Stop, Drop and Roll Out of Overwhelm

Do you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined

P.S. “Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others by Hueina Su, The Nurturer’s Coach. This article is adapted from the book.

When you buy Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul on April 22, 2010, you will receive dozens of BONUS gifts from Hueina and many leading experts! All details are here: http://bit.ly/NurturersSoul

P.P.S. WATCH VIDEO: Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm with Hueina Su

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.

My Radio Interview and Other October News

I have a few exciting news to share with you today.

1) Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST

First off, a time-sensitive news. I will be interviewed on Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST. My topic is Taming the Invisible Chaos. I will talk about the single most important reason why most people never overcome their stress, why conventional stress management alone does not work, what’s Invisible Chaos and the 3-R Process you can use to tame your Invisible Chaos. You can call in live or listen online. http://tobtr.com/s/721693

2) My new site is almost done! Take a sneak peak & sign up for my new video e-course http://www.HueinaSu.com

3) National Stress Prevention Month

October is National Stress Prevention Month and Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Stress and cancer are obviously related. What are you doing to prevent both? If you are stressed, make sure you read this new article on my blog The Real Root Cause of Your Stress. http://budurl.com/ye9k

Last week I was invited to “shadow” an oncologist and his staff for a day at his cancer center. The good doctor wanted me to design stress management programs for his patients and staff. I applaud his proactive approach to help his patients heal and keep his staff healthy. Research has shown that practicing relaxation techniques (such as yoga, meditation, tai chi) on a regular basis can affect the cancer-related gene expressions. In other words, if you practice relaxation techniques, even if you are genetically pre-disposed to have cancer, you will reduce your risk of these genes being “turned on” to develop cancer in your body. Something to think about!

Another new study published by Cancer Prevention Research found that breast cancer gene expression was enhanced and tumor growth increased, following social isolation. We all know the importance of social support for our emotional well-being and stress relief. This study showed that social suppport also affects our physical health.

4) Powerful Women! Powerful You! Featured in Daily Record

Which brings me to another exciting news to share. Last Friday I spoke at the first annual The Women’s Institute Conference at Bergen Community College. It was a great success and I’m honored to be part of the initial planning committee for this important women’s initiative. It’s inspiring to hear great women speakers such as Rachel Simmons (author of The Curse of The Good Girl), Barbara Frankel (Editor of DiversityInc. Magazine), as well as other workshop speakers. I also enjoyed meeting amazing women and catching up with old friends. There is much power when women gather and support one another. Do you have your own “tribe” that you can turn to for support?

One of my favorite women’s groups is the Powerful You! Women’s Netowrk Denville NJ chapter, which I co-facilitate with my good friend Christina Santiago. And guess what? We are in the news AGAIN! Our Denville chapter meeting was featured on Sunday 10/4 in the Daily Record Morris Celebs section. We have a full-page spread. This is the 3rd time we got news coverage this year. Last time we were the cover story, also in Daily Record. Look how beautiful we are!

Powerful You! is a national women’s organization dedicated to connecting and empowering women. Their mission is to empower as many women as possible to find their inner wisdom, follow their passion and live rich authentic lives. Powerful You! Women’s Network is founded upon the belief that women are powerful creators, passionate and compassionate leaders and the heart and backbone of the world’s homes and communities. The Denville chapter is one of the largest and most active chapters in New Jersey. We meet every 3rd Wednesday from 12-2 pm (next meeting October 21). For more information, please visit http://powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm. Also, check out Powerful You! Conscious Connections Tour coming to your area: http://powerfulyou.com/regionalevent

5) Fitness Seminar: 5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!

Certified Fitness Trainer Carey Yang (my husband extraordinaire) will present a Fitness Seminar titled, “5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!” Wednesday, Oct. 21 from 7:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at Panera Bread, 3056 Rt. 10 West in Denville. He will share his years of client training experience and case studies on how to reclaim your attractive, healthy, and energetic body once and for all. Admission is $15. For details and to RSVP, visit weightloss.meetup.com/1591/. Call Carey Yang at (973) 303-2424 for more information.

If you are not in NJ, no problem, visit Carey’s website & blog for excellent tips and workout videos http://www.careyforfitness.com

To Your Health,

Hueina

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.

Powerful Women, Powerful You! featured in Daily Record

Powerful You Denville NJ featured in Daily Record

We’re in the news again! The Powerful You! Women’s Netowrk Denville NJ chapter, which I co-facilitate, is featured today in the Daily Record Morris Celebs section. We have a full-page spread. This is the 3rd time we got news coverage this year. Last time we were the cover story, also in Daily Record. Look how beautiful we are!

Powerful You! is a national women’s organization dedicated to connecting and empowering women. Their mission is to empower as many women as possible to find their inner wisdom, follow their passion and live rich authentic lives. Powerful You! Women’s Network is founded upon the belief that women are powerful creators, passionate and compassionate leaders and the heart and backbone of the world’s homes and communities.

The Denville chapter is one of the largest and most active chapters in New Jersey. We meet every 3rd Wednesday from 12-2 pm. For more information visit http://powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm.

You can read about our last cover story in Daily Record, titled Find Your Inner “You” here.

About the Author: Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping people find the missing PEACE and POWER in their stressful lives. She co-stars with Jack Canfield and Marci Shimoff in the ground-breaking personal development movie The Keeper of the Keys (Dec.11). Hueina is a Mindful Wellness Expert, international keynote speaker, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, Founder & Master Coach of Beyond Horizon Coaching. What sets her apart from other experts is the 5,000 years of ancient Chinese culture and wisdom behind her. She started her first career as a RN, and has more than 23 years of experience in nursing, coaching, counseling, speaking, training, nonprofit management, sales, and small business. She is on a mission to empower one million women to nurture their true self, reclaim their Peaceful Power, and create a life of their CHOICE. For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching and products, visit www.HueinaSu.com ©Hueina Su You may reprint this article in your blog or e-zine as long as the author by-line and website information remain intact.

Powerful You Denville NJ featured in Daily Record