own life.

Now, let me make myself clear. This is NOT about being ego-maniac or narcissistic. It’s about self love, the greatest love of all. (Remember that Whitney Houston song? Now that I mentioned it, I bet you can’t get that song out of your head now, can ya?)

“But, ….”

I know, there’s a big BUT coming up right at this moment….

You probably have convincing reasons why you are not the most important person in your life, and why you cannot afford to put your self-care as top priority.

As a professional life coach, consultant and mother of two, over the years I’ve heard many, many legitimate reasons as well as excuses (and the limiting beliefs behind them), from my clients, my friends, and my family. I have experienced many similar challenges myself, in my previous roles as a nurse, counselor, full-time stay-at-home mom, full-time working mom, small business owner, etc. Believe me, I know. It’s not easy.

It’s especially hard when you have some limiting beliefs around the issue of self love, self esteem and self-care. You know the limiting beliefs I’m talking about — “I can’t afford it”, “I’m not worthy enough”, “I don’t deserve it”, “I must take care of everyone else first (or else)”, “If I say no, people won’t love/like me any more”, etc. etc. etc.

Does it ring a bell?

These limiting beliefs took years to form, and it will take some time and some hard work to overcome them. But, it’s not impossible. When you can break free from these limiting beliefs, you will finally be free to be your authentic self, and free to create the life you truly desire. If you need some coaching around these issues, I’d be happy to help you.

Even when you are still chained to your limiting beliefs, you can still make a conscious choice, right now, to love and accept yourself, and to treat yourself with respect and some much needed TLC.

Remember, you are the Leading Lady and director of your own show. You are in charge and fully responsible for how your show turns out to be. If your show is competing for the Academy of Life Award, which categories will it be nominated? Which awards will you win?

This Valentine’s Day, make a point to celebrate YOU, honor yourself, and give yourself the LOVE and star treatment you truly deserve.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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New Jersey Life Coach and Author Hueina Su to Speak as an Expert Panelist at Women’s Leadership Summit

New Jersey Life Coach and Author Hueina Su is invited as an expert panelist to speak at the Women’s Leadership Summit on Thursday March 18, 2010 at Crown Plaza Somerset, New Jersey.

DENVILLE, NJ — March 14, 2010 – The roles of women have evolved so much in the past one hundred years. In celebrating 100 years of establishment, Middlesex County Regional Chamber of Commerce is hosting a Women’s Leadership Summit to honor women’s changing roles at home, in the workplace, and in the community.

New Jersey life coach and author Hueina Su is invited to speak as an expert panelist in the Breakfast Panel Discussion. “I’m so honored to be selected as an expert panelist to share my life-changing events that took me on many different paths with struggles, hardship and success,” says Su, an internationally known keynote speaker, success coach and the author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. Su is the president and founder of Beyond Horizon Coaching based in Denville, New Jersey.

Su says women have taken on so many different challenging roles, particularly in the past decades. Women now have more presence and representation in business, community, corporate world, and political stage. “It’s my mission to reach and empower one million women nurturers through my book, speaking, and coaching programs,” Su says.

The women’s leadership summit brings together business professionals not only in the Middlesex County region, but also in the entire state. The event will be held at Crown Plaza Somerset, 110 Davidson Avenue, Somerset, New Jersey on Thursday, March 18 from 8:30 am to 4:00 pm. For more information about the event, email info@mcrcc.org or call 732-745-8098.

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, The Nurturer’s CoachTM, is a renowned expert in helping people restore the missing peace and balance in their stressful lives.  Su is a professional keynote speaker, certified life coach, and author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. She is the creator of Rx for BalanceTM, The Coaching OasisTM, and Nurture and Grow RichTM programs.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for work-life balance, stress management, and Intensive Self-Care through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s coaching, keynote speaking and training services, visit www.HueinaSu.com or www.youtube.com/watch?v=3InuKNxfZNY

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Note: Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

She is available for interviews and can provide a list of tips and other articles. Call 973-664-0446 or email Hueina@BeyondHorizonCoaching.com.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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New Jersey Life Coach Hueina Su to Speak on Nurture and Grow Rich for a Sustainable Business Success

Life Coach and Author Hueina Su, President of Denville-based Beyond Horizon Coaching, will speak at Holistic Mentorship Network Meeting titled “Nurture and Growth Rich: 3 Keys to Sustainable Business Success” on Tuesday March 16, 2010 at 7:30 pm. The meeting will take place at Brookside Community Church, Brookside, New Jersey.

DENVILLE, NJ — March 10, 2010 — Many small business owners, entrepreneurs and professionals suffer from stress and overwhelming situations. They may not realize the devastating effects on their business bottom line and wealth attraction.

“All too often, they do not have the right success mindset, are filled with self-doubts, fears and undeserving mentality and unaware of their self-sabotaging behaviors. Among many other reasons why they do not succeed are lack of clarity, motivation, solid action plan, execution and ongoing support,” says Hueina Su, an internationally known keynote speaker, success coach and the author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. Su is the president and founder of Beyond Horizon Coaching based in Denville, New Jersey.

Su will speak at Holistic Mentorship Network Morris Chapter Meeting titled “Nuture and Growth Rich: 3 Keys to Sustainable Business Success.”

In this presentation, the participants will learn:
– How to recognize the signs & consequences of chronic stress and Self-Care Deficiency Syndrome
– The importance of Intensive Self-Care and daily practices to nurture yourself
– How to cope with entrepreneurial overwhelm
– 3 Keys to building a sustainable, thriving business and still have a life
– Essential principles and actionable strategies for creating the life balance that works for you

This meeting will be held at Brookside Community Church, 8 East Main Street, Brookside (Mendham Townsip), New Jersey on Tuesday, March 16 from 7:30 pm to 9:00 pm. To register, contact Michelle Zanoni by calling 201-400-4669.

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching

Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, The Nurturer’s CoachTM, is a renowned expert in helping people restore the missing peace and balance in their stressful lives.  Su is a professional keynote speaker, certified life coach, and author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. She is the creator of Rx for BalanceTM, The Coaching OasisTM, and Nurture and Grow RichTM programs.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for work-life balance, stress management, and Intensive Self-Care through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s coaching, keynote speaking and training services, visit www.HueinaSu.com or www.youtube.com/watch?v=3InuKNxfZNY

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Note: Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos www.HueinaSu.com/media-room.

She is available for interviews and can provide a list of tips and other articles. Call 973-664-0446 or email Hueina@BeyondHorizonCoaching.com.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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In the News: Author Hueina Su Featured in Natural Health Magazine

More Than Good Intentions

Author and life coach Hueina Su, President of Denville-based Beyond Horizon Coaching, is featured in the February 2010 issue of Natural Health Magazine, in an article titled Good Intentions.

Hueina Su featured in Natural Health Magazine

Hueina Su featured in Natural Health Magazine

DENVILLE, NJ — February 24, 2010 – Tired of setting New Year’s Resolutions — and beating yourself up when you’ve lost sight of them come March? This year can be different. The secret: Set New Year’s intentions, not resolutions. “Few of us are able to stick to our resolutions because we remember previous attempts at self-improvement, and it brings up negative thoughts and emotions,” says Hueina Su, author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Souls: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others and president of Denville-based Beyond Horizon Coaching.

Su is featured in a two-page spread article titled Good Intentions, in the February 2010 issue of Natural Health magazine. Even though the article is titled Good Intentions, Su stresses, “It takes more than good intentions to achieve your goals.” In this exclusive interview with Natural Health magazine, Su offers the following strategies to achieve your 2010 goals.

Focus on the positive — Instead of trying to fix a negative in your life, state your goal in a positive way. For example, instead of “I need to lose 15 pounds”, say “I will get leaner and stronger.”

Prioritize — Address your goals one at the time according to their importance. Which one will have the greatest impact on your happiness and success?

Get clear about the why — Digging for the real reason you are trying to achieve something will give your goal a more meaningful value and help you overcome potential roadblocks or setbacks.

Be specific — An action plan needs to be specific and achievable. Make a list of the necessary tasks and resources you’ll need to hit the end goal, then create an action plan for what you will do every day, breaking it down into small, doable steps.

Stay open for help — Never underestimate the power of community when it comes to achieving goals, whether it’s a workout buddy, mentor or life coach to hold you accountable and keep you motivated.

Celebrate your wins — record your efforts and your wins every day. Celebrating your successes will help you track your progress, fine-tune your action plan and stay motivated until you reach your goals.

“Working with a professional life coach is a great way to get the kind of support you need to get over the inevitable roadblocks,” say Su, “With the right mindset, action plan and support, your chance of reaching your goals this year will greatly increase.”

About Hueina Su and Beyond Horizon Coaching
Hueina Su, MS, BSN, CEC, The Nurturer’s CoachTM, is a renowned expert in helping people restore the missing peace and balance in their stressful lives. Su is a professional keynote speaker, certified life coach, and author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others. She is the creator of Rx for BalanceTM, The Coaching OasisTM, and Nurture and Grow RichTM programs.

Su is the founder and president of Beyond Horizon Coaching, a global coaching and training company, specializing in providing solutions for work-life balance, stress management, and Intensive Self-Care through personal coaching, executive coaching, teleseminars, keynote presentations, team-building training, and other wellness services.

To sign up for free stress management video e-course and learn more about Su’s coaching, keynote speaking and training services, visit www.HueinaSu.com.

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Note: Hueina Su’s full bio and additional photos are at www.hueinasu.com/media-room

She is available for interviews and can provide a list of tips and other articles. Call 973-664-0446 or email Hueina [at] BeyondHorizonCoaching.com.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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