Stop, Drop and Roll Out of Overwhelm

Overwhelmed businesswomanDo you feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed? Are you exhausted at the end of the day?

Grace started coaching with me a few years ago. She is a dentist with two thriving dental offices, a mom of two adorable children below age six, a devoted Sunday school teacher and a loving wife. As you can imagine, it’s no small feat for her to manage her business, family life and balance everything. Before coaching with me, she often felt stressed when her life throws her a curve ball.

One time when she called me, she was overwhelmed by the constant bickering of her staff. “It’s like I’m always trying to put out fires!” She said with a sigh, “Sometimes I feel like I’m on fire too!” I jokingly replied, “If you are on fire, perhaps you should stop, drop and roll.” And we both laughed.

That got me thinking. When my clients feel overwhelmed and stressed, their survival instinct is to try to “put out the fire” by frantically working harder and faster, hoping to cross off more items from their ever-growing to-do list. They bury themselves in the tasks, forego “non-essential” activity such as self-care and leisure time with friends and family… until they either successfully resolve the crisis, or run themselves down. If you have come down with a nasty flu or other illnesses after completing a major project, you know what I’m talking about.

So, what can you do instead? I suggest that you try my STOP, DROP and ROLL approach.

STOP
When you are stressed and overwhelmed, stop, and take stock of the situation. Assess your stress level and acknowledge your feelings of overwhelm. This is important, since suppressed emotions don’t go away. They only get buried in your body and will show up someday as a physical dis-ease.

Identify the source of your stress. Is it from external circumstances (such as job, relationship, finance, illness), or internal sources (such as unrealistic expectations or perfectionism)? Evaluate your situation carefully. What are the things you can control? What’s out of your control? What are you willing to let go and release in order to have peace?

Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and center yourself. This is a perfect time to take a break for Intensive Self-Care. Do something to pamper your body, mind and spirit.

DROP
Now that you are calm, take a look at your to-do list. Use The 3-D Principle (Do it, Delegate it, Dump it) to assess each and every task on your list. Dump whatever is not aligned with your long-term goals and core values. Delegate the ones that can be done by others, and only perform the tasks that are aligned with your goals, core values, or can only be done by you.

ROLL
Now that you have pared down your to-do list, let’s roll out an action plan to get things done! I suggest you break down each task on your to-do list to the smallest action step possible. This will give you a flowchart of action steps and a more accurate estimate of time needed to complete each task. Once you have all the action steps determined and know how much time you need, plug them into your calendar.

Occasionally, things don’t go as planned. In order to achieve your goal without stressing yourself out, you need to be willing to roll with the punches. Be flexible about how things get done. When you are totally open and detached from the outcome, sometimes things work out in a way that you would never have imagined

P.S. Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm” is key #1 in Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others by Hueina Su, The Nurturer’s Coach. This article is adapted from the book.

When you buy Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul on April 22, 2010, you will receive dozens of BONUS gifts from Hueina and many leading experts! All details are here: bit.ly/NurturersSoul

P.P.S. WATCH VIDEO: Stop, Drop & Roll Out of Overwhelm with Hueina Su

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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My Radio Interview and Other October News

I have a few exciting news to share with you today.

1) Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST

First off, a time-sensitive news. I will be interviewed on Entrepreneur’s Talk radio show, Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 pm EST. My topic is Taming the Invisible Chaos. I will talk about the single most important reason why most people never overcome their stress, why conventional stress management alone does not work, what’s Invisible Chaos and the 3-R Process you can use to tame your Invisible Chaos. You can call in live or listen online. tobtr.com/s/721693


2) My new site is almost done! Take a sneak peak & sign up for my new video e-course www.HueinaSu.com


3) National Stress Prevention Month

October is National Stress Prevention Month and Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Stress and cancer are obviously related. What are you doing to prevent both? If you are stressed, make sure you read this new article on my blog The Real Root Cause of Your Stress. budurl.com/ye9k

Last week I was invited to “shadow” an oncologist and his staff for a day at his cancer center. The good doctor wanted me to design stress management programs for his patients and staff. I applaud his proactive approach to help his patients heal and keep his staff healthy. Research has shown that practicing relaxation techniques (such as yoga, meditation, tai chi) on a regular basis can affect the cancer-related gene expressions. In other words, if you practice relaxation techniques, even if you are genetically pre-disposed to have cancer, you will reduce your risk of these genes being “turned on” to develop cancer in your body. Something to think about!

Another new study published by Cancer Prevention Research found that breast cancer gene expression was enhanced and tumor growth increased, following social isolation. We all know the importance of social support for our emotional well-being and stress relief. This study showed that social suppport also affects our physical health.

4) Powerful Women! Powerful You! Featured in Daily Record

Which brings me to another exciting news to share. Last Friday I spoke at the first annual The Women’s Institute Conference at Bergen Community College. It was a great success and I’m honored to be part of the initial planning committee for this important women’s initiative. It’s inspiring to hear great women speakers such as Rachel Simmons (author of The Curse of The Good Girl), Barbara Frankel (Editor of DiversityInc. Magazine), as well as other workshop speakers. I also enjoyed meeting amazing women and catching up with old friends. There is much power when women gather and support one another. Do you have your own “tribe” that you can turn to for support?

One of my favorite women’s groups is the Powerful You! Women’s Netowrk Denville NJ chapter, which I co-facilitate with my good friend Christina Santiago. And guess what? We are in the news AGAIN! Our Denville chapter meeting was featured on Sunday 10/4 in the Daily Record Morris Celebs section. We have a full-page spread. This is the 3rd time we got news coverage this year. Last time we were the cover story, also in Daily Record. Look how beautiful we are! :)

Powerful You Denville NJ featured in Daily Record

Powerful You! is a national women’s organization dedicated to connecting and empowering women. Their mission is to empower as many women as possible to find their inner wisdom, follow their passion and live rich authentic lives. Powerful You! Women’s Network is founded upon the belief that women are powerful creators, passionate and compassionate leaders and the heart and backbone of the world’s homes and communities. The Denville chapter is one of the largest and most active chapters in New Jersey. We meet every 3rd Wednesday from 12-2 pm (next meeting October 21). For more information, please visit powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm. Also, check out Powerful You! Conscious Connections Tour coming to your area: powerfulyou.com/regionalevent


5) Fitness Seminar: 5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!

Certified Fitness Trainer Carey Yang (my husband extraordinaire) will present a Fitness Seminar titled, “5 Keys to Transforming Your Body in Record Time!” Wednesday, Oct. 21 from 7:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at Panera Bread, 3056 Rt. 10 West in Denville. He will share his years of client training experience and case studies on how to reclaim your attractive, healthy, and energetic body once and for all. Admission is $15. For details and to RSVP, visit weightloss.meetup.com/1591/. Call Carey Yang at (973) 303-2424 for more information.

If you are not in NJ, no problem, visit Carey’s website & blog for excellent tips and workout videos www.careyforfitness.com

To Your Health,

Hueina

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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Powerful Women, Powerful You! featured in Daily Record

Powerful You Denville NJ featured in Daily Record

Powerful You Denville NJ featured in Daily Record

We’re in the news again! The Powerful You! Women’s Netowrk Denville NJ chapter, which I co-facilitate, is featured today in the Daily Record Morris Celebs section. We have a full-page spread. This is the 3rd time we got news coverage this year. Last time we were the cover story, also in Daily Record. Look how beautiful we are! :)

Powerful You! is a national women’s organization dedicated to connecting and empowering women. Their mission is to empower as many women as possible to find their inner wisdom, follow their passion and live rich authentic lives. Powerful You! Women’s Network is founded upon the belief that women are powerful creators, passionate and compassionate leaders and the heart and backbone of the world’s homes and communities.

The Denville chapter is one of the largest and most active chapters in New Jersey. We meet every 3rd Wednesday from 12-2 pm. For more information visit powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm.

You can read about our last cover story in Daily Record, titled Find Your Inner “You” here.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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The Real Root Cause of Your Stress

j0426560Have you ever wondered why you could never overcome your stress?

Granted, we live in a world where chaos abounds. Stress seems to be inevitable and inescapable for most modern men and women. However, I believe that most people cannot overcome their stress because they are unaware, or have not taken the necessary steps to address the real root cause of their stress.

When it comes to stress, most people focus on the external stressors such as stress from job, finance, health, traffic, marriage, other relationships, etc. However, there are other forces that affect your level of stress, and in many cases, these invisible forces are the root cause of your stress. I call these forces the Invisible Chaos. They are invisible like electricity, but you can experience their effects. While it is important to learn how to manage the external sources of stress, it’s even more important to address the underlying, invisible root cause of your stress. Otherwise, you won’t have long-lasting stress relief.

What happens is, most people try to reduce these external stressors, without really addressing the underlying root cause of their stress. It’s as if putting on a band-aid when you have an infection. Not only will this not treat the infection, it will even cause more problems due to delay of treatment.

My recent stress management research validated this. Out of all the survey participants, 59.5% has the stress level of 6 or up (based on a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 being the most stressed), and about 10% has the stress level of 9 or 10. When asked how effective their current stress management methods are, 71.7% said their methods are somewhat effective but only provide temporary relief. It’s worth noting that 13.2% said their methods are not effective at all, and even cause more problems for them. When I cross-reference these participants’ stress management methods, they use unhealthy coping behaviors such as denial, procrastination, emotional eating, smoking, drinking, temper tantrums, gambling, drugs. No wonder they end up with more problems! Can you relate?

If you have tried many strategies to relieve your stress with little or no long-lasting relief, you might not be addressing the root cause of your stress, which very likely is one or more of the 8 Invisible Chaos that I have identified. Check out this video e-course I have designed for you, so you can become aware of your own Invisible Chaos and learn how to finally find lasting inner peace, balance and joy in your life.

About Hueina Su
Hueina Su is an internationally recognized expert in helping heart-centered, successful but exhausted high-achieving professional women break The Good Girl Spell, and find the missing PEACE and BALANCE in their stressful lives. She is an international keynote speaker, certified executive and life coach, best-selling author of Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul: 7 Keys to Nurture Yourself While Caring for Others, and a featured expert in the award-winning transformational movie The Keeper of the Keys along with Jack Canfield, John Gray and Marci Shimoff.

For more information about Hueina’s speaking, coaching, book and other products, visit www.HueinaSu.com

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